While we're at it, let's talk about safety measures.....if she felt comfortable with him, why not do it during the first meeting? What would be different in another meeting? As I said, someone who wants to do something like that will do it at any meeting, and it really doesn't matter when she gets tied down.
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While we're at it, let's talk about safety measures.....if she felt comfortable with him, why not do it during the first meeting? What would be different in another meeting? As I said, someone who wants to do something like that will do it at any meeting, and it really doesn't matter when she gets tied down.
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Is this really relevant? I don't think there's really a need to discuss 'how this could have happened', the fact is that it did happen. No one needs to know the specifics and no one should be asking questions that would make those things resurface. All it sounds like now is that you're to see if you can place blame on her for it and it's unnecessary. It doesn't matter how it happened or what should have happened, hindsight is 20/20.
But to her, i'm really sorry this happened to you, i don't really know what to say other than that except you obviously have people here who care about you and that's really what you need. You have the support and i hope you can recover from this, it must be really difficult.
But to her, i'm really sorry this happened to you, i don't really know what to say other than that except you obviously have people here who care about you and that's really what you need. You have the support and i hope you can recover from this, it must be really difficult.
If it's their first meeting and she agreed to be tied up in a strange place with a dude she barely knows, then there's no avoiding it.
If she had told him the only way she's doing it is at a place of her choosing, she could have used a sort of scare tactic. Tell him she's got a hidden camera in the room recording things for safety reasons. Maybe get her girlfriend to be somewhere nearby to make sure she is safe just in case, even if it made her a little uncomfortable. Do something to deter him from ever taking advantage of her and thinking he can get away with it.
He'll either play nice, or not play at all.
Now please stop posting pointlessly in a pointless discussion, thanks. Don't keep it going. We're done here. Starting now.
If she had told him the only way she's doing it is at a place of her choosing, she could have used a sort of scare tactic. Tell him she's got a hidden camera in the room recording things for safety reasons. Maybe get her girlfriend to be somewhere nearby to make sure she is safe just in case, even if it made her a little uncomfortable. Do something to deter him from ever taking advantage of her and thinking he can get away with it.
He'll either play nice, or not play at all.
Now please stop posting pointlessly in a pointless discussion, thanks. Don't keep it going. We're done here. Starting now.
That's terrible...so sorry she endured that. I hope that ler got put in jail As someone had mentioned earlier play dates have to be made sure that they are extra safe because you never know a person's true motive until it's too late. Hearing about this definitely brings forth more caution for me as a lee that's for sure.
I don't have much to add on the topic of what happened to metalgirl, but on the whole precautions thing... I've been meeting a lot of girls off of Craigslists lately for tickling/foot worship and I'm kind of surprised at how none of them are taking any precautions at all. I'm usually the one who has to suggest meeting in a public place, etc. Now, I don't know whether it's that I make them feel safe and don't come off as creepy or threatening or what, but... it's an eye-opener.
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Is there already a thread stickied talking about precautions to take in meetups in the Personals section? Because a hookup could be the most amazing experience of your life, or it could be the last experience of your life. And in that that's kind of a huge range to cover, probably ... some ideas people have had?
Obviously one of the best options is to develop a relationship with your ler first. This isn't iron-clad, but if you develop feelings for someone you're more likely to care about them.
In more of a first- or second-meeting hookup situation, I thought of sending a facepic of my top to my inbox at work. Then when we're about to get down to it, calling a theater friend of mine with the address I'm at and the following instructions: I'm hanging out here for awhile. I'm going to text you every hour with the name of someone you've appeared on stage with and their character. If you don't hear from me, or I send you a bogus name or character, call the police. Then I can just relax and enjoy myself, comfortable in the knowledge that if I am murdered there's probably at least some good forensics for them to start with. That also maintains some vague discretion with the sense that someone's looking out for you -- and the ler knows it too.
Naturally, that would be excellent information for a dedicated ler to try to extract using, I dunno, tickling, so you can never be 100 percent safe.
Of course when I'm topping a scene I'm a perfect gentleman. 😉 (there's no way of knowing this, lees, so yeah, elementary precautions).
Finally, none of this is meant to be specific to metalheadgirl's situation, which is heartbreaking, or as any kind of shoulda/coulda/woulda discussion, because that wasn't a theoretical. It was a was. On top of everything else, rape is an egregious and traumatizing violation of trust. It's terrible that it happened and my wishes are for hope and healing and I hope the guy is put away.
I just hoped maybe as a reminder for people -- especially with what Phineas posted -- about doing what you can to keep yourself safe.
Obviously one of the best options is to develop a relationship with your ler first. This isn't iron-clad, but if you develop feelings for someone you're more likely to care about them.
In more of a first- or second-meeting hookup situation, I thought of sending a facepic of my top to my inbox at work. Then when we're about to get down to it, calling a theater friend of mine with the address I'm at and the following instructions: I'm hanging out here for awhile. I'm going to text you every hour with the name of someone you've appeared on stage with and their character. If you don't hear from me, or I send you a bogus name or character, call the police. Then I can just relax and enjoy myself, comfortable in the knowledge that if I am murdered there's probably at least some good forensics for them to start with. That also maintains some vague discretion with the sense that someone's looking out for you -- and the ler knows it too.
Naturally, that would be excellent information for a dedicated ler to try to extract using, I dunno, tickling, so you can never be 100 percent safe.
Of course when I'm topping a scene I'm a perfect gentleman. 😉 (there's no way of knowing this, lees, so yeah, elementary precautions).
Finally, none of this is meant to be specific to metalheadgirl's situation, which is heartbreaking, or as any kind of shoulda/coulda/woulda discussion, because that wasn't a theoretical. It was a was. On top of everything else, rape is an egregious and traumatizing violation of trust. It's terrible that it happened and my wishes are for hope and healing and I hope the guy is put away.
I just hoped maybe as a reminder for people -- especially with what Phineas posted -- about doing what you can to keep yourself safe.
