Things female TMF'ers deal with from male TMF'ers....

[The Internet]

Ladies, sisters of the TMF....please, i beg.......vent away....I've heard so many horror stories over the years, over just the last few months.......let this be YOUR space...don't name names, that wouldn't be right.....but let this be an enlightening thread so that others may see.

The TMF is a unique place among other fetish and porn forums in so much as there are many women present, women who actually share this thing. They're not guests of the Forum! They're members. You don't get interaction like this on The Mousepad, or pornhub, I'm not sure some guys appreciate that here.

Take ownership of your TMF, sisters! And ugly as it may be to plop this in the midde of a typically innocuous section, shine a light on what you've learned about men's behavior, male sexuality, whatever......what you've observed, what you've experienced. I've heard lots in private. Archive it here. Or if you want to say nice things too, I'll change the name of this thread, just tell me what you want it to be.

I will not post on this thread again, this is your thread. I hope you populate it, and my advice would be don't address ANY male who tries to bait you into an argument, just ignore 'em. Or not! Who am I to tell you what to do?! Sorry! Do what you want! Get into it, here, on your terms.

I see LOTS of threads where it's guys whining and complaining about women...there's been a spat of them recently.....often in the guise of "hey, just having fun, what's the big deal?!" threads.......never seen one from a woman's point of view, though. Not sure I want to....but maybe we need to have one.....or....maybe you'll report all the guys on the TMF are stand-up fellas! That would be great to hear!

*(and guys, maybe don't post in this thread, let it be a guy-free zone)

 

[chicago]

Lately, the overall vibe within the forum towards women has me kind of bummed out. Add that to the "wow you don't look 29!" comments I've been getting that make me wonder if I should be happy for the physical compliment t or disappointed 29 is apparently elderly and the usual range of PMs I get and it's safe to say I'm a little frustrated lol.

But this shit comes and goes and hopefully it goes soon haha.

Sorry, you did say to vent lol

 

[CapturedDoll]

Lately, the overall vibe within the forum towards women has me kind of bummed out. Add that to the "wow you don't look 29!" comments I've been getting that make me wonder if I should be happy for the physical compliment t or disappointed 29 is apparently elderly and the usual range of PMs I get and it's safe to say I'm a little frustrated lol.

YES. I hate it when guys say to me..."I love older women... ...do you play with younger guys...?" If a Man wants to give a Woman a compliment... if should be done without these elements. You're hot! PERIOD. I'm called now a MILF... and while I understand it's a compliment... I'm not a mother!! I have no children lol. I've tried to think of an alternative...SILF? (Single I'd like 2 Fuck- but I'm not single either.)

I'll be 38 in July. And I just... it's frustrating. I think more like a 22 year old (the 22 me of Generation X) than my current age.. (just with a better skill set.) Even I who sometimes bitches about the new Generation from time to time (about music tastes usually...) I have since realized that THAT needs to stop because it's extremely unfair. Everything has it's place without the ageism. For every group. Yes every person has certain levels of experience as we climb the later to 100. But people need to avoid pointing that out whenever possible. But... even as I write this I have to remember every single category of life gets called out. ""I love heavy people... I love African American people...I love Irish people...I love red heads... I love big boobs.... I love waifs, I love... everyone has a love... Idk.. finding the happy medium in all of this is maybe just acceptance. Still... as far as comments like Chicago and I are talking about... just STOP. It's getting... old. (LOL!)

 

[Wolf]

I wonder, what's more annoying? The misogynistic "all womenz are bad!" rants, or the clumsy "omg you are so hot, I love ____!" compliments?

 

[chicago]

I love compliments when they're not creepy and dont contain a backhanded insult lol

 

[porcelaindoll2]

I've personally noticed the longer I have been on the TMF the less and less guys I have had to deal with. I think also getting married has helped. The one thing I hate is the guys who send me messages where it is very obvious they're trying to get wank fodder from me. "Don't fuck with me fellas it ain't my first time at the rodeo." Playing a game of 20 tickle or foot related questions with me on the first message will make me automatically ignore you. Oh and I know how to reverse image search as well and therfore I'm awesome at spotting fakes(Guys pertending to be females to also get wank fodder.)

 

[maniactickler]

Chicago, you are stunning.

 

[bethaknee]

Hmm...I will say, I had a message where someone sent me a long, detailed account of how they got off to a video of mine that was posted here. And after asking if I wanted to play with them, and I politely declined, he called me a "flake". I laughed over it more than anything. 🙂

 

[Sensualswitch10]

YES. I hate it when guys say to me..."I love older women... ...do you play with younger guys...?" If a Man wants to give a Woman a compliment... if should be done without these elements. You're hot! PERIOD. I'm called now a MILF... and while I understand it's a compliment... I'm not a mother!! I have no children lol. I've tried to think of an alternative...SILF? (Single I'd like 2 Fuck- but I'm not single either.)
(LOL!)

How about we just turn that "M" upside down and call you a WILF? (Woman I'd Like to Fuck)

Oh and You're Hot! PERIOD. You Wilfy Wilf.

 

[CapturedDoll]

How about we just turn that "M" upside down and call you a WILF? (Woman I'd Like to Fuck)

Oh and You're Hot! PERIOD. You Wilfy Wilf.

LOL!!! I'll take that! 🙂 Thank you SS!! *kisses*

 

[CurtWild]

I can't imagine the nonsense I may have said to women here in my first few years that I wouldn't say now.

 

[TLKishRedhead]

I like to say a small % has been positive, most people don't read my profile just see my picture and send a PM, I usually try to be as nice as I can and let them know up front that I have a boyfriend. I think it's just better to ignor some, I don't mind chatting with people, but you aren't really going to get much out of me if I kind of know what your game is.

 

[Sensualswitch10]

I like to say a small % has been positive, most people don't read my profile just see my picture and send a PM, I usually try to be as nice as I can and let them know up front that I have a boyfriend. I think it's just better to ignor some, I don't mind chatting with people, but you aren't really going to get much out of me if I kind of know what your game is.

I read your profile and saw your picture and to be honest, the fact that you're not ticklish makes me ask the universe why????!!!!!!!

 

[TLKishRedhead]

I could be ticklish, but the only one who knows is my boyfriend.

I read your profile and saw your picture and to be honest, the fact that you're not ticklish makes me ask the universe why????!!!!!!!

 

[TicklingTips]

Is it any different to the real world though? You get a mix of very young men/boys with limited social skills and experience with women, and men who have learned enough to come across as adults.

 

[TMF Jeff]

I can't imagine the nonsense I may have said to women here in my first few years that I wouldn't say now.

Ha! Well-said. I never had that here, obviously, but in my earlier days online I shudder to think of what an idiot I must have come across as when trying to relate to girls.

 

[a7hgsir4h3jk]

Luckily most of the guys who message me have been friendly, but there have been some that kept passive-aggressively demanding to see identity-revealing pictures of me, even after I told them I don't like pictures of my face. It kind of hurts that certain people have absolutely no respect for me as a person and are only interested in seeing whether I'm "hot" (which I'm not). Especially when they pretend they don't care about looks even though they clearly do.

 

[duderino84]

Luckily most of the guys who message me have been friendly, but there have been some that kept passive-aggressively demanding to see identity-revealing pictures of me, even after I told them I don't like pictures of my face. It kind of hurts that certain people have absolutely no respect for me as a person and are only interested in seeing whether I'm "hot" (which I'm not). Especially when they pretend they don't care about looks even though they clearly do.

Well, I guess the thing is, people's faces are always out in the open, it's not like TnA, so people think "how bad can it be?". For the record, I'm not impressed with my face either. But I don't let it eat away at me.

 

[Wolf]

Well, I guess the thing is, people's faces are always out in the open, it's not like TnA, so people think "how bad can it be?". For the record, I'm not impressed with my face either. But I don't let it eat away at me.

People's boundaries (and anonymity, if that's their choice) are kind of important, especially when you're discussing fetishes and sexuality. Anything that a creeper can latch onto to find someone, they will; pictures, real names, high school mascots, they'll piece it all together to try uncover someone's identity. And it's not just full-on creepers; there's also plenty of nice guys who are just lonely, who just want to make a connection with a real person, and would never dream of harassing them or outing them. Unless, of course, they felt rejected somehow.

 

[duderino84]

People's boundaries (and anonymity, if that's their choice) are kind of important, especially when you're discussing fetishes and sexuality. Anything that a creeper can latch onto to find someone, they will; pictures, real names, high school mascots, they'll piece it all together to try uncover someone's identity. And it's not just full-on creepers; there's also plenty of nice guys who are just lonely, who just want to make a connection with a real person, and would never dream of harassing them or outing them. Unless, of course, they felt rejected somehow.

....well cyber stalking is another matter. ...I was just referring to people trying to converse.

 

[Wolf]

....well cyber stalking is another matter. ...I was just referring to people trying to converse.

Of course. I'm just saying that "lemme see your picture" may be more of an issue for some people than "how bad can it be?"

 

[Cosmo_ac]

Lately, the overall vibe within the forum towards women has me kind of bummed out. Add that to the "wow you don't look 29!" comments I've been getting that make me wonder if I should be happy for the physical compliment t or disappointed 29 is apparently elderly and the usual range of PMs I get and it's safe to say I'm a little frustrated lol.

Wow...If your 29, your doing better then me.

 

[shippyshippy]

^^^^ lol, Jesus Christ!

 

[desdemona]

Age comments, appearance comments - these are things men receive as well I'm sure. For me, the a/s/l questions used to annoy me, but thankfully, that seems to be less common.

I used to get PMs asking for foot pictures or questions asking what shoes I wear, what shoe size things like that. I think that's why so many women get frustrated with foot ticklers - it seems that's the only part they care about. Is it polite to ask a woman her bra size or her dress size?

I've been asked about smelling my feet, licking, toe sucking, and cumming on my feet. All by strangers. When I've politely refused, I've been called a bitch, a ****, a *****, you name it. Mostly I ignore those who can't seem to understand that the concept of the word NO.

But I will say, for the most part, I seek out those I want to chat with or get to know better. I have far better luck finding what I'm looking for - someone who can carry on a conversation, kinky or otherwise. Not all men on here are mouth breathers and many do have normal social skills. You just have to look - like in real life.

 

[chicago]

Wow...If your 29, your doing better then me.

Um... thanks? Are humans supposed to fall apart after 25 or is it just females?

As far as pic sharing goes, I admit, I probably wouldn't get close to or chat very deeply with anyone unwilling to share a pic after a couple chats. There are just too many ingenuous people on here, that I've made that rule for myself.