Would you let someone else tickle your wife?

[xSamanthax]

Sharing...

My husband doesn't mind sharing too much, as long as the other person/people are not asshats, and as long as it is something I want to do and am not being pushed into. Depends on the situation of course, but for the most part he doesn't mind and even sort of encourages it, lol.

I'm a very lucky girl. =)

 

[TicklesFemales]

Samantha yes you are a very lucky lady and I appreciate your response to my thread and look forward to chatting with you more and possibly meeting someday.

TicklesFemales

 

[scarecrow]

i would let another guy tickle my girlfriend sure,but in return i would have to be able to stab him repeatedly in the face with a soldering iron,then hang him with his own intestines and carve my name into his chest,thats a fair trade right?

 

[tkl-pen]

I'm surprised to see how many men here are so insecure that they couldn't let another man tickle their women - fascinating!

 

[Happyman]

I'm surprised to see how many men here are so insecure that they couldn't let another man tickle their women - fascinating!

how is that insecure? If tickling is sexual to you, why would you allow another to do that to your lover? Would you let another man have sex with someone you care about?

 

[xSamanthax]

how is that insecure? If tickling is sexual to you, why would you allow another to do that to your lover? Would you let another man have sex with someone you care about?

Why wouldn't you? Sharing is a good thing! We learn that in kindergarten.

It is perceived as insecure, because typically, it is a fear based response that drives the desire to control someone else's sexuality. Driven by the fear of losing your partner to a more compatible person, the fear of competition, fear of being inadequate, or even fear of what other people might think...the list goes on.

So I will ask the guys who answered that they would not allow this type of play:

What are you afraid will happen? Are you afraid she might actually...enjoy it?

 

[tcklft]

Hell no. And fuck sharing.

 

[drew70]

My wife doesn't enjoy being tickled except very lightly and softly. But for the sake of discussion, let's pretend she enjoys it the same as I do. I'd have no problems with her coming to NEST with me and getting tickled there by guys I know would be gentlemen, although from a voyeur's point of view I'd prefer to see her be tickled by a woman.

If she wanted to have sex with other guys, I wouldn't be real comfortable with that. But then again, just because she's married to me doesn't mean I own her or have the right to control what she does. I'd be lying if I said it wouldn't influence my desire to continue our relationship, but to what degree would be tough to say unless I was actually in that situation.

By the way, where's the poll?

 

[xSamanthax]

Drew, out of curiosity, what makes you uncomfortable about the thought of your wife being sexual with another man? Does that hold true for the thought of her being with another woman? (I'm wondering if it is the sexual act, or the gender of the other person that matters).

 

[Happyman]

ha, am I the only one here that believes in good ole fashion devotion to your partner? My body is hers, and hers is mine, thats not ownership thats partnership.

 

[xSamanthax]

ha, am I the only one here that believes in good ole fashion devotion to your partner? My body is hers, and hers is mine, thats not ownership thats partnership.

I am very devoted to my husband and he to me...I think we just define it differently than you do.

As for ownerships and partnerships....The word "mine" and "hers" denotes ownership. IN partnerships, each partner owns their own share, coming together for the common good. =) (but that's just my take on it, ymmv)

 

[Happyman]

by definition (dictionary.com) devotion means that you give yourself over to another person (singular)

"To give or apply (one's time, attention, or self) entirely to a particular activity, pursuit, cause, or person."

So for me to say that I am devoted to my gf, and a few other ladies on the side...doesnt really work. and again, im not saying that i am her slave or she is mine (through ownership), I am hers and she is mine, thats a partnership, because everything I have is mine, but it is also hers. but she does not own me, because I can dissolve that partnership if I wish and leave with just "me"

So I am not an insecure person, I just believe in keeping that bond and devotion between us. I also do not think I own her because of this, she is her own person.

 

[drew70]

Drew, out of curiosity, what makes you uncomfortable about the thought of your wife being sexual with another man? Does that hold true for the thought of her being with another woman? (I'm wondering if it is the sexual act, or the gender of the other person that matters).

I guess it's because that kind of extreme need for sex just seems kind of slutty and nymphomaniacal. I like to believe that's not who I married. No, I wouldn't be bothered as much if it were sex with another woman. But I'd have to also have sex with that other woman. 😀

 

[the wiz]

I have no problem with it; however, it's up to my wife if she will allow someone else or me to tickle her or not.

 

[xSamanthax]

"I guess it's because that kind of extreme need for sex just seems kind of slutty and nymphomaniacal. I like to believe that's not who I married."

Ah the whole Madonna/***** thing.

"No, I wouldn't be bothered as much if it were sex with another woman. But I'd have to also have sex with that other woman."

So what is the difference between her having sex with a woman and sex with a guy? Is it just that you happen to find one erotic and not the other (the implication being that only things that you find erotic are ok)?

What is it about sexually uninhibited women that is so darn upsetting anyway? Can anyone explain this? (rhetorical question, i don't expect an answer, lol)

 

[drew70]

Drew: "I guess it's because that kind of extreme need for sex just seems kind of slutty and nymphomaniacal. I like to believe that's not who I married."

Samantha: "Ah the whole Madonna/***** thing." ​

Not so much Madonna, although she certainly qualifies. More like a couple of women I know on this forum. But you're spot on with the "***** thing."

Drew: "No, I wouldn't be bothered as much if it were sex with another woman. But I'd have to also have sex with that other woman."

Samantha: "So what is the difference between her having sex with a woman and sex with a guy? Is it just that you happen to find one erotic and not the other (the implication being that only things that you find erotic are ok)?"​

The difference is that one involves a dick inside her and the other does not. Two women going at it is hot as hell, but to me it's not real sex, at least not the kind that matters. It's more like mutual masturbation. Personally (and this is just me), I don't want to put my dick or my mouth where another man's dick has recently been.

Samantha: "What is it about sexually uninhibited women that is so darn upsetting anyway? Can anyone explain this? (rhetorical question, i don't expect an answer, lol)"​

Lots of reasons. We humans are emotionally complex creatures. There's all kinds of psychology that comes into play in this arena. Some of the things that are built into the Is-she-for-me equation are things such as loyalty, devotion, qualifications for parenthood, and emotional stability. The brutal truth is simply this: *****s and sluts are fun for a night or two, but nobody wants to marry them.

Well...almost nobody.

 

[xSamanthax]

"The brutal truth is simply this: *****s and sluts are fun for a night or two, but nobody wants to marry them."

The brutal truth is that women can be sexually uninhibited and still be a fantastic wife and mother. They are not mutually exclusive states of being.

"Well...almost nobody."

I'll forward your condolences to my husband, lol.

 

[drew70]

Drew: "The brutal truth is simply this: *****s and sluts are fun for a night or two, but nobody wants to marry them."

Samantha: "The brutal truth is that women can be sexually uninhibited and still be a fantastic wife and mother. They are not mutually exclusive states of being."​

I can't help notice you cling to this phrase "sexually uninhibited." Perhaps you should explain what you really mean by that. To me it means being willing to experiment with many different flavors of sex with one's partner. To you it seems to simply be a euphemism for adultry. If it's the former definition to which you hold, then I would agree with your statement. If it's the latter, then I'd say that unequivocally precludes being a "fantastic wife and mother," and that they are indeed mutually exclusive states of being.

Drew: "Well...almost nobody."

Samantha: "I'll forward your condolences to my husband, lol."​

LOL. Hey, let's remember that you asked me how I would feel and why. I gave you honest answers, so don't start playing victim here, okay?

On the other side of this coin, just how many wives do you suppose would be comfortable with their husbands sleeping around? "Oh don't worry, honey. I'm still a fantastic husband and father. I'm just 'sexually uninhibited.'"

Or how about this?

"You're honor. My client is seeking divorce on the grounds of numerous counts of adultry by her husband."

"I object! My client was not engaged in 'adultery'! He's just 'sexually uninhibited'! That's....that's supposed to be a GOOD thing!"

 

[xSamanthax]

"If it's the latter, then I'd say that unequivocally precludes being a "fantastic wife and mother," and that they are indeed mutually exclusive states of being."

For you perhaps. However, we apparently have very different ideas of what constitutes being a good wife and mother. And what constitutes adultery. To me, adultery is not defined by the sexual act, but by the dishonesty. We have a much more poly outlook towards relationships, we don't hide things from each other. We are team like that!

But to answer the question:
Uninhibited: not restrained by social convention (monogamy being the social convention in this case).

"LOL. Hey, let's remember that you asked me how I would feel and why. I gave you honest answers, so don't start playing victim here, okay?"

Oh no victimization here...me and the hubby got a good chuckle out of the whole exchange.

"On the other side of this coin, just how many wives do you suppose would be comfortable with their husbands sleeping around? "Oh don't worry, honey. I'm still a fantastic husband and father. I'm just 'sexually uninhibited.'"

Well I am, I can't speak for any one else though. And he is a fantastic husband and father. And not only am I comfortable with it, but I actually manage to take pleasure in the fact that my husband is having fun and living life to the fullest.

~Sam

 

[aliasx]

As Samantha's husband, yes clearly i am fine with others tickling her.

Part of the thrill for her in this is the fact that its not me tickling her. That new and strange element is very intoxicating and thats not something i can truly provide for her considering her absolute trust and devotion in me. I would seriously doubt the credibility of any man who comes here and claims they do not have sexual desires for women other then their wife. So why should i put a double standard on her? i am not that petty and insecure.

Does this bother me? not in the least!

I am proud that my woman can have the courage to tell me what she desires, and have the guts to go after it. Not all of us have the barefeet and pregnant mentality when it comes to letting our wives be free to be themselves. Personally i love my wife for the woman she is, not the woman i would make her be if i had what you might call a good christian wife.

I think the fact that men are bothered by this reflects on the insecurities of the men themselves, and hardly makes the woman a *****. I mean, i have to laugh my ass off as people sit here on their high horse talking about wives being some lofty ideal of principle of motherhood yet at the same time are here on this forum looking at these women in a sexual light. The irony is not lost here. Maybe if folks spent more times with their wives, learning those dark little things that go on in their heads, they might be able to play these games at home with them instead of searching the internet for something they wont give you.

Personally, i would take my wife as she truly is, desires and all. then to force that little woman into a role just to keep me happy. I want a partner in my wife, not an oppressed obedient woman who doesn't even know herself.

 

[drew70]

Poly wanna cracker?

Welcome to the forum, aliasx.

I'm glad to see that you and Samantha have the same attitudes of superiority over those of us who value devotion and commitment over animal lust as do some of the other swingers on the forum.

You know, pedophiles and beastialists can both be accurately described as "sexually uninhibited" as well as "not restrained by social convention." A murderer or rapist could be described as "not restrained by social convention." Truth is, there's a lot to be said for social convention, and some measure of inhibition is vital in successfully integrating into any society.

People who claim to be uninhibited are only fooling themselves, not the rest of us.

 

[aliasx]

Lol, thats just silly. Anyone can be described as anything by anyone, its all perspective. Do a little world traveling, might just open your eyes to what you see as "socially acceptable" changes from person to person. Did you ever for once think that in parts of the world, just viewing the soles of feet is offensive? Think about that next time you wank to my wifes clips with your moral superiority. Or maybe you would prefer we move to more of a fanatical Muslim "socially acceptable"....oh wait thats right, this forum would not exist! mmmm burkas, so sexy!

So please, spare me your moral high ground that you seem to think you are warranted to. Because quite frankly, your morals are no better than mine and any argument to the contrary is simply a subjective speculation.

I am curious though, does this all loving and perfect wife know you visit this forum and look at the ladies? I mean please, feel free to continue to come here and watch the movies. Its only more money in my pocket 🙂

 

[Happyman]

aliaxs, you are comparing apples to oranges.

expecting your wife to be loyal to you, then watching porn does not make you a hypocrite. I do not expect my gf to not have to sexual urges towards others, I know that is impossible, what I do expect is for her to control herself in a civilized manner and keep the promises she has made to me. I only expect from her what I readily do for her.

It is not a matter of being insecure. and we are not against sexual women, you would be hard pressed to find a man that is against that. Humans are animals, we have tons of urges, suppressing those urges does not make you a prude, or controlling, or fanatical. Im sure you have felt the urge to beat the crap out of someone before, but you didnt...because you are civilized. Well, its our view that to be in a civilized relationship that we be devout to one another. and as defined by dictionary.com, you can not be devout to more then one.

 

[drew70]

Lol, thats just silly. Anyone can be described as anything by anyone, its all perspective. ​

Sure, people can spout pure nonsense. The above sentence is a good example. It's whether there's truth and accuracy that make the difference.

Do a little world traveling, might just open your eyes to what you see as "socially acceptable" changes from person to person.​

I have done some world traveling. Plenty, in fact. What I've seen is that what's PERSONALLY acceptable changes from person to person, but what's SOCIALLY acceptable is common to entire societies. Hence the term.

Did you ever for once think that in parts of the world, just viewing the soles of feet is offensive?​

So what if it is? That's not my problem or yours, so what's it got to do with the price of tea in China?

Think about that next time you wank to my wifes clips with your moral superiority.​

Are you high? I've never met your wife nor am I aware of any clips of hers.

So please, spare me your moral high ground that you seem to think you are warranted to. Because quite frankly, your morals are no better than mine and any argument to the contrary is simply a subjective speculation. ​

I never said my morals were better than anyone's. Talk to your wife about that. She's the one who came into this thread telling us we were all insecure.

I am curious though, does this all loving and perfect wife know you visit this forum and look at the ladies? ​

First, my wife is not all-loving. That's one of the things I appreciate about her. She's selective about who she loves, and she's chosen me. I've chosen her. We are devoted and committed to each other. That's something I doubt you or Samantha will ever understand, but that's your problem, not mine.

Secondly, don't assume I come here to "look at the ladies" just because it's why you do. I may check out few clips here and there, but I spend the vast majority of my TMF time in the discussion forums.

I mean please, feel free to continue to come here and watch the movies. Its only more money in my pocket ​

Yes, I'm sure you're making a bundle on all those free samples I'm watching.

 

[xSamanthax]

"expecting your wife to be loyal to you, then watching porn does not make you a hypocrite."

I think you need to re-read the exchange. It was more like...calling the porn star a ***** while you use her image for your sexual gratification...that's hypocritical. If the porn star is a *****, then the folks watching from the safety of their homes are the tricks.
And looking down your nose at the porn star is just silly, when you have your dick in one hand and your wallet in the other.

If you expect your wife to devote her entire sexuality to you, then you should do the same. That means no porn. That means no sexual outlet other than your wife. The lust you feel when viewing the material isn't about your wife, now is it?

What *is* apples and oranges though, is comparing poly or even swinging to bestiality and pedophilia. I mean come on. This is the same tired argument people use to keep homosexuals as second class citizens.

"and keep the promises she has made to me. I only expect from her what I readily do for her."

Right, but please understand that not every marriage includes those promises. Ours doesn't. We promised to love each other, laugh with each other, dream with each other, be strong for each other, and most importantly...to never intentionally inflict pain on each other.

But if you promised to forsake all others...why doesn't that include porn stars, or tickle models??

"Im sure you have felt the urge to beat the crap out of someone before, but you didnt...because you are civilized."

Not quite. We don't beat the crap out of people because it *harms* them. Being tickled by someone causes no harm to me or my husband. Being sexual with another person doesn't harm anyone either. Quite the opposite, lol.

"Well, its our view that to be in a civilized relationship that we be devout to one another. and as defined by dictionary.com, you can not be devout to more then one."

And you are welcome to that view. That doesn't mean that people who do not share that view are uncivilized, or animals.