why must we be into cybering?

[TicklingIsLife]

Not to offend anyone by the thread title, but this really bugged me. I get this instant message from someone (i will keep their identity secret) who found my name through the TMF. I am always excited to talk to new people from the TMF, so we chat for a while and everything seems great. Then they start with the role playing stuff. This is when I say I am not that into role playing, and what happens? They block me. Annoyed I am. I mean, what the hell?

 

[Scouse]

Sounds familiar.

Not so much AIM/MSN but after 5 minutes in the chatroom I've usually got 3-4 people trying to get into my cyberpants.

 

[Artoo]

Ohh...hardly anyone ever cybers me. I think I must be virtually hideously unattractive 😉

On a serious (and rather blunt) note, the reason many people are only into cybering is becuase they're looking for the fastest wank possible.

 

[Tckleme]

Well, you know, this is one of the main reasons I´m not here too often.
It sucks that you get into the chat room, and five seconds later you got 3 unasked PC´s , asking if your feet are ticklish.
Internet is getting more and more a place for perverted jerks and all of their sick fantasies.


But I like this forum though, especially ´cause I´ve met 2 wonderful people here.

 

[Artoo]

I dunno, nearly everyone has had their fair share of jerks in the chatroom, but I tend to look past that, seeing as I've had quite a few decent conversations in the past.

My major gripe is that I feel like people assume I'm after some virtual-meat, just becasue I'm in the chatroom. Which is a shame. And I'm probably imagining it.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

I for one have no issues with 'cybering' or 'roleplaying'.

Sure there are some people I am sure who do it just for a "Quick Wank". But not all do. My main issue with role playing is when it's done on the main board of the TMF Chat Room, and it's done to a point that I just have to express my opinion on it, and they get offended, yet they do it on the main board which makes it an open opinion conversation. This is why Private Chat, MSN, Yahoo, or AIM are a better idea at times. You can still have fun, but you don't need to worry about other people interjecting commentary. I have done it before, And I will do it again. If I am not messing around, and want to get more serious, I will take it to one of the aforementioned messengers.

I look at role playing almost as an intricate tickling story, just as those you read about on the stories section, and in the archives..the only difference is you are 'directly' interacting with a second party, instead of writing their responses for them.

Doing this with everyone under the sun that you come in contact with kills it for me, I have no interest or agreement for that. That, in my opinion is someone just looking for a quick fix.

But interacting with a friend or user who you are interested in 'playing' with but the opportunity to is somewhat limited makes roleplaying an easier outlet for some.

 

[venray]

I find cybering with someone that I have gotten to know fairly well can be fun for a bit....I even have one lovely lady friend here who will drop me an email cyber out of nowhere....It may be days betwen the back and forth emails we pop off but it is just our way of keeping in touch so to speak...

All that being said, I will not cyber on aim or messenger...if someone I do not know attempts to, they get slammed with a warning and are then blocked...

I go into the TMF chatroom rarely because I too get hit with the weirdest pc's from both men and women....I have learned to not even respond and then I put them on ignore...

That way I can enjoy pleasant banter between friends or actually have an intelligent conversation....

I have braved the chatroom here more frequently as of late for there are many that go there that do not post much or at all on the open forum and I like to get to know as many here as possible....far too many friends yet to make here to add to the hundreds I have chatted with, talked to on the phone, or gotten the chance to meet in person...

 

[Adalon]

I look at role playing almost as an intricate tickling story, just as those you read about on the stories section, and in the archives..the only difference is you are \'directly\' interacting with a second party, instead of writing their responses for them.

First of all, TicklingIsLife, I\'m sorry to hear about your bad experience. I don\'t think there\'s really any excuse for that kind of rudeness.

CrystalLight put it very well. Roleplaying is just like writing a story - personally, I have no qualms with taking multiple roles in these stories, playing lees and lers, males and females, short and tall, etc - and I have no reservations about letting the other party playing anything they choose. I would agree that many people into \'cyber\', as it\'s said, limit themselves creatively when they pigeon-hole themselves into \"Hey, I\'m tickling a digital manifestation of -you-.\" situations, and can also come off wrong when seeking partners.

I\'d treat that person just like a person scoping out for an easy lay at the bar. You can tell what they want, maybe other people are out for a one-nighter, maybe you\'re not. Good for them if they find someone - but I don\'t they mean offense when they move on - you and he aren\'t looking for the same thing.

Apologies for the rant-ish mode. I hope you have better chat experiences soon! =)

 

[Helena]

why must we be into cybering?

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Not to offend anyone by the thread title, but this really bugged me. I get this instant message from someone (i will keep their identity secret) who found my name through the TMF. I am always excited to talk to new people from the TMF, so we chat for a while and everything seems great. Then they start with the role playing stuff. This is when I say I am not that into role playing, and what happens? They block me. Annoyed I am. I mean, what the hell?

Is it really fair to post about another person's tickling desires to roleplay, when you invite everyone in the forum to IM you, and give your addy out in your signature?
There are a lot of people on this forum, and they all have different tickling needs and wants. In all fairness to whoever IM'd you, he/she had no idea that you didn't enjoy roleplaying. Perhaps, this user was embarrassed when he/she discovered how you felt about what they wanted to do. It is possible that the user blocked you for other reasons besides the ones you have conjured.
If you want to cut down on the number of IM's that aren't to your liking, perhaps you should only give your addy out to people you have had some kind of contact with.
I think it is so very uncool to invite everyone to IM you on the main board, and then embarrass the user that does. I'm very glad you didn't name the person! I also think that you should handle a matter like this privately. I mean really....what the hell.

 

[doctortickler]

Maybe some people find cybering less daunting and/or risky. I gues it's down to personal taste!

 

[milagros317]

Some people like to do cybertickling and some don't. The sooner you find out that somebody is not compatible with you in this regard, the better. So it's not really something to complain about.

 

[PlayfulCarbonara]

I could never get into the whole cyber-tickling (or anything for that matter) thing. Someone tried to start one with me at some point... I got 2 or 3 lines in and felt completely ridiculous, finally resulting in my giving up. 😛 Sadly, I don't quite understand the appeal. :-\

 

[TicklingIsLife]

Is it really fair to post about another person's tickling desires to roleplay, when you invite everyone in the forum to IM you, and give your addy out in your signature?
There are a lot of people on this forum, and they all havedifferent tickling needs and wants. In all fairness to whoever IM'd you, he/she had no idea that you didn't enjoy roleplaying. Perhaps, this user was embarrassed when he/she discovered how you felt about what they wanted to do. It is possible that the user blocked you for other reasons besides the ones you have conjured.
If you want to cut down on the number of IM's that aren't to your liking, perhaps you should only give your addy out to people you have had some kind of contact with.
I think it is so very uncool to invite everyone to IM you on the main board, and then embarrass the user that does. I'm very glad you didn't name the person! I also think that you should handle a matter like this privately. I mean really....what the hell.

Um no.. We were getting along quite nicely before then. I chose to make this into a topic, because I'm sure others have had similar experiences and this is not the first time someone has tried to cyber with me without even asking if I was into it.

 

[Mitchell]

I haven't cybered for a long time. That being said, I have done my share of cybering through the years with various female members of the forum, both past, and present.

Cybering is okay, and can be fun, but I'm one who, if I did cyber. would prefer to do so with someone who I had a rapport with, and whom I had talked to at least a few times. This way, we get to know each other as people, and have chatted. In reality, cybering is another form of tickling, and, to many of us, is sexual. To me, cybering with someone who you've just that day met, is like sex on the first date, which might be okay to some people, but is something I find a bit uncomfortable. I get extremely annoyed when I have gone into chat, and gotten pcs from both girls and guys without even asking, some of whom I've never met, and they said: "Hi, let's cyber". To those people, I have said a polite "Sorry, not interested". If they persist and become insistent, well, that's what the ignore button is for.

Each person is different, and if some members are comfortable cybering with random people they just met, and want to come into the chatroom to hook up with people to cyber with, or people want to accept random cyber invitations from strangers, that is their peroggative. I feel differently. I have never just randomly cybered with strangers, and will continue not to do so.

Mitch

 

[Helena]

Um no.. We were getting along quite nicely before then. I chose to make this into a topic, because I'm sure others have had similar experiences and this is not the first time someone has tried to cyber with me without even asking if I was into it.

Did you stop and consider that by being so eager to have you IM addy out on display opens you up to all kinds of things that may not be your cup of tea? It seems from your post that the person identified themselves as a TMF member. If he/she desired a first chat with you through IM, and was a stranger to you, all that happened was that you didn't hit it off.
Meeting people for the first time in a random IM is not ideal. I still think the best way to stop this from happening again is to take your IM addy out of your siggy.
If you decide you would prefer to keep things as they are, you may have other encounters like the one you complain about.

 

[TicklingIsLife]

Did you stop and consider that by being so eager to have you IM addy out on display opens you up to all kinds of things that may not be your cup of tea? It seems from your post that the person identified themselves as a TMF member. If he/she desired a first chat with you through IM, and was a stranger to you, all that happened was that you didn't hit it off.
Meeting people for the first time in a random IM is not ideal. I still think the best way to stop this from happening again is to take your IM addy out of your siggy.
If you decide you would prefer to keep things as they are, you may have other encounters like the one you complain about.

When they told me they found my name at the TMF, I took their name and searched for it through the member list and could not find it.

 

[Anna6-9]

I have stopped cybering with people completely. I was enjoying it on occassion but it seems like nearly everyone (not all but nearly all) that I have done that with only wants that from that point on. Normally I get to know them first and do cyber after a while. I will admit I have done it with people I had just met because I was in the mood and said F it. But that was ALWAYS a mistake. I have since blocked all the people that always want to cyber. Its just annoying. And franky rude.

 

[ManOMann100]

some people do enjoy cybering . to each their own; just because i don't enjoy it doesn't make it wrong necessarily. What bothers me is when i tell people i dont want to do it and they still insist and try to...that's just creepy and dumb. bottom line, if you like it, fine. but don't try to force it on those that don't.

 

[LD_Tickler]

Ohh...hardly anyone ever cybers me. I think I must be virtually hideously unattractive 😉

On a serious (and rather blunt) note, the reason many people are only into cybering is becuase they're looking for the fastest wank possible.

There are faster wanks. Trust me, I'm a busy guy.

 

[Helena]

There are faster wanks. Trust me, I'm a busy guy.

LD,
For some reason, this just made me giggle like mad. Hilarious.
I can relate. Sometimes, I just want to get right to my orgasm so I can start my day!

 

[Artoo]

Oh I know there are faster wanks. 😉

I quite possibly wrote faster without thinking about it really. I guess it's the fact that there's someone on the other end of the internet who is responding to you which gives the storyline some "life", if you will. At least that's how I could imagine it turning me on.

Problem is, I touch type with two hands 🙁
😉

 

[Artoo]

LD,
For some reason, this just made me giggle like mad. Hilarious.
I can relate. Sometimes, I just want to get right to my orgasm so I can start my day!

That makes me think of Lee Evans' hotel porn skit;

"They've got the tissues on top of the tv, it's like 'watch the porn, watch the porn, watch the porn.'
And you've only got a minute before it goes on your bill so you're trying to get yourself off as fast as possible - *pretends to speed-wank* C'MOOOOOOOOOON!"

 

[dskodj]

I never got into or understood the concept of cyber. I mean shit, if I wanted to wack off to a bunch of words, id type up what i wanna hear/see, read it and wack off LOL! The whole cyber thing makes no sence to me. I need audio and visual stimulation when I wack it.

 

[Coda]

If they block you the moment you say you're not interested, then that's a shame. It'd be safe to assume, then, that through the whole conversation, they were only interested in cybering.

(I personally think cybering is a wonderful concept on a potential par with stories, depending on the talent of the cyber-ers... but I don't care so much for the rather rude habit of point-blank chat-abandonment for any reason.)

 

[Artoo]

Oh yeah, cybering could be good, if it wasn't "omg ticklz ur ft", "a s l" or "r ur feet ticklish"(note the lack of question mark - )

dskodj, I think the reason it could be hot is because there is a real person who isn't your imagination typing the words, much like a story.
I like not having to have audio or visual stimulation as a necessity 😉