to be honest Jim it felt a litle jumbled when i typed i t so let me try to ellaborate on what i was thinking and see if my opinion can bring any value to the discussion. The origional question that was posed by lonely was "why did she feel an increased desire to be tickled when depressed?"
the prevailing school of thought from the neurological community was that the person would be craving the inhanced release of endorphgins that hit the bllodstream when someone is tickled that would in turn cause a pleasurable euphoric state,. and bye bye depression. I think that if you were dealing with someone who experienced inhanced sexuall cravings then that would be a simple enough answer, but after countless threads we know that tickling of itself while in most cases vary sexuall is a different cat all together.
Consider this. In the rest of the SM world, of shich i believe we are the cherrished younger sibling now, the most incomprehensable form of torture know to man is TICKLING, without question. the next two form osf torture that would be considered the most torturous are orgasm denial, and thirdly forced orgasms especially with the female body in of itself being able to produce so many in one sitting >: ). you need look no further than tc video, and the new and exciting tickle horror.com to see that the last two have for some reason become the ultimate climax to tickle torture (and the tmf has a lot of great stories that incorporate them "katy and the mentor", "the jennifer series" to name a few). my question a few years ago was why do people enjoy what is widely considered to be the most torturous forms of torture in the world. Just look at the superlative tickle torture that implies a large degree of loos of controll, that is needed to make the experience enjoyable. take my Girlfrend for example. her biggest complaint in life has been hat all of her former lers, have been to soft and not Sadistic enough. now i know this isnt everybody, but i think it would be the overwhelming majority.
what type of person gets a thrill from being tormented in such a way while restrained. who would willingly subject themselves to something like that. there is a psychological name for it. Its called Masochistic behavior. the desire to feel out of controll. the desire to feel punished in some cases. that is why the bondage plays in, the domination, all that great stuff is because we are just dealing with a division of masochistic behavior.
If anyone saw the movie the secretary, the lead charecter in the movie was a pain masochist and as a result when she was depressed she cut herself, to bring about the painful sensation, and as they describe it "confirm the one thing in reality that they feel is real" in our case what seems prevelant is that when some lees not all feel as though they are somewhat or in some cases completely out of controll in somesituations they fell the need to confirm that they are out of controll, or make it okay, by having the living crap tickled out of them. which is fun for the time, but i think that the long term solution for the depression would be to carefully analyze what might be making you feel out of controll in a situation and just reafirm to yourself that you do have choices and options and that things are going to be okay, and in turn the 99% of your life in which you are not being tickle tortured will be more enjoyable, and the 1% when you are will be more about the balanced relationship with the person and less about the self medicating experience in of itself.
The premise for my subtle disagreement is my personal conviction that we are not slaves to our neurology, but that it is a slave to us. I think that ofcourse there are predispositions that are going to affect us reguardless for the rest of our lives, but i think the reason for that is because of a continuall amount of choices that we dont want to change. I choose to continue liking the idea of tying a beautiful woman very securely and slowly tickle torturing her. but i do it with the concious knowledge that it is an expression of my subconcious desire to have greater overall controll in my life, and in turn to satisfy the rest of me i make sure that i constantly work on being more assertive and outgoing to know that i am in controll of everything that happens to me. a long time ago at a time i am not concious of i made the connection from tickling someone i was close with that i enjoyed bringing them laughter and not a true sense of pain, which i why i prefer the feather to the whip, and thank god i am squeemish, because ted bundy's life must have sucked, and i think that is probably the case for all of us at some point. but i refuse to believe that i am jsut hardwire addicted to something without a choice.
