OK, I don't usually post stuff like this here but I'm so damn confused and frustrated that I just got to vent. I don't have much experience dating, but I feel like I'm the only person in the world who not only has this problem, but has it happen on such a consistent basis that I just readily assume it's going to happen. This comes with a bit of a story, and I'd rather give the full story so you can all be as confused as I am.
So I'm at a Christmas party for my job a few days ago where I see this INCREDIBLY beautiful girl dancing (perfect face, perfect body, perfect moves, out of your league and mine a thousand times over). Somehow, I actually muster up the courage to go talk to her. I take the age-old advice of "Just be yourself" and immediately throw it out the window; instead I act cool and confident, dancing surprisingly well and saying things that I normally thought you'd need Hollywood writers to say. And when I say I'm doing awesome, I mean it; even her friends thought I was awesome. So we're dancing, and out of the blue she tells me to friend her on Facebook. Mind you, I didn't ask her for her number only for her to shoot it down and then offer her Facebook friendship to soothe her guilty conscience; it wasn't me who asked if I could friend her on Facebook with her reluctantly conceding. She asked me to friend her on Facebook, gave me her name and how to find her and everything. Literally, just out of nowhere she asked me (which had been quite relieving, considering that as always I was having serious doubts until that point about how desperate she was to get away from me. Apparently, not at all).
So I'm stoked and on Cloud 9 when I get home and send the friend request. She accepts my request the next day, and I see her profile has her AIM screenname right on it (her profile is private and only available to friends, and she asked me to friend her and she left her SN where she knew I'd be able to see it. Things are looking VERY good for me). I send her a poke (why not?) along with a message, saying I had a good time at the party and jokingly tell her she's a pretty good dancer since she was able to keep up with my dance moves (I had lampshaded the fact that I didn't dance that often when we were at the party, but didn't say anything in regards to the fact that I suck at dancing and hate it immensely). I waited another day before I IMed her (didn't want to bombard her all at once and come off as obsessive), saying hi and telling her it was JKB from the Christmas party (except I used my actual name).
I'm still waiting for a response from her of any type.
This is what's so frustrating and confusing. It's bad enough that I have a hard enough time getting a girl's attention in the first place, but it really bothers me when I get the girl's number or whatever and she never responds. I have a number of instances where this sort of thing happens, but this is just the most frustrating (since she just up and asked me to Facebook her) and the most demoralizing. It's so damn confusing because it happens all the freakin' time and I can't figure out what's going on over on her end, if she's unable to respond or if she's ignoring me or what. It makes me think that there's something wrong with me and that she's turned off and trying to ignore me, but then I wonder why she even volunteered her information to me in the first place? I hadn't even asked for it (though, mind you, I would have later). She's literally online right now and I sent her a message about an hour and a half ago (I don't want to keep IMing her since I don't want her to freak out and get scared off thinking I'm obsessive and creepy) and she never replied at all, though it is 3 AM as of this writing.
I think I just needed to vent because I'm so angry over this sort of thing, but I was just curious if anyone else has this sort of thing happen to them or if anybody knows what I'm doing wrong?
So I'm at a Christmas party for my job a few days ago where I see this INCREDIBLY beautiful girl dancing (perfect face, perfect body, perfect moves, out of your league and mine a thousand times over). Somehow, I actually muster up the courage to go talk to her. I take the age-old advice of "Just be yourself" and immediately throw it out the window; instead I act cool and confident, dancing surprisingly well and saying things that I normally thought you'd need Hollywood writers to say. And when I say I'm doing awesome, I mean it; even her friends thought I was awesome. So we're dancing, and out of the blue she tells me to friend her on Facebook. Mind you, I didn't ask her for her number only for her to shoot it down and then offer her Facebook friendship to soothe her guilty conscience; it wasn't me who asked if I could friend her on Facebook with her reluctantly conceding. She asked me to friend her on Facebook, gave me her name and how to find her and everything. Literally, just out of nowhere she asked me (which had been quite relieving, considering that as always I was having serious doubts until that point about how desperate she was to get away from me. Apparently, not at all).
So I'm stoked and on Cloud 9 when I get home and send the friend request. She accepts my request the next day, and I see her profile has her AIM screenname right on it (her profile is private and only available to friends, and she asked me to friend her and she left her SN where she knew I'd be able to see it. Things are looking VERY good for me). I send her a poke (why not?) along with a message, saying I had a good time at the party and jokingly tell her she's a pretty good dancer since she was able to keep up with my dance moves (I had lampshaded the fact that I didn't dance that often when we were at the party, but didn't say anything in regards to the fact that I suck at dancing and hate it immensely). I waited another day before I IMed her (didn't want to bombard her all at once and come off as obsessive), saying hi and telling her it was JKB from the Christmas party (except I used my actual name).
I'm still waiting for a response from her of any type.
This is what's so frustrating and confusing. It's bad enough that I have a hard enough time getting a girl's attention in the first place, but it really bothers me when I get the girl's number or whatever and she never responds. I have a number of instances where this sort of thing happens, but this is just the most frustrating (since she just up and asked me to Facebook her) and the most demoralizing. It's so damn confusing because it happens all the freakin' time and I can't figure out what's going on over on her end, if she's unable to respond or if she's ignoring me or what. It makes me think that there's something wrong with me and that she's turned off and trying to ignore me, but then I wonder why she even volunteered her information to me in the first place? I hadn't even asked for it (though, mind you, I would have later). She's literally online right now and I sent her a message about an hour and a half ago (I don't want to keep IMing her since I don't want her to freak out and get scared off thinking I'm obsessive and creepy) and she never replied at all, though it is 3 AM as of this writing.
I think I just needed to vent because I'm so angry over this sort of thing, but I was just curious if anyone else has this sort of thing happen to them or if anybody knows what I'm doing wrong?