Same sex tickling if you're not gay? Opposite-sex tickling if you are?

[GoForTheLaugh]

I was the last person to post in this thread, and that was two months ago (when I first joined this board and knew nothing about this fetish in which I had engaged briefly a few times).

Keep in mind that a small number of my friends knows about my fetish, but none of them shares it.

I still cannot imagine a situation where I would want to tickle or be tickled by a woman for real, but the tiny bit of on-line tickle flirting with women in which I have engaged has been fun. If it were a very close friend, then maybe. I still can't say yes or no.

If, theoretically, one of my women friends was tickle fan who could not find anyone to tickle her, yes, I would do it for her. It would not do anything for me, though. A few years ago, I had a friend dealing with a crisis sleep over--and she chose to get into bed with me and cuddle. It felt awkward, but since she is my friend I said nothing. The irony hit me, though, as she is a very beautiful woman and I am sure a lot of straight guys would have killed to have their arms around her at night. For me, friendship is friendship. When a friend needs me, I am there.

But the main reason I am bumping this thread is because I have something else I need to get off my chest, and I don't want to start another thread and get flamed by A, D, K, and the rest again. Feedback is appreciated.

The irony is that I, who crave a first long M/M tickle experience, have turned down the handful of offers I have gotten from people on this board. As I have said before, I fully support straight men who engage in non-sexual M/M, and I know that sometimes a straight man will play with a gay man. But just as there are straight men who would feel uncomfortable playing with a gay guy, I feel very, very uncomfortable playing with a straight guy.

I say this in public since, within the fetish world, one might say I have a problem and am not playing by the rules. But isn't this whole fetish play thing about comfort level? If others had been through half of what I have at the hands of Bible-thumping heterosexuals and ex-gay ministries, they might know why I feel awkward showing any of my sexuality, even the most innocent play aspects, to non-gay folks who probably do not understand it. In addition, I fought hard to come out of the closet and be who I am. Those I show my sexuality to have done the same.

I love my straight male friends deeply, but it is not a sexual love. I also respect their boundaries, and I don't even joke about anything sexual between us. They, in turn, respect and support me as a gay person. This is the comfort zone I am accustomed to. Anything else is very, very uncomfortable.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

For me I can't say that I enjoy m/m because I haven't done it since I was eight. Although when it comes to turn-ons I tend to go for m/f or f/f. But like I said in a previous post, I used to swear the the vcr but now I own a crap load of dvds. So you never know. I guess I would have to actually have to be something I would have to watch first then participate later in the session. Not talking about "watching" on videos but in a actual real situation. I was into s&m/b&d for a couple of years and it interested me for awhile, but then it didn't ..so I left the community. So I guess , it would have to be my mood that defines it. If that makes any sense?

 

[Avenger314]

Unfortunately, I wouldn't much care for m/m tickling, either watching or participating in it. Sorry =(

 

[ticklkitten]

I am ALL for same sex tickling... ticklish flesh is all that is required for me. In fact there are times when I prefer f/f.

 

[Lukku]

I'm cool with watching or reading about f/f tickling, but I would probably never participate in it, because I just prefer being tickled by guys, and have done ever since I was little. I'll definatly do f/m or m/f because that's the way I'm inclined with tickling.

Also, m/m I'd love to see, because actually one of my fantasies for a very long time has been seeing two gay guys either tickle each other or have sex while I'm watching it. However, that fantasy hasn't come true yet. It probably won't for years, decades even, but I'm still young (19) and there's a long time yet for it.

 

[Tcklsh_Kandy]

I am ALL for same sex tickling... ticklish flesh is all that is required for me. In fact there are times when I prefer f/f.

I prefer f/f tickling over all other forms . Why ? I honestly don't know but I just do . However, I also don't consider myself a gay female either .

 

[Januarygirl_f/f]

Tickling another female, or, more precisely, having one tickle me, is my usual thing. I engage in m/f play, although rarely, and VERY rarely f/m play. I'd guess I'm bi-curious. I prefer women for tickling, but would prefer sex with a man, niether one to the exclusion of the other gender.

 

[LVTicklr]

I totally love watching F/F and fantasizing about it but am very much a hetero female...though watching girl on girl porn really doesn't do anything for me.

This comment pretty much wraps it up for me. I'm definitely heterosexual, but sometimes the girl on girl is pretty intense. Women can be evil ticklers, and the revenge is usually worse.

But nothing can ever replace the thrill of bringing a man to laughs, squeals, and pleading! I just love a ticklish man!!!!!!!!!

BTW, your sexual orientation means nothing to me-it's not like we're getting married or something! All's pretty much fair in tickling fun.

You're clearly right that women can be really evil ticklers,for they can come up with the most devilish things when it comes to being foot tickled by them(with the tickling experiences that I've had at the Footnight parties),for the more evil tickler they are the more fun it is for me.

Otherwise I'm not into M/M tickling(although that stuff at both the Footfriends parties and the "World Of Pain" F/M thread looks pretty fun and cool for that crowd),but whatever rocks your boat and more power to you(since there's always got to be something for everyone).

 

[GoForTheLaugh]

Just want to clarify something.

Engaging in F/F does not necessarily mean you are gay. Neither does engaging in M/M--although there are probably more straight guys who do not than straight guys who do. I had figured that this was true when I first joined this board and got so many flames for my infamous thread on straight M/M tickling, but now that I have read so many posts on this board and e-mailed a dozen straight guys from it, I know this to be true beyond any doubt.

Of course, some of us are indeed gay, but I, for one, would never assume that someone else is simply because I am.

Whatever anyone likes is fine. Equally important, whatever anyone dislikes is fine for the person to dislike. No one need ever participate in activity that makes him or her uncomfortable.

Also, m/m I'd love to see, because actually one of my fantasies for a very long time has been seeing two gay guys either tickle each other or have sex while I'm watching it. However, that fantasy hasn't come true yet. It probably won't for years, decades even, but I'm still young (19) and there's a long time yet for it.

Hee hee hee. I am in my 30s now, and there is very little tickling these days. But when I was in my mid-20s there were two guys I dated (not at the same time!) who were all right with a little tickling as long as it did not get out of hand or go on for long. All my tickle experiences are brief, but I have some great memories.

H was completely non-ticklish on his stomach and ribs, but all I had to do was mention his armpits or feet to get him giggling. One stroke was enough to make him shriek.

M, on the other hand, was ticklish everywhere, but he had a quiet laugh and a way of curling his body and burying his head so that it almost appeared as if he was not affected by tickling. But I knew better.

There was one other guy, also named M, who convinced me that he was not ticklish. He invited me to try his ribs, thighs, feet, and so on. No response at all. One day I was rubbing his shoulders and my fingers accidentally (yes, truly accidentally) got too close to his armpit. BINGO! The only ticklish spot on his body. I let him have it and had a fun time for about 15 seconds. How sneeky to tell me to try all the non-ticklish spots and not mention those lovely pits! The nerve! After I took pity on him, he said that he hated being tickled and asked me not to do it again. I followed his wishes, of course, but I keep the delicious memory to this day. 😀

 

[Fred46]

No same sex tickling since I was a kid

When I was a kid I engaged in same sex tickling, although not to any great extent. Since becoming an adolescent I have been attracted to girls and have fantasized about tickling them. Sometimes, I have fantasized about being a girl and being tickled by a guy, but I would not feel comfortable in an m/m tickling scenario, either as ler or lee.

Actually, I would not feel comfortable being a lee at all. I feel that being ticklish is for children and women only. In fact, for me being ticklish is one of the most important things that women are for. I am single, but hope that I will find someone soon and that she will have a high tolerance for being tickled by me. I don't think I could feel compatible with someone who wouldn't let me tickle her.

F/f tickling is a wild turn on for me. Most of the erotic matierals I view involve f/f scenarios, whether tickling or some other erotic activity.

A while ago I remember reading a thread where some of the females of TMF were going to organize a girls-only get together. I remember thinking that that's fine for women, they can do that and not experience any dissonance about their sexuality, but most guys can't. I think that most straight guys would not like having another guy tickle them. I remember reading a post to that effect. One of the girls on the girls' night out thread suggested that guys get even by having a guys only get together, but she recognized that it wouldn't be the same for us, we might only be comfortable talking and maybe watching videos together. Girls are far more likely to be comfortable with same-sex tickling than straight guys.

Fred46

 

[Ticklebell]

As many of you know, I am an openly gay female, but that does not affect my tickling preferences much. While tickling can be sexual, and in that context I would prefer to be tickled by a female, I am tickled by my male buddies all the time, and have been tickled by male tickle enthusiasts as well as female, all at once, and Venray and Venraya would attest ("Monkey Feet, ENGAGE!"). I certainly would not want any women to think that engaging in tickle play with me means anything more than a good time goofing around, just the same as I wouldn't want a man to think there was any hidden straight vibe there.

Meanwhile, I just had to say something mildly unrelated, but which was posted more than once in this thread, and which amused me. About girl on girl pornos. Most lesbians aren't even turned on by those. They're almost always made for men and their funny little common infatuation with lesbianism. I mean, hel-LO, those are soooooo not lesbians in those movies. Look at the fingernails on those women! Ouch!!

Anywho, good thread.
Muah!
-Bell

 

[dskodj]

Well, my personal oppinion, def not. Since tickling is a high sexual thing to me, the thought of tickling another man really makes me kinda cringe and would def do nothing for me. Now I will say, im a very active individual in the gay comunity, have tons of gay friends and equatences, but im 100% straight. What others do is up to them and is cool as many have stated and they should be damn proud to admit it! And to who started this thread..I respect you for being yourself and being open..someone after my own nature

 

[WorkInProgress]

Note to GoForTheLaugh: Of course it's about comfort level, and of course you don't have to justify yourself when it comes to your preferences.

 

[WorkInProgress]

General note, inspired by what Tinkerbell wrote: I'm not into videos myself, but I will say this: I do think that young straight women often feel a subliminal attraction to each other that they don't quite know what to do with, and I think f/f tickle play provides many with the perfect opportunity to sublimate that. In fact, I think young straight female ticklephiles have that as an advantage over non-ticklephiles: they have what others are looking for, a means of getting erotically physical with each other, without committing to all-out lesbian sex (though I also suspect that that sometimes happens between straight friends, as represented in Jill Sobule's "I Kissed a Girl"). And as for me, I do get turned on thinking about women who are not lesbians dabbling in lesbianism spontaneously.

By the way, Tinkerbell, I see you list San Diego and Boston as your two homes. Do you ever get down to New York? There's a nice little community down here that gets together from time to time. And JanuaryGirl, I just PM'd you on this too.