To be honest, if a person who comes to my house never lets me come over to theirs, I would wonder if they hid they mummified mother Norman-Bates-like in the basement! So this is definitely a trust issue! He could at least have said WHY she couldn't come over!
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Story about me losing a tickle friend of mine
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Yeah well it WAS a good situation. I just don't think it's fair that he came to my house but I wasn't allowed at his. I mean I've hadother tickle buddies that invite me over to his place and it's no problem. HE IS THE ONLY ONE WHO NEVER INVITED ME TO HIS HOUSE! I don't think you should stick up for him. It's the principle that it should be an equal relationship, especially after knowing him FOR 5 YEARS!
That's my opinion and I am sticking to it.
This is the difference between us. I would have just thought "Huh, well at least I got laid."
Yeah well it WAS a good situation. I just don't think it's fair that he came to my house but I wasn't allowed at his. I mean I've hadother tickle buddies that invite me over to his place and it's no problem. HE IS THE ONLY ONE WHO NEVER INVITED ME TO HIS HOUSE! I don't think you should stick up for him. It's the principle that it should be an equal relationship, especially after knowing him FOR 5 YEARS!
That's my opinion and I am sticking to it.
I shouldn't be sticking up for him?
You realize you're throwing around this 5 1/2 years thing like it means something other than the fact that you were bullshitted gullibly for 5 1/2 years? Don't blame it all on him. It doesn't take 5 1/2 years to realize something is up for most people with common sense.
This exactly! Girl, did you ever ask him why you REALLY couldn't come over? Did you never confront him that you believed what he gave you were evasions or did you say "Well, then let me know when there is nothing going on and when I can come over!"?
Men are just delightfully simple. 🙂 That's the good thing about being a woman, you can get laid easily and therefore expect to get more than just that! 😛
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When ever I asked him if I could come over rhiannon, he would always give a lame excuse like he was working on some kind of home improvement project at his house. BELIEVE ME, THAT GOT REALLY OLD AFTER A FEW YEARS!
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Well I guess sometimes assholes stick up for other assholes. I thought eventually he would let me come over to his house and he didn't invite me. For all you know, he could've had a wife or girlfriend and if he did, I am glad that it's over because I don't want to be the "other woman".
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Well I did say something like that to him but you know if someone doesn't want you over to their home, you CAN'T MAKE THEM INVITE YOU.
There was only so much I could control of the situation.
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I just want to say that I asked him plenty of times if I could come over to his house and he still gave me the story about working on some
home improvement project at his house.
home improvement project at his house.
I'm just gonna chalk this up to you being butthurt becasue you wanted more from the relationship than he did and got dumped. Whether he had a wife/gf or he was bonin' his dear ol' rickety mother, you were tossed to the curb. He made his decision, and you both had good times up until now, so maybe focusing on the positive rather than putting such energy in the negative would make you feel better.
And Rhiannon is covering the other follow-up questions I had nicely. I'll leave the rest to her.
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Well that's true and I could've pushed the issue but I was afraid of getting into a fight about it and I felt it wasn't worth it. It's probably for the
best anyway. I am quite sure he had something to hide.
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Yes please leave it to her. At least she's being nice about it and you're not. You're not helping me feel better by the way and Rhiannon is, so
like you said, leave it to her.
Who said anything about trying to make you feel better? I have no emotional investment in this whatsoever and could care less about the end result. I was just telling it how it is. But whatever, I'll go play some PS3 instead for a bit.
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You may be telling it like it is, but you don't have to be mean about it. Just go play your game for a while and keep your opinions to yourself, at least about this thread anyway. I guess part of my problem is, I try to believe the best about people and I wouldn't say I got dumped because I wasn't officially his girlfriend anyway. I was his friend with benefits. However, that's not the point, the point is, he didn't respect me enough for me to come to his house after a significant amount of time. I think you need to work on having some empathy, which some people on this thread have expressed to me, even if they don't know me personally. Have fun with your game.
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I also want to say that it's not that I wanted more out of the relationship we had, I just wanted to go to his house. I don't think that's too much to ask from someone you've known for 5 and a half years, regardless of the nature of the relationship. By the way, I am sure he's not fucking
his Mom, that would be very sick. It's his loss and I'll be just fine.
his Mom, that would be very sick. It's his loss and I'll be just fine.
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So, for a change, I'm the dick that only read the first post and last page. Maybe I missed this.
As someone who also lives with his parents (embarrassing but moving on)... I'm sorry, but even if we've been invested in one another that long, I wouldn't be the most comfortable with bringing you over. In this situation it's not like your my girlfriend, so it's kind of weird to have you over, introduce you to my parents, etc. Worse, it's not like we would actually get to play, which I assume was most of the reason you would have wanted to go over. Playing with parents around is a major major no-no. Absolutely not.
If you came at me with the same sort of attitude and I were really living with family, then yes, I would respond in the same way. No offense or anything.
But then, given the other excuses it's likely that he was lying. Though, it's possible he was just as embarrassed to be living with his parents as I am.
But who knows. I'm just trying to give insight into an alternative point of view.
As someone who also lives with his parents (embarrassing but moving on)... I'm sorry, but even if we've been invested in one another that long, I wouldn't be the most comfortable with bringing you over. In this situation it's not like your my girlfriend, so it's kind of weird to have you over, introduce you to my parents, etc. Worse, it's not like we would actually get to play, which I assume was most of the reason you would have wanted to go over. Playing with parents around is a major major no-no. Absolutely not.
If you came at me with the same sort of attitude and I were really living with family, then yes, I would respond in the same way. No offense or anything.
But then, given the other excuses it's likely that he was lying. Though, it's possible he was just as embarrassed to be living with his parents as I am.
But who knows. I'm just trying to give insight into an alternative point of view.
Why? I pretty much know all the parents of my friends. You go over for, like, coffee instead of play, and they introduce you: "Mom, Dad, this is so-and-so, a very good friend of mine!". I really don't see the problem.
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I'll clarify and say, it's weird for ME to introduce someone I'm fooling around with (with no intention of girlfriend, for the sake of this conversation) to my parents.
Because it can be weird FOR ME, then I can see how it would potentially be weird for someone else in the same situation.
I couldn't adequately explain why it was weird/uncomfortable after attempting to do so, so please just accept that it is. It's not about logic.
Back to the point, the question never was "Can I come over and meet your mother," but rather "Why can't we do it at your house?" which I had already (attempted) to explain why it wouldn't work for me, who might be in a similar situation.
Because it can be weird FOR ME, then I can see how it would potentially be weird for someone else in the same situation.
I couldn't adequately explain why it was weird/uncomfortable after attempting to do so, so please just accept that it is. It's not about logic.
Back to the point, the question never was "Can I come over and meet your mother," but rather "Why can't we do it at your house?" which I had already (attempted) to explain why it wouldn't work for me, who might be in a similar situation.
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You're probably right in that regard.
And, I might have misread her earlier post. She originally wrote "I'd like to come over, take it or leave it."
Well, I might have misinterpreted how she meant it, so hm. Maybe everything I said is invalidated, since she didn't mention playing in that comment. I'll wait for the op to respond.
And, I might have misread her earlier post. She originally wrote "I'd like to come over, take it or leave it."
Well, I might have misinterpreted how she meant it, so hm. Maybe everything I said is invalidated, since she didn't mention playing in that comment. I'll wait for the op to respond.
