REVISED, UPDATED AND EXPANDED- The Single Man's Guide to NEST!

[Korastus]

sounds like a waste of time, lol

Good, then don't come, so you don't waste anyone else's time either.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

Just because someone hugs someone does not mean they want to play with that person. NEST rules state that you must have someone's verbal consent before touching them. Go by NEST rules as opposed to your own 🙂

 

[fishman]

I remember reading this guide before my first NEST and thought "I can dig it". Of course, I was thinking "as tough as it is to find women who love to be tickled, this should be a tickle smorgasbord!" Being reasonably cute, I was sure gals would be lining up to feel the wrath of my digits. Needless to say with that attitude, I did not happen and I was a bit fustrated. We share a fetish that is unique to say the least. Many think it is weird, childish, or not a real fetish compared to some of the other kinks. I did not ask to be born with this , and how I got into it is irrelavant, but finding a lee', especially where I am, is very tough. I thought NEST was going to be tickle heaven, especially for this rocker stud.

But what I almost missed was some great times, new friendships, and I did get to tickle a few in the end. Lee actuallly tickled me, and I enjoyed it. I am not a lee', but once I got over my own s#it, I had a really good time. I went back in 2010 and had a good time. I was told by some of the NEST vets that maybe I needed to go to smaller gatherings where action is a bit more open. (A house versus a hotel). But I had a great time. Unrealistic expectations are premeditated resentments, and me thinking that female lee's are going to just let me play with them almost turned into a wasted trip, but I luckly caught myself in time.

I think most male ler's get frustrated by female nervousness when it comes to being tickled. Whether through Fetlife, Craigslist, or even the TMF personals, I have had females lee's talk once or twice and then back away. I have even thought about tickling guys a time or two just to tickle SOMEONE. But let's face it. The world is a Snickers bar, it is chock full of nuts. There has to be a courtship of sorts before anything happens, no matter how you look or act. Today I can dig it. If I do not get to tickle at NEST this year, I will still have a good time. I don't drink or party, but I do not need social lubricant when around my fellow friends of the feather, and that is worth the price of admission.

 

[tickmankyle1]

Ok this was my first nest so this is just my 2 cents. I'm 99% a lee and not really an out going person. At a gathering once I was weird out by a guy and it was not fun. I guess I keep to myself alot cause I'm too afraid I will weird someone out not ever meaning too. So If I keep to my self it can never happen like it did to me. Not that this is true 100%, but I feel that all men seem to be ler's and doms so if your are a male that is how I feel that is the perception. Uninvited touch for me is almost a non thing for me since I'm really not a ler at all unless they came up to me wanting tickling. I just wish I didn't feel that way I feel like women or some feel a male as a hawk trying to poke his prey. That is not me in the least. I talked to this girl once for like 2 hours nothing tickling and at the end she was like you seem great maybe later if you want I will let you tickle me tied up. I was like ok but was like I'm not a ler I'm a lee and but was quite. I'm I wrong I know at MTP took me me a few gathering to feel comfortable. I always have fun when I go to a gathering just wish didn't feel like I might weird someout out cause it keeps me more unengaged and I hold back cause of it. Thanks all hugsssss Kyle
what a long strange trip it's been