A Public Apology....To Those Who Have Meant Well.. And Been Supportive.

[Mitchell]

I'm going to try something here, and I'm hopeful that this is received in the spirit in which its intended.

I believe that it takes a man to admit his mistakes, and i'm going to do that now.

First, I want to say that I was completely wrong for posting the thread about my friend that caused such problems in the forum for weeks on end. As I've said before, I should not have posted it, and should instead have placed it in my blog, which is what I will do from now on.

Specifically.

Kis, GQ, AnnieHall, Leo,, and anyone else who commented on that thread who did, and had meant well both then, and in the past, I'm sorry for my demeanor toward all of you, and for blowing up. That was unnecessary. Posts in my blog explain part of the problem. I've been under a lot of stress in personal relationships, and its caused me to take it out on the forum. I've resolved one issue, the other one isnt so easy, but i'm working on it, and wont clutter up the forum main area with it.

I will not, however, apologize to the people who didnt mean well, and used those threads for the mere purpose of taking potshots at me. Three specific people come to mind, who I will of course not name publicly. I'll admit my mistakes, but wont be responsible for their behavior that was completely not well meaning.

Anyhow, I'm hopeful this thread will be able to cast some better light on the situation, and henceforth, as I've tried to do recently, any personal issues will go in the blog.

Thanks,
Mitch

 

[meangry]

I don't speak often around these parts as a result of latent shit that might still linger from...four years ago?...but I'm going to give you a bit of advice; you want things to blow over? You want to show true remorse for actions you took for weeks on end?

You shut up about it.

No, seriously. I wouldn't have even had the faintest idea what any of this was about...until you posted this. And that's somebody outside of it all. From what can be gathered, what's needed to be said has been said. All this will be is either empty platitudes, or another chance for the situation to grow worse. Psychologically, people aren't going to care about how sorry you are, unless you showcase the ability to grow from mistakes. You want specific people to know you're sorry for your conduct? You do that over PM. It's private. Nobody but them has to know. Effectively, it might even show them that you're not as solipsistic, because you're willing to not put it out there for everyone to see and judge. You also don't announce that, now, you will be posting these things as personal blogs, because it's not going to look good for your public image of having self absorption issues.

Also, don't delineate with who you are sorry to and who you are not. That's merely asking for a continuance from what happened before.

Yeah, it might be hard for you. It might be hard to dial it back. You might legitimately feel bad about how things went. Doesn't matter. Either you'll show the community you have the ability to grow, or you will show that you aren't really as sorry as you state. And in the end, how much any of that matters is up to you.

 

[chicago]

Thanks, Mitch, but maybe it was better said in PM or the blog.

I know you mean well, but I really hope this thread doesn't leave you open for more of the same kind of posts that were in the other two.

Best wishes and all that.

 

[Mitchell]

me, you can see it as you do. You tell me to "shut up", but I dont hear you saying that others should have "shut up" in the two threads that caused all this shit. I'm the bad one for trying to diffuse this.

Thanks, Annie. I see your point, and I appreciate your good wishes.

 

[Jagermeistered]

Mitch,

What is up with the two commas in between the two periods in your title? You should have just used a colon, or was that your idea of a sick colon joke? 😛 I am kidding!

 

[Mitchell]

I fixed it... Hope thats okay.

 

[Jagermeistered]

I fixed it... Hope thats okay.

It was a joke, Mitch. You are too funny... 😛 😀

 

[Mitchell]

LOL OK

 

[meangry]

me, you can see it as you do. You tell me to "shut up", but I dont hear you saying that others should have "shut up" in the two threads that caused all this shit. I'm the bad one for trying to diffuse this.

Thanks, Annie. I see your point, and I appreciate your good wishes.

Because this is the internet, bro, and coldneck and whoever else aren't starting threads that are going to continue this circle. Because, even in an environment where all we really have are words and fleeting images, there reality of "show me, don't tell me" is just as valid as anywhere else in life.

Because saying sorry or any of that isn't going to really amount to anything, because the only thing that does is time and distance. Seriously. Again, it's the internet. And to be frank, it's not you getting DOXed, or being put on encyclopediadramatica or 4chan or any of that where you become a character who is harassed by dozens in your real life to the point where your life is published online for people to consume. Some person you've never met, and will never meet, and who has absolutely zero control over your life, saying something bad about you only matters as much as you let it.

It's an exceptionally effective mindset to have. It's also the mature one.

 

[Mitchell]

You know what, me, let's agree to disagree, because I already did, okay? Know how? The mess of a thread I posted about this shit was a month ago, and since then, until this thread, I have been keeping personal info in my blog.

I have a feeling Mairead may be right, but I tried.

 

[C.A.B.]

 

[Mitchell]

That post made me laugh. Thanks.

 

[TMF Jeff]

You couldn't beg for trouble more if the title of this thread was "Please troll me and make me miserable."

 

[Mitchell]

Jeff, I'm sorry. That wasnt my intent. I was sincerely looking to try and calm things down.

 

[The Bandito]

You couldn't beg for trouble more if the title of this thread was "Please troll me and make me miserable."

I just want you to know that THAT will be the title of my next thread. I actually lol'd. I have no idea what any of this is about, but hope everything works out in the wash. Life's too drama-filled without it seeping into tickle porn.

imho.

B

 

[kis123]

I am really hoping this doesn't descend into the abyss, but.......

As I told you earlier, apologies are not necessary. I don't want you to be sorry, I want you to grow and change. Meangry is right; I've had my own experiences in this forum where I needed time to wipe the self-inflicted egg off my face and chill out for awhile.

You simply cannot take this place too seriously; RL people post in here everyday but it's still cyberspace. You're working yourself up into a froth over people you will probably NEVER meet in real life. Spend that energy doing something that will add dollars to your pocket and enhance the quality of your life. Life is short and fleeting in the face of eternity......go and do "you" and stop worrying about what some stranger (who doesn't even use his/her real name) thinks.

If it were me I'd take a break and work on my RL issues for awhile. Then come back as if nothing happened.......keep it moving with your life and stop getting stuck in these mellodramas you create for yourself.

I do wish you the best.

 

[Cosmo_ac]

IMO, Mitch, now that you've posted an appalogy, just let it stand like that, and never open this thread again. people will either take it, or they won't and some people might say things that drag you back into the thread and result in a fight. Not worth the risk. You've said what you've said, let it stand at that.

 

[Bohemianne]

I am really hoping this doesn't descend into the abyss, but.......

Like a speck in a dust, I saw it. I saw IT! But no, I won't ruin this precious thread with a shameless plug.

Go ahead, folks, keep on posting.






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[Mitchell]

I did open the thread, and I'm just going to say, simply, thanks to those who posted in this thread, and for taking it in the spirit in which its meant.

 

[Bothersome]

You know how you can make this apology really count?

Learn from what you're apologizing for. There have been people who're mocking you for posting this, but I get it. I understand what you're trying to do. This is your chance to prove those people wrong.

Brush off the trolling from various people. Someone comes in here looking to aggravate you? Ignore him or her. Don't even acknowledge the post. Pretend like it never existed. I assure you that that'll piss them off more than anything you could possibly say in return.

 

[Mitchell]

Bothersome, I understand what you are saying. I'm going to do that.

Actually, I think I've succeeded in repairing certain things by making this post. You mentioned the trolling. There are only actually a couple of people who I consider to be doing that. As for them, I'm going to do what you say. If they reply with anything bad, I will just ignore them, without announcing I am, of course.

 

[Speedbump]

Some people never learn.

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

I don't know what this is all about, but I sure had a lot of fun reading it.
I got lots of flashbacks from these kinds of posts from Mitchell from YEARS ago. That's freakin' crazy.

Mitchell, you really haven't learned a damn thing have you? And that's a serious question.

 

[Leo tickles]

I tried this route once... it didn't work out.

But for what its worth, I accept your apology. Been meaning to get back on the PM but I've been running around doing a bunch so sorry for the lack of reply.

 

[Mitchell]

Its okay.

Thanks for understanding, and accepting the apology. All I can do is try.