Things female TMF'ers deal with from male TMF'ers....

[desdemona]

Um... thanks? Are humans supposed to fall apart after 25 or is it just females?

No, it's 40 😛

I don't care about pics... I'm really never going to meet most of the folks I chat with. And if I do, well, then yeah, we'll probably exchange a pic beforehand. But it's true, there are fakes out there. I just don't need to see a visual (that can also be faked or photoshopped). I'd rather skype or talk on the phone or something.

 

[porcelaindoll2]

Um... thanks? Are humans supposed to fall apart after 25 or is it just females?

As far as pic sharing goes, I admit, I probably wouldn't get close to or chat very deeply with anyone unwilling to share a pic after a couple chats. There are just too many ingenuous people on here, that I've made that rule for myself.

Lol the only place I know of where it is bad luck to be over 25 and this is if you're single is Japan.
https://japanqna.wordpress.com/2007/12/20/christmas-cake-and-japanese-women/

 

[TKLVR18]

So here's a scenario I've come across maybe a few dozen times in the past few years since I started chatting in the chatroom here. A guy will find out I'm a female switch and pc me asking for an rp where I'm the lee. Fantastic, frankly if I'm IN the chatroom that's probably what I want. So I proceed to tell them a few limits I have. Not really into anything terribly enemy-ish nor overtly sexual. Usually no problem there. Bondage is fine but I'd rather it be light and loose rather than shibari type. No problem there. I'm married so I like to keep my pants on. Moooost of the time, that's fine and guys are perfect gentlemen about my preference to be a playful lee.

Then I mention I'm in a wheelchair and not only are my feet not ticklish, but I cannot feel them.

I usually get one of three responses. In fairness the majority of guys, even foot guys, go "that's fine I'm not exclusively about feet" and it's all good. Then there are the idiots who say "well can't you pretend to feel them?" or "can I worship them anyway?"

That's annoying as fudge. No I'm not going to do that, what exactly do you think I'm going to get out of that?!

And then, a startlingly high percentage of time, they'll just disappear when they discover this about my feet. Like, they not only close the windows but they also log out of the chatroom itself. If it were just a few times I'd chalk it up to internet issues or coincidence but it's a pattern. Is my lack of ability to feel my feet really such a turn-off that people just go 'ugh, I don't want to be here anymore' and fuck off? Really makes me feel upset sometimes. Thankfully I have actual friends I can go to and they, well, make me feel better 😀

~K

 

[Wolf]

Um... thanks? Are humans supposed to fall apart after 25 or is it just females?

Just women. Men are allowed to age past 25 and still be considered sexually attractive. I mean, women can still look good after 25, as they're properly thankful for the attention. Because your only value is in how you look.


Jeez, I get a headache just typing that.

 

[sonnymadler]

Just women. Men are allowed to age past 25 and still be considered sexually attractive. I mean, women can still look good after 25, as they're properly thankful for the attention. Because your only value is in how you look.


Jeez, I get a headache just typing that.

I honestly don't know how to perceive this comment... 😕

 

[TKLVR18]

I honestly don't know how to perceive this comment... 😕

As sarcasm I think XD

 

[Wolf]

I honestly don't know how to perceive this comment... 😕

I was commenting on society's shitty attitudes; hence, the headache.

 

[sonnymadler]

I still don't get it...nevermind.

 

[Wolf]

I honestly don't know how to perceive this comment... 😕

I was commenting on society's shitty attitudes; hence, the headache.

 

[shippyshippy]

The context clues are out there, my dear boy! Make an adventure of it and solve the perception!

 

[Vanillaphant]

So here's a scenario I've come across maybe a few dozen times in the past few years since I started chatting in the chatroom here. A guy will find out I'm a female switch and pc me asking for an rp where I'm the lee. Fantastic, frankly if I'm IN the chatroom that's probably what I want. So I proceed to tell them a few limits I have. Not really into anything terribly enemy-ish nor overtly sexual. Usually no problem there. Bondage is fine but I'd rather it be light and loose rather than shibari type. No problem there. I'm married so I like to keep my pants on. Moooost of the time, that's fine and guys are perfect gentlemen about my preference to be a playful lee.

Then I mention I'm in a wheelchair and not only are my feet not ticklish, but I cannot feel them.

I usually get one of three responses. In fairness the majority of guys, even foot guys, go "that's fine I'm not exclusively about feet" and it's all good. Then there are the idiots who say "well can't you pretend to feel them?" or "can I worship them anyway?"

That's annoying as fudge. No I'm not going to do that, what exactly do you think I'm going to get out of that?!

And then, a startlingly high percentage of time, they'll just disappear when they discover this about my feet. Like, they not only close the windows but they also log out of the chatroom itself. If it were just a few times I'd chalk it up to internet issues or coincidence but it's a pattern. Is my lack of ability to feel my feet really such a turn-off that people just go 'ugh, I don't want to be here anymore' and fuck off? Really makes me feel upset sometimes. Thankfully I have actual friends I can go to and they, well, make me feel better 😀

~K

Oh boy. Oh boy oh boy oh boy. I’m pretty sure this is the most I’ve ever cringed at a TMF comment. Usually I’m very reluctant to criticize collective male behaviour, for the reason that it can sometimes come across like self-promotion: I’m not like the other guys sort of thing lol. But in this case I feel pretty comfortable making an exception! TKLVR18, these people are pricks. I mean monumental pricks. But then, you probably didn’t need me to tell you that! lol I guess it’s only natural that having to deal with this behaviour would get you down sometimes… But honestly, such people are not worthy of your emotions. They simply don’t matter.

I’m genuinely flabbergasted.

 

[TKLVR18]

Oh boy. Oh boy oh boy oh boy. I’m pretty sure this is the most I’ve ever cringed at a TMF comment. Usually I’m very reluctant to criticize collective male behaviour, for the reason that it can sometimes come across like self-promotion: I’m not like the other guys sort of thing lol. But in this case I feel pretty comfortable making an exception! TKLVR18, these people are pricks. I mean monumental pricks. But then, you probably didn’t need me to tell you that! lol I guess it’s only natural that having to deal with this behaviour would get you down sometimes… But honestly, such people are not worthy of your emotions. They simply don’t matter.

I’m genuinely flabbergasted.

Like I said, those are thankfully in the minority of my interactions, and I know far more people with a foot fetish who are willing to rp with me than who are not (some of them outright being my favorite people to rp with). It's just a mild annoyance at this point, something that can sometimes put me in an annoyed mood but far from able to hurt my feelings. My husband and real friends can usually tell immediately when something like this has happened to me by my mood-and like I said, they know how to set me right xD

~K

 

[a7hgsir4h3jk]

Thank you, Wolf. I've always appreciated your inputs.

Well, I guess the thing is, people's faces are always out in the open, it's not like TnA, so people think "how bad can it be?". For the record, I'm not impressed with my face either. But I don't let it eat away at me.

I'm not letting it eat away at me. I see no reason to upload pictures of my face. That's my decision, and I shouldn't have to justify it. Why is that so hard for some people to accept? I don't care if it's considered abnormal; I'm not going to show my entire face if it makes me uncomfortable.

Most of the time, thankfully, people either have a genuine interest in my personality and don't even ask about my appearance, or they just drop the issue once I tell them I don't like cameras and continue on with the conversation. I get that some people are curious to know what I look like, but my issue is when guys are overly persistent about it. Because fuck my discomfort, right? These guys need to see my face.

If this decision makes me a catfish or a man or just a "bitch", then so be it. But to be honest, a real catfish probably would provide multiple images which they stole off the internet. In all honesty I'd rather have a few people reject me than risk having my own pictures stolen off the internet just to please some wanker or two.

FYI, the last person who did that was not just "trying to converse". He was actually quite the asshole about it.

 

[MistressMia]

I don't experience negative interaction with males very often. Probably because I don't suffer fools at all. I have had only one person think he was entitled to my time and I shut him down quick lightening. "I've got 99 problems and"... you know the rest! I've had a few inappropriate incidences online, but again they got shut down.

I have had time-wasters, bullshitters, and wank mongers contact me and all have been dealt with with as little downtime as possible. But, needless to say, I still get them just like any other female on here except I'm a pro and therefore have an extra layer of armor.

Also, I always remain as composed, dignified and polite as possible and if that doesn't work, I ignore, block, delete, ban or add to my blacklist which I aptly named "Bullshitters" in my gmail. lol

Unfortunately, as with much else in life, this is a male dominated platform and as women we just have to learn to navigate through it. Hopefully, as time goes on we (as women) will be treated, respected and fully integrated as equals, but that won't be for another 30-40 years at least.

In short, yes ladies, there are still a few cavemen out there, but some of them are well-meaning and harmless. 😉

With love,
Mia

 

[Cosmo_ac]

Um... thanks? Are humans supposed to fall apart after 25 or is it just females?

Different people age differently, partially because of lifestyle, partially because of genetics, and partially because of environment. Looking at your pic I would never have guessed you were 29, but several years younger. Sadly, people like myself aren't so lucky, though premature greying doesn't help.

 

[chicago]

Lol again, I figured 29 was still young enough to not be shocked when a person doesn't look aged lol

Glad to known I look good for an old hag

 

[Cosmo_ac]

my apologies if what was supposed to be a compliment offended.

 

[chicago]

Lol when it's a compliment mixed with a comment about how old I am, it kind of doesn't feel like a compliment. In my opinion, it comes off like "hey you look pretty good even though you're old" lol

Like if I said "You look good for a bald guy". Comes off as a backhanded dig when I could have left out that part entirely...

 

[Cosmo_ac]

No dig was intended, but fair point. Apologies again for any offence given.

 

[chicago]

You're good, was just trying to clarify. Thanks for being cool.

 

[sonnymadler]

*sigh* I got critiqued a few times (in a friendly manner, mind you) by women for bringing up their age and looks, and since I've been trying to avoid it. Less embarrassment for the both us.

 

[EmbraceSerenity]

aside from the, "what do you look like?" "why don't you upload face pics?" etc I get a lot of work related questions that I'm sick of. "Do your students tickle you?" "would you like to be tickled at work?" no no, thats disgusting. I get that is a common fantasy but I'm sick of talking about it, and of catering to your silly fantasy of the teacher in nylons, no one goes to work like that, its just not realistic.

 

[ISUmark]

I cant imagine the crap the women here have to put up with. Kudos for stickin around and enjoying the community. Its probably hopeful to think that for every creepy person that's here theres 10 cool people, but regardless there are some pretty chill and respectful people here if you know where to look.

 

[CTS Film Crew]

I'm sick of talking about it, and of catering to your silly fantasy of the teacher in nylons, no one goes to work like that, its just not realistic.

Hilariously, I have a teacher who occasionally comes to class wearing things like that. Once she wore a schoolgirl outfit. It was hilarious.

 

[Wolf]

Hilariously, I have a teacher who occasionally comes to class wearing things like that. Once she wore a schoolgirl outfit. It was hilarious.

You went to school in a Van Halen video?