Things female TMF'ers deal with from male TMF'ers....

[Sensualswitch10]

You went to school in a Van Halen video?

Perhaps it was Halloween?

 

[EmbraceSerenity]

Hilariously, I have a teacher who occasionally comes to class wearing things like that. Once she wore a schoolgirl outfit. It was hilarious.

that sounds so bad. It would actually be pretty unprofessional. lol

 

[MuadDib211]

Lol again, I figured 29 was still young enough to not be shocked when a person doesn't look aged lol

Glad to known I look good for an old hag

So ya know how you walk into a liquor store, and there's always that sign that says something like, "if you don't look 21, we ask for ID"? Those always confused me... "If you don't look 21"... Well if you can tell what 21 looks like, then you don't really need to see ID then, do you? I never did get that...

Maybe it's the same for 29. People think they know what that ought to look like. Ah hell, I don't know. Not even trying to defend it. Mostly I'm just confused by those signs. 😕

 

[chicago]

They're supposed to card you if you look under 40, actually. And yeah, maybe that explains it, but it doesn't make it less insulting

 

[Aeveirra]

OMG , this is the perfect thread to vent about this 🙂

I have tried to put with quite a bit of stuff, but sometimes things still get to me. When I first joined this site, I didn't know female lees were a minority.
(At least, I'm pretty sure we are... There appears to be way more guys)
I thought it was a little weird, because I had always assumed more females had a tickling fetish than guys did.
But.... That was before I realized there are two types of interests in tickling fetishism: being a Ler , or a Lee.
Before coming here, it had never occurred to me that people could be turned on solely by tickling another. And most lers tend to be guys, out looking for female lees (like myself, and many others on here).
And it's almost like..... We are fodder for them.

When I sign into the chatroom, this is where I realized girls are treated differently than guys are.
As soon as I log on, I'm hit with 5-8 private chat messages at once.
And no, I don't consider this type of attention a "good thing".
Mainly because its from guys who just want to RP with me.

And "RP" in the chatroom is NOT normal role play. It has de-volved to little more than sexting.

~~~~ This has happened to me too often:
If a guy starts Cybering me in the middle of the conversation, and I tell him I would rather not do that - he just says "ok, bye", and closes the chat window. The same goes for people start role playing; if I say I would rather not - Most often, the person I'm chatting with just leaves me. 🙁
Which....is very upsetting. It makes me feel like the only reason that person wanted to talk to me, was to play out his tickle-fantasies, and tht he didn't actually care about getting to know me. 🙁
(Has this happened to anyone else??
Because, It has happened to me over a dozen times by now)

I'm not a feminist or anything, but I can't help but notice how girls on here are talked to / about. Is like, we are regarded as nameless tickle-meat.
Or, like as toys for Lers to play around with.

Some people might be into the RP aspect of that.... But personally, I'm not.
Also, I'm a person, with feelings. And I'm not here to act as a "free phone sex-line" for anyone who asks.
***Thats what I feel "RP"IMG has been reduced to (on the chatroom).

It would be nice if guys didn't just want to talk to me for sole reason that I'm female. Instead, they should be messaging me (and all other girls on here) with a genuine interest in getting to know us.


Sadly... Guys and girls have different thought patterns.
And while what I say might make total sense to girls, e guys reading this would be like "hah, yeah whatever".
Oh well.... I tried :/

 

[bethaknee]

OMG , this is the perfect thread to vent about this 🙂

I have tried to put with quite a bit of stuff, but sometimes things still get to me. When I first joined this site, I didn't know female lees were a minority.
(At least, I'm pretty sure we are... There appears to be way more guys)
I thought it was a little weird, because I had always assumed more females had a tickling fetish than guys did.
But.... That was before I realized there are two types of interests in tickling fetishism: being a Ler , or a Lee.
Before coming here, it had never occurred to me that people could be turned on solely by tickling another. And most lers tend to be guys, out looking for female lees (like myself, and many others on here).
And it's almost like..... We are fodder for them.

When I sign into the chatroom, this is where I realized girls are treated differently than guys are.
As soon as I log on, I'm hit with 5-8 private chat messages at once.
And no, I don't consider this type of attention a "good thing".
Mainly because its from guys who just want to RP with me.

And "RP" in the chatroom is NOT normal role play. It has de-volved to little more than sexting.

~~~~ This has happened to me too often:
If a guy starts Cybering me in the middle of the conversation, and I tell him I would rather not do that - he just says "ok, bye", and closes the chat window. The same goes for people start role playing; if I say I would rather not - Most often, the person I'm chatting with just leaves me. 🙁
Which....is very upsetting. It makes me feel like the only reason that person wanted to talk to me, was to play out his tickle-fantasies, and tht he didn't actually care about getting to know me. 🙁
(Has this happened to anyone else??
Because, It has happened to me over a dozen times by now)

I'm not a feminist or anything, but I can't help but notice how girls on here are talked to / about. Is like, we are regarded as nameless tickle-meat.
Or, like as toys for Lers to play around with.

Some people might be into the RP aspect of that.... But personally, I'm not.
Also, I'm a person, with feelings. And I'm not here to act as a "free phone sex-line" for anyone who asks.
***Thats what I feel "RP"IMG has been reduced to (on the chatroom).

It would be nice if guys didn't just want to talk to me for sole reason that I'm female. Instead, they should be messaging me (and all other girls on here) with a genuine interest in getting to know us.


Sadly... Guys and girls have different thought patterns.
And while what I say might make total sense to girls, e guys reading this would be like "hah, yeah whatever".
Oh well.... I tried :/

Yeah, I get that as well. It really sucks. I have found people who do want to talk to me as an actual person, but damn if they are few and far in between. Those people, I consider my TRUE friends. 🙂

 

[Tenebrae]

I had no idea. I mean, I know some guys can really be "heavy handed" when flirting with girls, but damn! What you girls are describing here is wholly another level. I never really understood that "roleplay" thing, and why people are so much into it. I really do not like the concept, nor do I get why there are so many people who indulge. But then again, to each one their own taste... In any case, a big thank you to the TMF women for staying here despite the trouble/harassment! I would hate it if this was a "men only" sort of club.

To broaden the topic a little, I wonder if this kind of things also happens to guys. I personally never got harassed by any girl here, asking me to upload my picture or treating me like wank-fodder. I do remember though seeing a topic a while back, of a guy about whom someone had successfully spread a rumor that he was a lesbian. It was achieved through hacking his profile if I remember correctly. As a result, he got flooded with messages from lusty females, who turned into angry females as soon as they found out he was not who he was supposed to be.

I wonder also if the trollish behavior stems from the fact that the forum has a majority of males among its members. Like, bigger numbers mathematically increase the chances that there will be a higher rate of jerks among them? Does the reverse happen on other communities where there is a majority of females?

 

[SlaverTickler]

I had no idea. I mean, I know some guys can really be "heavy handed" when flirting with girls, but damn! What you girls are describing here is wholly another level. I never really understood that "roleplay" thing, and why people are so much into it. I really do not like the concept, nor do I get why there are so many people who indulge. But then again, to each one their own taste... In any case, a big thank you to the TMF women for staying here despite the trouble/harassment! I would hate it if this was a "men only" sort of club.

To broaden the topic a little, I wonder if this kind of things also happens to guys. I personally never got harassed by any girl here, asking me to upload my picture or treating me like wank-fodder. I do remember though seeing a topic a while back, of a guy about whom someone had successfully spread a rumor that he was a lesbian. It was achieved through hacking his profile if I remember correctly. As a result, he got flooded with messages from lusty females, who turned into angry females as soon as they found out he was not who he was supposed to be.

I wonder also if the trollish behavior stems from the fact that the forum has a majority of males among its members. Like, bigger numbers mathematically increase the chances that there will be a higher rate of jerks among them? Does the reverse happen on other communities where there is a majority of females?

I used to get harassed in the chat room everytime I went in, that's why I stopped going. And a former male memeber of the forum was sexually assaulted at NEST.

 

[Tenebrae]

I used to get harassed in the chat room everytime I went in, that's why I stopped going. And a former male memeber of the forum was sexually assaulted at NEST.

Wait, come again? Sexually assaulted, really? That's... that's just awful! And NEST used to have such a great reputation! When was that? What happened? Was there any legal procedure engaged afterwards?

 

[SlaverTickler]

Wait, come again? Sexually assaulted, really? That's... that's just awful! And NEST used to have such a great reputation! When was that? What happened? Was there any legal procedure engaged afterwards?

Well its like this, Tickle Emperor (Rob) was involved with a bondage exhibition with woman and another man. Emperor and the other male were both hog tied. Emperor asked the fenale forum member to blow a raspberry on his stomach and she said "I don't do that" and the nan said he would do it. Emperor objected to that but the female member didn't care what he wanted and held him in place so the male could do it anyway. Since sexual assault can be any form of unwanted touching that would make this an example of sexual assault.

To make matters worse this female member called into the old TMF Radio when Snail Shell & Tickle Emperor were hosting their show after this NEST (Fit's been a few years since this happened) and talked about how cute she thought what happened was. I don't believe she or her accomplis faced any ramifications of any sort for this.

Now if you'll excuse me this thread makes me want to puke. I've put most people in it on my ignore lust.

Have a good day Tenebrae.

 

[milagros317]

I used to get harassed in the chat room everytime I went in, that's why I stopped going. And a former male memeber of the forum was sexually assaulted at NEST.

When was this? Did it happen in private in a hotel room or in a public play area? Did he call the police?

 

[chicago]

Welcome back slaver. I dunno if you saw the title of the thread is referring to ladies here. I would suggest making your own thread before hijacking this one.

Also, it's kind of unbecoming telling someone else's personal business on the public forum. I think that's probably best left to the person to tell. I mean, I don't think you've ever gone to a NEST

 

[SlaverTickler]

When was this? Did it happen in private in a hotel room or in a public play area? Did he call the police?

From what I know of it, it was in front of a group, during what I guess you could call a Bomdage Exhibition. No he never reported it to the police, probably out of embarrassment. I'm suprised you don't know about it Mils we've both been members of the forum for some time. If you want anymore information about it you should talk to Rob himself. I only brought it up because I hate this thread, I feel it is demonizing and hateful in nature. I have no desire to return to it, including that it could turn into a "Flame War" and I am basically on probation with the mods.

 

[Wolf]

From what I know of it, it was in front of a group, during what I guess you could call a Bomdage Exhibition. No he never reported it to the police, probably out of embarrassment. I'm suprised you don't know about it Mils we've both been members of the forum for some time. If you want anymore information about it you should talk to Rob himself. I only brought it up because I hate this thread, I feel it is demonizing and hateful in nature. I have no desire to return to it, including that it could turn into a "Flame War" and I am basically on probation with the mods.

So, you're just testing the boundaries?

 

[Tenebrae]

Welcome back slaver. I dunno if you saw the title of the thread is referring to ladies here. I would suggest making your own thread before hijacking this one.

Well, it's my fault, really. I am the one who expressed curiosity towards "the other side" of things, like if males also got harassed, etc... He only replied to my question, and then unexpectedly came up with this NEST story, which *is* sort of off-topic. But given its outstanding nature, I simply could not just leave it there.

I maintain however that you can have a discussion about what females endure and evoke the male point of view at the same time. As I said, I have never been victim of similar outrageous behavior from the female members, and was wondering if there was a reason behind that.

 

[chicago]

I believe that it's possible but I don't think it's possible on TMF. The number of threads with similiar topics that have been locked, closed, deleted recently lead me to believe there are just too many trolls and people unable to discuss these subjects without blatant GR violations or offensive hate speech. Knowing Slavers history and why he was banned in the first place is also why I responded to him the way I did.

 

[Tenebrae]

I am sorry, what is a "GR violation"? I am afraid I do not understand that term.

I see your point. And believe me, I do know that he can be unpleasant at times. In fact, he's the only guy here who has ever insulted me (as well as a good friend of mine) during a discussion. But I am always trying to have a civil discussion as much as possible, with everyone. If the moderators are giving him another shot at it, my view is that I can go with it and see what happens, regardless of what happened in the past.

Now I hope we haven't killed this thread, and can keep talking about the matter at hand 😀

 

[Bugman]

I am sorry, what is a "GR violation"? I am afraid I do not understand that term.

I see your point. And believe me, I do know that he can be unpleasant at times. In fact, he's the only guy here who has ever insulted me (as well as a good friend of mine) during a discussion. But I am always trying to have a civil discussion as much as possible, with everyone. If the moderators are giving him another shot at it, my view is that I can go with it and see what happens, regardless of what happened in the past.

Now I hope we haven't killed this thread, and can keep talking about the matter at hand 😀

GR=Golden Rule. If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything. With that, I leave you all to discuss the matter.

 

[Tenebrae]

Aah I see. Thank you kindly for your answer. I get lost sometimes with all those abbrevations~

 

[chicago]

Jus' sayin', not a day after he's unbanned, he hops on this thread, which has a pretty clear title, to shit on the carpet and leave.

 

[bethaknee]

Jus' sayin', not a day after he's unbanned, he hops on this thread, which has a pretty clear title, to shit on the carpet and leave.

So...was he mad because it's a female based thread complaining about things that some males do on the forum? Basically just telling the truth? Seems kind of weird.

 

[chicago]

It is weird, but he has a history of that type of shit.

So to get this train back on the track. Another thing I hate as a female on the TMF: posts like that from sexist trolls who don't learn their lesson