Why Are You Afraid Of Being Associated With This Site Publicly?

[meangry]

Holy hot Christ duderino84.

Stop. With. The. Cryptic. Posting.

Everything is some cryptic or veiled stance on the world at large, and you can't even clearly articulate these things. And, shit, when people do try to engage and either try to understand or try to help with your nonstop, rain-cloud-overhead-about-the-world-at-large sentiment, it's always deflected like you either don't care, or you got all the answers, or that someone else is goading you.

It's cringe inducing.

You're not The Dude. You care way too much and have too much pent up...whatever...about relationships, about your own fetish, about whatever, that it permeates almost every single thing here. Black cloud over head. Kicking rocks in the lake. It's ludicrous. Either deal with your circumstances or change them.

 

[CapturedDoll]

Edit: Never mind...

 

[Aeveirra]

I'm guessing you saw my response about posting photos of yourself on here....
But in general, I'm not afraid of / ashamed of being associated with this site.

In the furry community, I'm a pretty well known traditional tickle-artist;
So, most of my friends know I'm into tickling. 🙂 hehe
It's not embarrassing or anything; personally, I think tickling is the best kink to have.
(and it's the most tame / "normal" when compared to other fetishes.)

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HOWEVER - I don't want it being publicly known that I'm a member of the TMF.
For instance, its why I'm against posting photos of myself on here.
***If you haven't seen my original post about this, then here's a brief summary of why:

The TMF is technically a "fetish site". Well, I mean... It IS. Lol
and I'd be concerned about something like a future job doing a background check on me via Internet search. In 5 years from now or so, there may be better facial recognition searching. No one knows for sure. But one day it may be easier than it is now to locate a persons online accounts
I really don't want any potential bosses or coworkers finding pictures of me here,
(or just knowing I'm a member) cus they'd obviously figure out tickling is my biggest fetish.
It would just be a little embarrassing. And there's some things in my life I just prefer to stay private.

Its not really everyone's business to know what my personal sexual preferences are.
Especially if could effect how a potential future boss would view me.
Lol... I can't even imagine if, while doing an Internet search of me - they find my posts about how much I love being bound and mercilessly tickled.
What would I even say to that? "Oh, that's.... um.....not a picture of me..?."
Haha, yeah right! 😛

So.... For me, It's a bit more complicated than simple embarrassment about association with the TMF. It's more like; I would prefer it if some people didn't know I have Knismolagnia.

 

[a7hgsir4h3jk]

Fuck knows what's actually going on in here, but I did see a good post on page 7:

As I see it, the problem with being public about a fetish is that some people think it entitles them to have a say on your sex life.

You're a man who likes tickling? You must be a predator, because apparently men have no agency over their impulses, I will shame you forever!
You're a woman who likes tickling? You are a ***** for thinking about sex, also I will tickle you haha wanna bang?

Of course this is not everyone, but the risk is not worth the reward. My partner and closest friends know about my fetish and that's it.

 

[closedeyesdream]

Fuck knows what's actually going on in here, but I did see a good post on page 7:

I am a completely vain person so you noticing my post made my day

*slides a $20 under the table* thanks mate

 

[smokinj]

Back to the original topic, it's embarrassing for others to know about so it's private. I like keeping some parts of my life secret.

 

[kcantankerous]

"Back to the original topic, it's embarrassing for others to know about so it's private. I like keeping some parts of my life secret. "- smokinj

Hello,

I am assuming "private" means tickling is sexual for you? Is this site something you would keep secret from your significant other?

Thanks,

K

 

[David1975]

Because I'm basically calling tickling our version of the end-game between being single and not being single.

Mind blown

 

[David1975]

People simply can't know I'm into this. They can't. It would do tremendous damage to my professional life

I'm really thinking about what a ridiculous secret this is to manage and there is absolutely a need. Last week I arranged to spend an evening with a cuddler. I drove several hours out of my way to ensure secrecy. I rented a room, spent three hours with her and was able to enjoy some light tickling. I have told no one about this and that's the way it will stay. (Except for you guys).

When I really think about what I've done to enjoy the fetish and keep it a secret I don't even know what to say.

 

[Bohemianne]

This is my punishment for asking if women get preferential treatment because they have eggs.

Which of course couldn't be further from the truth because we're all equal, so men lay eggs too. Just a different shape...

Heh. Your male anatomy only dispatch (your) eggs, right? It's not equal, unless you sit on top of the egg like a rooster does. It is women who cook the eggs to full term. Anyway, I appreciate that you are aware of this invisible consideration the society gives when "women are given temporary preferential treatment" because of fragile situations. 😉

Not meant to derail the thread.\\\\\\

 

[duderino84]

Heh.* Your male anatomy only dispatch (your) eggs, right?* It's not equal, unless you sit on top of the egg like a rooster does.* It is women who cook the eggs to full term.* Anyway, I appreciate that you are aware of this invisible consideration the society gives when "women are given temporary preferential treatment" because of fragile situations.* 😉

Not meant to derail the thread.\\\\\\

I guess since I'm being prompted for a response I'll give in.

Exactly my point. And dispatching equates to nil. Fertilizing the eggs is as close as we come. And it is not the same as having eggs. It's just a part of the process. Having eggs or the ability to do so is silently recognized and respected. Temporary has little to do
with* it.

Why do I put it this way?* Sooooo a friend was talking to me and it came up that the ex-girlfriend of a mutual friend ended up hooking with another mutual friend. She had kids with the first guy. My friend's reaction was "I hope this doesn't create conflict between the two, this is a potential issue, etc". Mine was one of "if she wants to move on to another person the only person who really has the ability to make a decision is her.". Why? Because whatever she chooses will prettymuch just be accepted. If the baby daddy is detached and regular Joe want to relate. ..who cares?

However, if this situation were between a guy and two women, it's just "cheating", no?

People simply can't know I'm into this. They can't. It would do tremendous damage to my professional life

I'm really thinking about what a ridiculous secret this is to manage and there is absolutely a need. Last week I arranged to spend an evening with a cuddler. I drove several hours out of my way to ensure secrecy. I rented a room, spent three hours with her and was able to enjoy some light tickling. I have told no one about this and that's the way it will stay. (Except for you guys).

When I really think about what I've done to enjoy the fetish and keep it a secret I don't even know what to say.

So you'd never want to establish regularity? You just want to clean the slate every time? What's the big career?

 

[CapturedDoll]

Edit: Erased

 

[Helena Ticklish]

7/10 pp here are creeps, too many fakes in the chat-room.

 

[Bohemianne]

Now I am beginning to have a working theory why several males in this forum would like to act like having eggs. The end.

 

[duderino84]

Now I am beginning to have a working theory why several males in this forum would like to act like having eggs. The end.

Or is it?

 

[kcantankerous]

Hello,

Can we stay on topic? Usually I don't care, but some interesting posts are getting drowned out.

Thanks,

K

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Hello,

Can we stay on topic? Usually I don't care, but some interesting posts are getting drowned out.

Thanks,

K

Actually, I'd say the way this thread devolved is a prime example of why I don't want to be associated with this site publicly.

 

[CapturedDoll]

Well I just deleted as much as much of my part in all this as I could. I'm sorry to the thread creator for my part. It's not fair that you or anyone in this thread have to be forced to read posts that are of no relation to the topic. I was trying to do a tough love approach with duderino... and it didn't work. And it made me look bad. So... up until now I have avoided drama quite well. So I'd much rather get back to that ASAP!

Duderino I'm sorry for putting you on the spot like I have. I will no longer be engaging or responding to any posts of yours about your love life, or tickling in general. We just don't mesh in our views. And that's ok. Music threads I will be from time to time but we seem to have different tastes there too. Anything else but your personal views on love and tickling. And if there's board drama I'm just gonna stay out of that too. I like helping people but at the end of the day it's not my job. Nor would I want it to be. So... I apologize for calling you out. For right or wrong... it was wrong... PERIOD. I'm just here to have fun.

 

[smokinj]

"Back to the original topic, it's embarrassing for others to know about so it's private. I like keeping some parts of my life secret. "- smokinj

Hello,

I am assuming "private" means tickling is sexual for you? Is this site something you would keep secret from your significant other?

Thanks,

K

Absolutely it's not shared with my girlfriend or anyone besides you fine people.

 

[closedeyesdream]

People simply can't know I'm into this. They can't. It would do tremendous damage to my professional life

I'm really thinking about what a ridiculous secret this is to manage and there is absolutely a need. Last week I arranged to spend an evening with a cuddler. I drove several hours out of my way to ensure secrecy. I rented a room, spent three hours with her and was able to enjoy some light tickling. I have told no one about this and that's the way it will stay. (Except for you guys).

When I really think about what I've done to enjoy the fetish and keep it a secret I don't even know what to say.

My colleagues wouldn't mind if they find out, my career attracts open minded people. My clients, however, can be from industries that take themselves very seriously. They wouldn't want any association with sex, not even something as vague as an associate mentioned on a fetish site, regardless of me being a man or a woman.

I get where you're coming from, but your close ones must know other secrets that they don't use against you, so you might be safe telling them? That is of course if you want to. I've been paranoid about this for years so I understand why would anyone be extra careful.

 

[kcantankerous]

Absolutely it's not shared with my girlfriend or anyone besides you fine people.

Hello,

Your tickling fetish is shared with her though? I ask because some members have expressed hiding the fetish itself from spouses. As for this site, what would make you the most likely to share this place w your GF? I mean strech your imagination. I am just curious.

Thanks,

K

 

[smokinj]

Hello,

Your tickling fetish is shared with her though? I ask because some members have expressed hiding the fetish itself from spouses. As for this site, what would make you the most likely to share this place w your GF? I mean strech your imagination. I am just curious.

Thanks,

K

Yeah I don't share my fetish with her and she doesn't know I'm a member of this site. It's simply something that is for me alone. That's how I choose to keep it. Nothing more to tell.

 

[Wolf]

Yeah I don't share my fetish with her and she doesn't know I'm a member of this site. It's simply something that is for me alone. That's how I choose to keep it. Nothing more to tell.

That's unfortunate.
Isn't she the one you would most like to know about it?

 

[kcantankerous]

Yeah I don't share my fetish with her and she doesn't know I'm a member of this site. It's simply something that is for me alone. That's how I choose to keep it. Nothing more to tell.

Hello,

I know it sounds like I want to change you mind about your own secret. I have been in a relationship for three non consecutive years of my 30ish year life. Those women (a different one each year) knew about my fetish around the second or third date lol.

I imagine you at least tickle your lady from time to time. If you say no, I will be even more curious.

Thanks,

K

 

[tickles4fun]

The answer should be sooo obvious so if you have to ask you are lost