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Re: Bush and the Gay Marriage Issue

Haltickling said:
I agree with a lot of your opinions you vocalized in this thread, Jim, but not with this one:

There is no single person in this world who is unbiased or un-indoctrinated. Even a freshly born baby has been influenced by her mother's behaviour during the pregnancy. Add all the experiences throughout childhood and adolescence, education given by parents, school, TV, books, other media, all the emotional influence when spending time with friends, neighbors, lovers, colleagues. Add all that, and you'll see a biased and indoctrinated person.

Good point Hal and a very true one. There isn't a single person who hasn't been influenced from "outside", in the world. I think when it comes to what I said, it's a case of having to really free your heart and allowing others to do the same. Only when you can take all opinions and suppositions into consideration and look at the causes and origins of each, can you you really open your conscience.
 
To execmail

I am definitely NOT supporting pedophilia here. The relationships I'm talking about are between two CONSENTING people of mental and emotional maturity. Pedophilia has been found in many studies to be something over which the incredibly unfortunate sufferers of it have no control. This does not mean that they shouldn't be able to control their actions, but they did not choose to view children in this horrible way. I am not defending in any way that behavior, or any type of rape or anything like that. I also agree with you that sexuality is not just genetic. The whole nature or nurture question is silly to me, nothing is black and white like that, I believe there is absolutely a mix.

-Bell :cool2:
 
Re: Big Jim/Ticklebell...

execmail77 said:
But, we're left needing to answer this question: if one's sexuality is biological, including with regards to gender, does it not also reason that the sexuality of one attracted to children is also biologically-based, and thus is not a "wrong" "choice" either?

I'm honestly NOT prepared to accept that conclusion, yet I'm left with no other reasonable explanation. And let's be sure to be clear that we're talking only about one's sexual PREFERENCES here, not one's sexual BEHAVIOR, which is a whole different discussion-- yes, I believe heterosexuals can BEHAVE "wrongly" too.

But this is THE sticking point I've yet to overcome in the debate over gay marriage, etc: if our culture can draw the one line, in a biological matter, why not the other line if they so choose?

What say you?

Sorry if I'm interupting here, but I gotta chuck my tuppence worth into this one.

Exec I'm assuming you're not actually trying to be sensible here, but rather a Devil's advocate? There is no way, shape or form that anyone can compare a gay relationship between two emotionally developed and responsible adults and the relationship between a paedophile and an 8 year old girl. To even suggest that there is a link is utter lunacy.

The two gay guys (or girls) can both make a logical and emotionally balanced choice about the relationship, the 8 year old girl has none, or very little. The responsibility lies entirely with the adult in this case.

I actually feel a lot of sympathy for those imbued with paedophilic tendencies, because I can't imagine a worse curse to be laid on someone. But urge or not, there is always CHOICE on the part of the adult. Paedophiles who let themselves believe that it is a kind of "special love" are deluding themselves and horribly damaging the child. Everyone has a cross or crosses to bear in this life and it's all up to us to carry them as best WE can and not inflict them on anyone else. This is especially so for people who are sexually attracted towards children.

How would I solve this? Well for a start the whole public attitude needs to change. The best way we can eradicate child abuse is to openly acknowledge that this attraction irrevocably exists in some people. We have to acknowledge that having these desires is not wrong, bad or evil; as there is no way of choosing one's sexuality. (At least, not once we've entered this world.)Acting them out is utter evil, but just having them isn't. We need to set up national centres where people can come and be treated and councelled for this. Only by acknowledgeing and facing up to the worst aspects of humanity's nature can we ever hope to heal it and paedophilia is probably the best place to start. Being accepting of people cursed with this is the only way to stop them going underground in a bid to fulfill their desires and dreadfully scarring thousands of innocent kids in the process. They need help almost as much as the kids do. That isn't to say they don't need a damn strong punishment if they give in to their baser nature, but we could prevent things getting that far if we only had the courage to be accepting.
 
Shem, excellent refuation of the Paleys watch analogy. i am glad that someone put that old dog to rest, to abuse an equally crapulent analagous statement.😛

BJ, i believe that you are treating the church as a single entity, as opposed to a constantly evolving institution. the main problem with the church that i can see is that it is a political organisation based on a religious founding, and the political sphere of influence has greatly superseded the religious basis. the church has acted no better and no worse than many other dictatorial organisations: it has simply done more damage because it has existed for longer. i am not being apologist here. i outright condemn the countless acts of dictatorial state-terrorism which the Church has performed. i simply wish to say that the Church itself is not an indictment of its religion. indeed, it is difficult to see much of the original religion within that 'city of god', the vatican. i reject any notion of a god that would be so petty as to send a person to hell because he or she fancied the brown love, or drank from da furry cup (just thought i'd lighten up my speech, no offense.)

i reject the bible as nothing more than a book written by men, nothing less. it has some good stuff and some bad. if you just took out jesus' message i am sure almost the entirety of what is still viable in the message will be saved. i do not believe god wrote that book, if only because it is terrible PR. i am positive the lord would want to hide any evidence of him changing his mind between millenia.

i accept Bell's and Jims views on paedophilia: these people need help. i am sure they must go through a torturous time as their libido fights with their morality. i know i would. even the idea of tickle torture in a N/C way, though arousing, offends my ethical sense (as it should any decent person.) i like the idea of centres for paedophiliac treatment. (as long as they choose the siting - near a daycare centre, while suitably ironic -or is it?- is just asking for trouble). i agree that there is no truly unbiased observer. everyone is influenced by their views.

Jim, i dislike your relativism on ethics. there does exist an objective moral code. the reason we havent realised this is because we are superficial: although surface ethics can be different and opposing, basic primitivist ethics can be seen as remarkably similar.

aaaaaaannnnd im spent.
 
AussieMonkey said:
Jim, i dislike your relativism on ethics. there does exist an objective moral code. the reason we havent realised this is because we are superficial: although surface ethics can be different and opposing, basic primitivist ethics can be seen as remarkably similar.

aaaaaaannnnd im spent.

Dude, what is it you dislike specifically? Quote me a passage from my post or summat, so I know what you mean. 🙂
 
AussieMonkey said:
BJ, i believe that you are treating the church as a single entity, as opposed to a constantly evolving institution. the main problem with the church that i can see is that it is a political organisation based on a religious founding, and the political sphere of influence has greatly superseded the religious basis. the church has acted no better and no worse than many other dictatorial organisations: it has simply done more damage because it has existed for longer.

Very true mate, I don't dispute that for a second. I discoursed slightly earlier about how I don't condemn any one particular religion, but ALL of them. Well the same goes for all institutions that are designed for control of the masses whilst given the illusion that they are setting them free. The farcial election system that our "free" democracies use is a classic point.

Voting in the puppet of your choice every 4 or 5 years and having them introduce what the hell laws they like during that time, with no accountability to the people; is NOT freedom. Neither is 51 people telling 49 other people what they can and can't do or believe. The term "checks and balances" is just another pacifying pile of shit that means nothing, but is clung to by millions, as if it's a life-jacket in a storm at sea. If such a thing existed in our system as "checks and balances" then politics wouldn't have such an awful history of corruption, gerrymandering and nepotism. Smoke and mirrors, as Ray would say. I believe in democracy, but just like religion, we're given a warped, twisted version of it and because of that we are "free". Well all bang the f***ing drum! :disgust:
 
my Two Cents

Hey Folks,
I am a conservative, Christian, Republican, and I support our president fully. This does not mean, however, that I agree with him always. God created each and every one of us to be different. We are all multicolored threads in one big tapestry.
I have no hatred toward any sexual preference. I do however, believe that individuals such as child molesters cannot control their damaging behavior and should be placed in a community of their own where they cannot hurt anyone. This does not mean that I hate them, rather I have compassion and understanding for them as God does.
If homosexuals wish to marry, I believe they should be allowed. There is nothing wrong with that. "Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of....." what was it again? oh that's right..now I remember: Liberty. Pure and Simple issue in my book.
On the subject of religion, which I have already made obvious where I stand, I am a Christian Fundamentalist. I believe in Jesus Christ, OUR Lord and Savior. I believe that God created the universe and that the universe is perfect for that reason. We have pestilence, famine, and death because without suffering, there can be no compassion. God loves all and wants everyone to accept Jesus. If you do not agree, hey that's cool. It's your business. If, and when, you begin to understand the truth though, Jesus Christ is looking for you. Look for Him.
I respect all of your opinions on religion, politics, whatever, because that is what I and the United States are all about. the Real U.S., not this Bi-Partisan, bickering, mass of clowns that we've become....but the idealistic haven-for-all that the United States of America truly, deep down, is.
Oh, and by the way....people should stop being so shallow and making fun of Bush all of the time. I really wish that everyone could be president for a week, during a hard time like post 9/11 America, so that people would stop being petty little boys and little girls about Bush and his intelligence quotient. If you were in his shoes you might make some mistakes too, and I guarantee that everyone would hate you, no matter what you had to say. If anything be proud that our country could have such a man as a leader. It truly shows that we are the Land of Opportunity and that there is a shred of our former glory still out there in America.
Peace and God Bless
 
Hey Big Jim...catch the clue bird bubba

the United States IS NOT A DEMOCRACY!!!! it is a REPRESENTATIVE REPUBLIC!!! "real" democracy is what you want eh? then go join the nazi party! "real" democracy is "real" mob rule and socialism! the only way to have real freedoms and protect the MINORITY from being trampled is to have the representative republic WITH it's system of checks and balances! Otherwise you might as well just forget about elections and voting, because you won't have to!!!!!! Wouldn't that be wonderful?!?! not even having to vote?!?! I love a dictator as much as the next guy......but you make it sound so good Jim. Thanks for providing me with my daily heart rate elevation, ace.
 
My, my, my...

I slip away for the evening, and come back to all of this? 🙂

SHEM THE PENMAN:

First, an apology. I misspoke. I did say, "There is absolutely no way I could ever be convinced..." What I should have added was "based on any evidence I've been presented thus far."

And I had no idea my "crapulent" analogy had a name, "Paley's Watch," so thanks. Perhaps it is in one way "begging the question." But I'm still left with no better (or even OTHER for that matter) explanation for what I see all around me, which is that nothing makes itself. Rather, everything in fact is made by, created by, caused by, something which came before it. What is the reasonable alternative explanation out there that I'm missing?

TICKLEBELL:

I think we both agree that one's sexuality is not the same as one's behavior. Sexuality "just is," as we've said. Behaviors are how we decide to act out our sexuality, and those clearly are choices. A heterosexual male has no choice in who he finds desirable, but he chooses whether to become a rapist or a loving husband. Consent too then only enters the picture when we're discussing behaviors, not preferences. Physically, sexually or mentally abusing a child (or horse or corpse per above) are behaviors we'd all agree are reprehensible, but they have nothing to do with the perpetrator's sexuality per se... unless maybe you'd concur with the myth that all gay male teachers are threats to molest their boy students.

I thought it very telling that you said, "Pedophilia [A] has been found in many studies to be something over which the incredibly unfortunate sufferers of it have no control. This does not mean that they shouldn't be able to control their actions, but they did not choose to view children in this horrible way."

If you simply substituted into your statement above the words "homosexual" for [A] and "their own sex" for , you'd have been able to pull this sentance from virtually tons of literature written about homosexuality over the last 50-100 years or more. And that's what I see as our problem here, once we've opened the "all sexuality is okay" door.

Behaviors aside, the argument that one's sexuality is neither right nor wrong must lead to the conclusion that pedophilia and homosexuality-- and heterosexuality-- are analogus. It's their expressed BEHAVIORS which are not analogous, which only then invites "consent," etc. to enter the discussion.

(Bush as the scapegoat aside) this thread was begun in responese to a significant movement to change what virtually all cultures and religions, over all time, have believed about marriage. And this push seems to be solely based upon a perspective that one's SEXUALITY isn't really "right" or "wrong," but that only the BEHAVIORS chosen to express that sexuality can be wrong: hence the proposal to allow gays to marry, giving them a "right" way to express their sexuality.

BIG JIM:

In fairness, I'll try to get back to you in a bit.
 
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Re: Hey Big Jim...catch the clue bird bubba

PhantomRegiment said:
the United States IS NOT A DEMOCRACY!!!! it is a REPRESENTATIVE REPUBLIC!!! "real" democracy is what you want eh? then go join the nazi party! "real" democracy is "real" mob rule and socialism! the only way to have real freedoms and protect the MINORITY from being trampled is to have the representative republic WITH it's system of checks and balances! Otherwise you might as well just forget about elections and voting, because you won't have to!!!!!! Wouldn't that be wonderful?!?! not even having to vote?!?! I love a dictator as much as the next guy......but you make it sound so good Jim. Thanks for providing me with my daily heart rate elevation, ace.

That is hands down, the funniest thing I have ever read on this forum....Wow man, talk about *SMACK*
 
I’m not BigJim, or his spokesman. I don’t even agree with him on many things, but your post insults all thinking people.
PhantomRegiment said:
the United States IS NOT A DEMOCRACY!!!!
I agree wholeheartedly! Nor are any of the other so-called democracies in this world, if you take the strict philosophical meaning of the world. Practically all of them are power-oligopolies of political parties. I think the English word for it is “parliamentarian democracy”, the system where representatives are elected by all citizens of that nation, in order to represent the people. That quite noble concept was perverted when the political parties came into existence, and therefore the whole system is misnamed “democracy” or “representative”. But our languages adopted these false terms and redefined them accordingly.

I know only one state in this world in where the political system at least gets near to a real democracy: Switzerland. All laws have to be voted upon by the people themselves. But even they have their political parties.
it is a REPRESENTATIVE REPUBLIC!!!
Are you really sure it’s REPRESENTATIVE? Do you really think that the President/Prime Minister/Chancellor or the parliament/congress represents all the citizens, including women, children, ethnic groups, religions, income levels, even the jobless and disabled people? That’s what I’d call utopia!
"real" democracy is what you want eh? then go join the nazi party! "real" democracy is "real" mob rule and socialism!
I’m afraid you’re completely misinterpreting the concepts of democracy, dictatorship, the Nazi party, and socialism. In fact, you’re mixing them up and shaving them all with the same brush. I’m not going to lecture here, instead I’d like you to look up the definitions of these words in any good encyclopedia or dictionary. Do a little reading about the subject, it’s well worthwhile!
the only way to have real freedoms and protect the MINORITY from being trampled is to have the representative republic WITH it's system of checks and balances! Otherwise you might as well just forget about elections and voting, because you won't have to!!!!!! Wouldn't that be wonderful?!?! not even having to vote?!?! I love a dictator as much as the next guy......but you make it sound so good Jim.
Sorry, you’re contradicting yourself several times in this paragraph, obviously in an attempt to sound humorous. Any politician knows how to circumvent you so-called “checks and balances”, just by good PR and a little playing with the emotions of the people, stirring them up to a “patriotic” hysteria for example (see Iraq or Vietnam). But you can find examples like that for most “democratic” states.

Follow any opinion you like, just don’t insult intelligent people with such uninformed, color-blind, completely ridiculous statements.
 
BIG JIM:

As I did with Ticklebell above, let me clarify that I agree with you that there is a distinction between what we're defining as SEXUALITY (to whom one is attracted to for sexual love), and BEHAVIOR, which is how we decide to act out our sexuality, and is clearly a choice. I'm not trying to compare those two kinds of relationships, which are behaviors, and frankly can't be compared, age notwithstanding, when you add a factor such as "consent."

I'm intrigued by your notion that, "We have to acknowledge that having these desires is not wrong, bad or evil; as there is no way of choosing one's sexuality... [but] We need to set up national centres where people can come and be treated..." If those desires aren't "wrong," then why would they need treatment? The notion of "healing pedophilia" still sounds to me a lot like the attempts over the years to "cure homosexuality."

So, is it really "utter lunacy" to compare these two sexualities in any way? Let me ask you this:

If it were possible to alter sexuality, biologically, and you learned that your unborn child would someday grow into a pedophile, would you make the decision to have them treated? I'm guessing that based on how you "can't imagine a worse curse to be laid on someone," you'd pursue it.

Now, what if you learned your child would be gay without that same treatment? Would you pursue that treatment as well? Honestly curious as to your reasons why or why not?

As for all the other religious "stuff"...

Of course I was referring to the creation of our physical universe, hence my "crapulent" analogy using a physical wristwatch! So, perhaps you and I might agree there, something (or someONE is also a possibility) preceeded everything we know in our physical world. At least I don't see anything in what you've written that in any way excludes a Creator, in that sense.

I also agree with AussieMonkey's comments on your seemingly relativistic ethics. In order to even say there are shades of "grey," implies that some are closer to "white" than others. So what would "white" look like? Or "black," for that matter? Just opposite ends of a spectrum. And there do appear to be things that across all cultures, and for all times, have been held to be absolutlely wrong (individual lunacies, of course, excepted).

And sadly, no, I have not read any of your other writings on the topic of religion(s). Perhaps someday...

🙂
 
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execmail77 said:
Of course I was referring to the creation of our physical universe, hence my "crapulent" analogy using a physical wristwatch! So, perhaps you and I might agree there, something (or someONE is also a possibility) preceeded everything we know in our physical world. At least I don't see anything in what you've written that in any way excludes a Creator, in that sense.
execmail, the crucial words are "preceed" and "everything we know in our physical world". You're referring to causality, but for something to preceed something other, you need the concept "time". According to current scientific knowledge, time (as well as space) had its first appearance in the Big Bang. Therefore, the question what caused it is invalid. The Big Bang was the beginning of time as we know it, thus it defies causality. There are even a few examples in quantum physics which show that causality doesn't hold true in every case.

Does that exclude a creator? Probably not. I accept that there is still a possibility for a creator's existence, but it is definitely NOT a logical, self-evident necessity. The world can be explained without involving a new factor called "creator".

You're right that nobody can disprove the existence of a creator, but just as well you can't prove his existence either. There were no eyewitnesses. That's why you need FAITH instead of logic to accept God...
 
well said, Haltickling...

I'm not sure it's actual scientific "knowledge" rather than just "theory" that time had its first appearance in the Big Bang. There's a distinction between the two, I think. I know little about quantum physics, so would love to hear one of those cases where causality doesn't hold true. Might help me understand a bit more.

But I have no problem embracing the idea that if there is a Creator, who initiated-- but is not part of-- the creation, that creator too would have to be outside of "time." Don't have a handy analogy to explain clearly what I mean, but in some ways that idea helps me too in grasping to concept of an omnipresent God of some kind.

True, no one can prove nor disprove that Creator's existence. But my logic tells me that if one thing is created by another, which was created before that by another, and so on all the way back to the very first creation (the big bang), isn't the next MOST logical question just continuing the same line of reasoning, "what then created that first creation? Why would it be more logical to ask the same question over and over, and then, with no reason to, or proof either way, abandon that question altogether? Unless you're already assuming the answer that things change at that pouint without any proof beyond your assumption.

Yes, perhaps, "The world can be explained without involving a new factor called 'creator'," but it strikes me as more of a stretch to do so.

And it also strikes me then that FAITH is needed in equal doses to believe or disbelieve in a Creator God, if neither of us can prove it, either way.
 
Re: Hey Big Jim...catch the clue bird bubba

PhantomRegiment said:
the United States IS NOT A DEMOCRACY!!!! it is a REPRESENTATIVE REPUBLIC!!! "real" democracy is what you want eh? then go join the nazi party! "real" democracy is "real" mob rule and socialism! the only way to have real freedoms and protect the MINORITY from being trampled is to have the representative republic WITH it's system of checks and balances! Otherwise you might as well just forget about elections and voting, because you won't have to!!!!!! Wouldn't that be wonderful?!?! not even having to vote?!?! I love a dictator as much as the next guy......but you make it sound so good Jim. Thanks for providing me with my daily heart rate elevation, ace.

Phantom, take a chill-pill, wipe the rabid spittle from your lips, sit down and listen. (Possibly also visit a syntax doctor if you've got the time.)

That entire post is complete and absoloute bilge-water, because you completely twist my point of view without even trying to understand what I was saying. But then I suspect you're more concerned with beating your chest and trying to fly the flag for Jebus, than engaging in a sensible, logical debate. In fact I think your whole reason for being angry with me, is because I attack your religion, amongst others. Hardly the act of an intelligent discussionist. Suggests a whole load of personal insecurities to me. Perhaps it all started when your dad didn't take you to the circus when you were 9?

Yes checks and balances should exist, but they D-O-N-'T. The system that is in place in our countries (although we use a different euphemism over here) is there soley to to con people into believing it is effective. It was invented by politicians purely for the use of politicians avoiding scrupulousness while making it seem like they're being honest. If you actually take the time to read my post properly (I assume you CAN read and didn't just get someone to write it for you?) then you'll have realised that I believe in democracy and law and order, (I'd be in a pretty bloody strange profession if I didn't) but don't believe that we are getting a fair deal from the people who run our countries.

And what the hell is a representative republic if it's not democratic? Your own reasoning is disappearing up it's own arse faster than the Ouroborus snake. Why is it the first instinct of fundementalist right-wingers to immiediately slam anything against them as being socialist or communist? (Or in your case quite originally, as Nazi.) Quite frankly that's an attitude that sickens me. I actually class myself as a conservative by British standards. The Conservative Party is the party of Winston Churchill and Margaret Thatcher. I'd hardly find myself drawn towards them more than Tony Blair if I was the rabble-rousing leftie that you've convinced yourself I am.

Why does anything I've said stand against free elections and voting? I choose to abstain from voting at the moment because I don't believe a word any of our politicians say and think they're a gaggle of thieving liars only set on preserving the status-quo, rather than actually serving the people they were elected to serve.

Quite frankly people like you are the worst kind of idiot, because any time someone stands up and trys to argue for a democracy that really is by the people and for the people, you condemn it. You either lable me a "commie" or a Nazi. Your comments display a really breathtaking ignorance of any of my political beliefs. God knows anyone who's read ANY of my posts on the Forum should know just how much I abhor both.

If you really want a reasoned debate then go away and do some homework, take your head out of your arse and come back when you've got something coherant to say instead of the total and complete tripe you've managed so far.

And please don't run away with the idea that I hate people being in disagreement with me. One of my favourite people to debate with here, is Hal. As he says himself, he disagrees with a lot of my opinions, but the guy manages to put his alternative spin on things, in a reasonable and intelligent manner. Having him disagree with me is positively a pleasure sometimes, because of the debate that arises from it.
 
Re: BIG JIM:

execmail77 said:
I'm intrigued by your notion that, "We have to acknowledge that having these desires is not wrong, bad or evil; as there is no way of choosing one's sexuality... [but] We need to set up national centres where people can come and be treated..." If those desires aren't "wrong," then why would they need treatment? The notion of "healing pedophilia" still sounds to me a lot like the attempts over the years to "cure homosexuality."

Eh? No that is entirely different to what I was saying. You can't "cure" any type of sexuality. (not with public science at it's present stage of evolution anyway.) And I didn't say the "desires" were wrong either. I said that having them wasn't wrong, but acting on them definately was. It's a fine line, but a very important and clinical one.
As for curing, well I suggest no such thing. Born or created paedophiles have their cross to bear and I believe for the good of the poor children who might fall victim to their depredations, that they should be given every assistance to help them stop acting on their impulses. If that means dosing their tea and coffe with large quantities of bromide, then so be it, but I suspect there is a more sophisticated method available nowadays.

execmail77 said:
So, is it really "utter lunacy" to compare these two sexualities in any way? Let me ask you this:

If it were possible to alter sexuality, biologically, and you learned that your unborn child would someday grow into a pedophile, would you make the decision to have them treated? I'm guessing that based on how you "can't imagine a worse curse to be laid on someone," you'd pursue it.

Now, what if you learned your child would be gay without that same treatment? Would you pursue that treatment as well? Honestly curious as to your reasons why or why not?

Yes I would pursue it. I don't think it would be appropriate to do so before a certain pubescent age though. I think anything before that could alarm the kid unduly. I think he'd have to be of an age to understand what was going on and why.

If he was going to be gay? No that wouldn't bother me in the slightest. Being gay harms no-one and nothing apart from the tempers of religious fundamentalists and interfering old bitches like Mary Whitehouse. A gay relationship between two informed, developed and consenting adults does no bad, and results in them getting a lot of good out of it. It wouldn't bother me at all.

execmail77 said:
As for all the other religious "stuff"...

Of course I was referring to the creation of our physical universe, hence my "crapulent" analogy using a physical wristwatch! So, perhaps you and I might agree there, something (or someONE is also a possibility) preceeded everything we know in our physical world. At least I don't see anything in what you've written that in any way excludes a Creator, in that sense.

I also agree with AussieMonkey's comments on your seemingly relativistic ethics. In order to even say there are shades of "grey," implies that some are closer to "white" than others. So what would "white" look like? Or "black," for that matter? Just opposite ends of a spectrum. And there do appear to be things that across all cultures, and for all times, have been held to be absolutlely wrong (individual lunacies, of course, excepted).

And sadly, no, I have not read any of your other writings on the topic of religion(s). Perhaps someday...

🙂

"Lighter grey" I would describe as being less negative than "darker grey". I don't believe in black or white in this world; I think it's too 2imperfect". Even an evil mass-murderer like Hitler, who passionately believed in his repulsive creed; would have known the negativity he was spreading if he'd taken half a moment to think about all the people in the world who weren't aryan.

No I don't exclude a creator/Creator. I think we have different ideaologies of what exactly it constitutes, but I think there is more to existence than this physical dimension.

As for my writings on religion........

http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=18477&highlight=Politics/Religion+Thread

There is some stuff on politics that you'll have to filter out, but there's a great deal about religion in there too. I seriously doubt you'll give it any credence, but it'll while away a decade or two reading it. 😉

Later mate.
 
execmail

execmail77 said:
I'm not sure it's actual scientific "knowledge" rather than just "theory" that time had its first appearance in the Big Bang. There's a distinction between the two, I think. I know little about quantum physics, so would love to hear one of those cases where causality doesn't hold true. Might help me understand a bit more.
execmail, scientific knowledge usually emanates in a theory which explains all possible observations. That theory holds until a better theory is developed (usually basing on the previous one), or until new observations reveal something that can’t be explained by the current theory. That’s the distinction between knowledge and theory.

As you already know a bit about quantum physics, I’d like to mention the “Tunnel Effect”. To get two Hydrogen atoms to fusion to a Helium atom, you’d actually need an activation energy (=temperature) that is several times higher than our sun can provide. However, a very small portion of quantums are able to “tunnel” the required energy peak and thus instigate the fusion process. These quantums act that way for no physical reason, i.e. without cause. However, this tunnel effect is what keeps our sun burning the way it does. Without it, the sun would either remain cold, or it would burn all its energy in much shorter time, radiating much more heat.

Another example for a lack of causality comes from nuclear physics: Radioactivity. It’s just a statistical number of instable isotopes that decays into the stabile form, the decay rate is typical for each type of specific isotopes. But there is no actual cause for one particular isotope to decay at a specific time while huge amounts of identical isotopes remain stabile much longer. Only the total rate of decay (a statistical number) is constant. Causality?
But my logic tells me that if one thing is created by another, which was created before that by another, and so on all the way back to the very first creation (the big bang), isn't the next MOST logical question just continuing the same line of reasoning, "what then created that first creation? Why would it be more logical to ask the same question over and over, and then, with no reason to, or proof either way, abandon that question altogether? Unless you're already assuming the answer that things change at that pouint without any proof beyond your assumption.
Yes, perhaps, "The world can be explained without involving a new factor called 'creator'," but it strikes me as more of a stretch to do so.
Ah, logic is a wonderful thing. But some phenomenons escape human logic, at least if you only have “common sense” as a resource. Infinity is such a thing, for example. Entirely outside of our imagination’s grasp, yet very real in mathematics. Or take the so-called “irreal numbers”, the square root of a negative number. Which number, multiplied by itself, produces a negative result? Impossible, yet large parts of the computer industry actually work with such numbers. Take the “virtual particles” which appear out of nowhere at the event horizon of a black hole. Causality? Logic?

Another example from quantum physics, which clearly shows that some things escape our imagination and logic: The spin. It’s actually a measure for symmetry. So far, we know three different kinds of quantum symmetry, ½ , 1, and 2. Visualize a deck of poker cards. Almost all cards there equal a spin ½, as they only need a half turn (180°) to look exactly the same as before. Only the ace needs a full 360° turn to look identical, which equals spin 1. So far, everything is logical and imaginable. But to produce a spin 2 symmetry, you’d have to imagine a card that needs TWO full turns (720°) to look identical. Impossible? Obviously yes, but this is already common knowledge, proven scientifically and mathematically.

Therefore, we all should be very careful to use our common sense and our limited imagination near the borderline of science. Just because the concept of a beginning of time and space escapes our imagination, doesn’t mean it isn’t logical. Actually, it’s the only logical explanation that is available to us, but like most phenomenons in quantum theory, it’s outside our logical grasp and defies everything we experience everyday, on our scale of perspective.
And it also strikes me then that FAITH is needed in equal doses to believe or disbelieve in a Creator God, if neither of us can prove it, either way.
Maybe you’re right. But science and a creator don’t exclude each other. Science can only describe the world in scientific terms, there’s no need to BELIEVE anything. You can actually check and cross-check all scientific results.

Science does not try to answer the question “why”, or “to what purpose”, it only tries to answer “how does it happen”. There is enough room for everybody to BELIEVE in reasons, purposes, and intentions. That’s where FAITH enters the stage…

I realize that these ramblings are terribly off-topic, so maybe we should return to the original topic of gay marriages. Sorry for the excursion.
 
Haltickling said:
That quite noble concept was perverted when the political parties came into existence, and therefore the whole system is misnamed “democracy” or “representative”. But our languages adopted these false terms and redefined them accordingly./QUOTE/]

I should have commented on that earlier, because it's a wonderfully pertinent point.

Just in case there are any others out there who share the opinion that I harbour fascist ideals, think on this little nugget.

I am most definately not in favour of a "one party state". My idea of a democracy is actually a "no party state".
 
Going back to another, earlier post here...

AussieMonkey made an assertion early on in this thread that so far, I think, has gone unchallenged. So, I'll share my perceptions, and then just ask the experts here about their understandings of it.

Here's his statement: "...if homosexuality is against the 'natural law' how to explain the myriad cases of homosexual practice among the animal kingdom?"

It's my understanding, based on the limited reading that I've done, that this is actually NOT the case.

First, rather than a "myriad," it's actually only in a relatively few number of species, that any type of homosexual behavior can be observed.

And second, even within those few species, except for human beings there does not appear to be ANY homosexuality exclusively-- only bisexuality-- in any given animal. Meaning that those individual animals that do exhibit homosexual behaviors from time to time, still primarily sexually pursue the opposite gender.

Anyone more knowledgable on this topic care to enlighten us?
 
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BIG JIM:

Only additional comment I'll add to our discussion thus far, is to say I'm not so sure I'd make the same choice you would, if I learned my child was going to be gay.

You said that, "Being gay harms no-one and nothing apart from the tempers of religious fundamentalists and interfering old bitches..." I disagree. Although I would agree that, "A gay relationship between two informed, developed and consenting adults does no bad..," even today, my gay child would face years of struggling to come to terms with his sexuality, in the face of an often bigoted and threatening culture.

The emotional pain he or she would have to endure growing up is at least just as real as the "tempers" of the ignorant, and would, for that reason alone, motivate me to seek any kind of treatment that would alleviate his suffering that way. We all have enough challenges to overcome growing up. I see nothing particularly heroic in choosing to fight that battle as well, if the alternative of the culturally accepted and statistically biological norm were available.

Does that mean that I view my child's being gay as "wrong," or "immoral" or "evil?" Not in the least.
 
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Re: Going back to another, earlier post here...

execmail77 said:
It's my understanding, based on the limited reading that I've done, that this is actually NOT the case.

First, rather than a "myriad," it's actually only in a relatively few number of species, that any type of homosexual behavior can be observed.

And second, even within those few species, except for human beings there does not appear to be ANY homosexuality exclusively-- only bisexuality-- in any given animal. Meaning that those individual animals that do exhibit homosexual behaviors from time to time, still primarily sexually pursue the opposite gender.

Anyone more knowledgable on this topic care to enlighten us?

If you call "a myriad", several dozen species, then yes. As for bi-sexuality, well it's some scientists postulation that the human race is 100% bi-sexual to one degree or another. Observation has led them to conclude that no one person is 100% hetero or gay. Humans have a greater tendency to want to stick to one camp or another though, for some reason to do with occipital development that is missing in smaller brained animals. Please don't ask me to define that, because I don't understand enough about it. Given the widespread info about it on the web though Exec, it should'nt be too hard to find if you want to.
 
Re: BIG JIM:

execmail77 said:
my gay child would face years of struggling to come to terms with his sexuality, in the face of an often bigoted and threatening culture.
Dude, even though we come from different philosophies, I'm really beginning to enjoy this discussion. 🙂
My spirituality is going to come into it much more strongly now. I believe a part of life is growing in the face of challenges, lessons and adversity. For that reason I think our "higher self" makes a certain amount of choices for it's upcoming life. Some are based on what lessons we think we need to learn in this life, others are more decided on what vibrational level our souls are on. In other words if you were an asshole in a previous life, you're going to have some disadvantages because you've got negative energy to work off, which will manifest as physical, mental or emotional difficulties in this physical plane.
That being the case I think the problems someone would encounter learning to live with predjudice and their own feelings about their sexuality, have the potential to make that person much stronger. That why we all have certain crosses to bear and why we're all responsible for our own development. Changing someone's sexuality by force when they're an un-informed child I would regard to be an act of heinous morality. You're basically making a decision that you've got no right going anywhere near. A parent has no right forcing a change on a child that is the child's right to deal with in their own way, come adulthood. If they want hormone therapy to have a sexuality re-alignment then, so be it. But taking that decision for them is way too Big Brother. That kind of thinking frightens me, quite frankly.


execmail77 said:
The emotional pain he or she would have to endure growing up is at least just as real as the "tempers" of the ignorant, and would, for that reason alone, motivate me to seek any kind of treatment that would alleviate his suffering that way. We all have enough challenges to overcome growing up. I see nothing particularly heroic in choosing to fight that battle as well, if the alternative of the culturally accepted and statistically biological norm were available.

You're changing things that are none of your business. Everyone has to have an equal opportunity to deal with the things that "God" gives them, because they can all learn and progress from it. It's not the same as saying that we should let someone who falls ill die, because "God gave them the illness". That has nothing to do with emotional and spiritual development. This does and by taking matters into your own hands, you are depriving someone of the right of experiencing what they were meant to. There are people in the homosexual lobby groups who could put the argument less holistically" than me, but that's the gist of it. Forcing a child to have a re-alignment simply because you don't think it should experience that sexuality is an act of major irresponsibility.
 
this in itself proves that it is possible for people to share the exact same general views on a subject and still argue about it. you both appear to be in favour of homosexual marriage, as am i, as are most of the others posting on this thread. your assertion that Being gay affects the gay person is endemic of societal intolerance as opposed to homosexuality. BJ, by your political vies (or what i have bothered to read-hurrah for apathetic laziness) you appear to be an anarchist. good going, man. however, you do not seem to fit the violent anarchistic stereotype. a state of true democracy within a "no-government" political state is the essence of anarchy, at least as far as i understand it. btw, your comment on the actual number of homosexual animals: ok, maybe i was wrong on the numbers. however, your assertion that bisexuality - predominant- heterosexuality negates homosexual naturality i think is erroneous. does this mean that animals are "sinning" every time they initiate homosexual encounters? the very fact that they diverge shows homosexuality to be a viable option for them, and therefore natural. if not in a genetic perspective, then from a sexual perspective. the genetic imperative is strong on reproduction. but there are more of us than i feel comfortable with. therefore, homosexuality reduces surplus population. perhaps the increase in gayness and lesbianity is a response on the genetic level to the population problem?

finally, how do people feel about homosexuality as educated in schools among a sex ed curriculum? and how come no dissenting ultra conservative christian-muslim-jewish-other right wingers have put their 10 cents in. are they being deleted? are there none on our forum?(unlikely) or are they simply uncomfortable talking with a bunch of "******-lovers"?
 
BIG JIM:

I too am enjoying our give and take!

I heartily concur with your initial premise here that, "...a part of life is growing in the face of challenges, lessons and adversity," but not necessarily with its extreme conclusion that, "Everyone has to have an equal opportunity to deal with the things that "God" gives them..."

If we agree that one's sexuality is, in fact, biological in nature, then I'm sorry but you WOULD also be implying that if we could prevent Downs Syndrome we still shouldn't, because to do so would interfere with that person's spritual growth. Clearly that child is no more "evil" or "immoral" for being that way than a gay person would be. Yet the biological etiology exists equally for both.

A parent has not only a right, but an obligation to ensure their child's health, physically, mentally and emotionally. Few things make me cringe more than certain faiths held by parents that prevent them from seeking help (medical or otherwise) for their children while their child tragically suffers needlessly.

While I concede your point that there very well may be "higher selves" with "negative energy to work off," it's not meaningful enough for me to stake my own son or daughter's happiness or health, in this life, upon it's possibility. To do otherwise, in my opinion, would be "an act of heinous morality."

(I don't see that as "Big Brother" at all. THAT designation I reserve for the coercive power of the State broadly imposing its will upon everyone, equally, not individuals making choices for themselves or parents responsible for making those choices on behalf of their own children.)

Don't know if it makes a difference to you, but my original question meant to suggest determining one's sexuality at the outset, inutero, not changing it after the fact, assuming we could alter the biological cause. I'm not suggesting "forcing a realignment" on my own child, but rather, if possible, preventing a certain biological "alignment" in the first place.

You also lament "depriving them of their right to experience what they were meant to [in this case homosexuality]..." Gosh, I can't ever recall hearing about my "right" to experience any particular sexuality. If fact, if you subscribe to the tenets underlying Roe v. Wade, that unborn child doesn't even have a "right" to live.


AUSSIE MONKEY:

Actaully, no, I'm not quite yet in favor of Gay Marriage. Part of this little exercise here is hopefully to help me sort out a few of the remaining issues I have surrounding this, though.

Your pointing out that "...[my] assertion that Being gay affects the gay person is endemic of societal intolerance as opposed to homosexuality," is absolutely true. Nevertheless, the pain my gay child might feel because of that societal intolerance remains real.

Animals "sinning?" Not something I ever alluded to or even thought of, for that matter. I don't think it's possible for animals to "sin," is it?

And, thank you for your admission that, "ok, maybe i was wrong on the numbers." At least I know I'm not totally nuts!

I don't see how, "bisexuality... shows homosexuality to be a viable option for [some animals]." But perhaps it's just a definition of terms. To me, homosexuality, means just that-- NO attraction to the opposite sex whatsoever. Thus any attraction to both genders, by definition, is bisexuality only. So we're agreeing then that there is NO example, in the animal kingdom of HOMOsexuality, EXCEPT for human beings (as they report themselves, so I'll take their word for it)!

If, on the other hand, you'd also argue (as Big Jim has, too) that everyone is really bisexual along a spectrum, then why in the heck are we arguing for Gay Marriages (ostensibly because being with the same gender is the ONLY way they can find love) when everyone actually does have a choice afterall?

I'm soooooo confused! 🙂

Have a good weekend, everybody....
 
Since I am not fabulous with words, and haven't taken enough college courses blah blah blah, I'm only going to say a few words of comment on the recent posts (plus it's late, and I'm absolutely pooped out from teaching 50 children in a day camp all week, so I probably won't be very eloquent).

Execmail:

It sounds to me like you are assuming that if your child were to be gay, he or she would be miserable their whole life long. Don't you think there are happy gay people out there, who have found love and support? Isn't that what "gay" originally meant anyway? Happy? Society is going to be cruel no matter what your child is. Meanwhile, I abhore Roe vs. Wade, so I'm going to disregard the whole thing about innocent unborn children not having a right to live. I'm not thinking coherently enough for that right now, anyway.

Meanwhile, to the others who have posted recently, I absolutely agree about humans all being bisexual at least to some tiny degree, but that doesn't change my views on gay marriage. Just because there is a choice doesn't make one or the other the wrong one, unless you don't actually love the person you are choosing.

It's been highly entertaining and interesting watching the banter, and wishing I could be more able to put my feelings on the subject(s) into words. Nigh nigh. Mwah!

-Bell :cool2:
 
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