Asking About Ticklishness..

[Mitchell]

Solemates, as I said before.. my post about her was not in any way an insult against her, it was frustration at YOU.

Mairead, your statement about my aunt's advice is assumption, without any knowledge of my relationship with her. She is a professional astrologer, and many times has told me that it would not work out with girls I liked. Her assessment of my situation with Maria is that there is some kind of tie or connection there, but it doesn't mean it will work out for a serious relationship.

You asked WHY I posted this thread.. My intial title was honest. I wanted to ask a friend about ticklishness.

None of this matters anymore.

I cant even blog about anything like this, unless I close comments. Last week I made a blog post about my frustration with my family and close friends, and got absolutely hammered. I had to take it down.

So, when this thread dies.. whenever it does.. I need to keep my personal life to myself, unless something very concrete happens, and I can say something like if applicable.. "I have a new girlfriend, her interests are such, and her feet are ticklish". Besides that, if I'm just considering someone, talking to someone, or in the stages where I don't know what is going to happen, I need to keep it to myself.

 

[SoleMates]

Solemates, as I said before.. my post about her was not in any way an insult against her, it was frustration at YOU.

What is this I don't even...

Dude, just stop. You're not even making sense anymore. This is getting stupid. Srsly. Quit while you're behind.

 

[chicago]

Yeah I think if you actually follow through with what you say you're gonna do, you might be happier.

 

[primetime]

Solemates, as I said before.. my post about her was not in any way an insult against her, it was frustration at YOU.

Mairead, your statement about my aunt's advice is assumption, without any knowledge of my relationship with her. She is a professional astrologer, and many times has told me that it would not work out with girls I liked. Her assessment of my situation with Maria is that there is some kind of tie or connection there, but it doesn't mean it will work out for a serious relationship.

You asked WHY I posted this thread.. My intial title was honest. I wanted to ask a friend about ticklishness.

None of this matters anymore.

I cant even blog about anything like this, unless I close comments. Last week I made a blog post about my frustration with my family and close friends, and got absolutely hammered. I had to take it down.

So, when this thread dies.. whenever it does.. I need to keep my personal life to myself, unless something very concrete happens, and I can say something like if applicable.. "I have a new girlfriend, her interests are such, and her feet are ticklish". Besides that, if I'm just considering someone, talking to someone, or in the stages where I don't know what is going to happen, I need to keep it to myself.

This is part of the problem Mitch. You don't let threads die. You brought this one back to life. It was going to die on it's own, but YOU brought it back. I have told you repeatedly to NOT reply to these threads. It is obvious that you can't handle these discussions. This thread is dangling as bait for someone like Coldneck to show up and just piss you off. A lot of posters here tried to give you helpful advice, but unless it is something that you agree with, it is viewed as an attack. You ask why the mods let it happen. Well, YOU let it happen.

Why am I even telling you this? You haven't learned anything. You had thread after thread after thread after thread after thread after thread after thread after thread end up the same way. We genuinely want you to be happy, but you know what is stopping you from being happy? YOU. I honestly think you should stay away from threads of "what should I do?" and have threads of "this is what I have done".

Good luck my friend. You need a lot of it....

 

[Mitchell]

Prime, only one comment.. Thank you. This thread isn't bad enough . but now you are baiting SOMEONE ELSE to come in, and beat me up some more.

"Quit while I'm behind":. Now that all of you have had your fun, and given me a good thumping, I should quit.

I wish I could quit. .. as in.. at least take a hiatus from the forum. I haven't been able to bring myself to do that.

The joke is.. whatever Maria's and my "relationship is", we've shown each other far more respect, even as friends, than many have shown me in this thread.

 

[Angel_2]

Mitchell, take the advice that people gave you to find out if Maria is ticklish and either use it or don't. ignore all the other stuff that has been said since it has nothing to do with the topic at hand. This whole thread has been taken over by personal attacks and its not helping anything. If you find any info that can help find out what you want about Maria and that's if she is ticklish use it or lose it. The question about if your in a relationship, not in a relationship or any of that other stuff just leave it alone. I know its hard, but its pointless to keep fighting.

 

[Mitchell]

Angel, thank you. This is what I wanted to do.. but this thread has been blown WAY out of hand.

 

[Angel_2]

just keep it simple, if you find info that can answer your question about her try and apply it to a situation that would allow an answer or just keep it moving. the only way this thread can get blown out of hand is if you keep fighting, and getting off topic. As long as YOU stick to the topic at hand it CAN'T get out of hand.

 

[GQguy]

Thanks, GQ. Keep rubbing it in.

I was defending you from another member. Just after my last post where I gave you encouragement.

I even admitted to striking out many times myself. Man......

 

[Mitchell]

GQ, I re read the posts that you are referring to.. and I realize now you were right.. and I misinterpreted those posts. I'm sorry.

Thanks for saying that I wasn't a jerk for trying to look at the brighter side of things.

As for her not being truthful: I see your point. My honest view is.. I don't know. None of you have actually seen this girl, and how messed up she can be at times. I know that I have a lot of problems too.

As I said before, I accept that this isn't going to work out. Yes, I know there are other fish in the seas as GQ said. I personally think, this situation with Maria, seems magnified, considering all else that's gone on in my life over the past few years.

 

[helplessandhappy]

I just read this entire thread and I still don't really get what yall are arguing over.

Anyway, I realize your situation has been resolved. But I think a great way to bring up the subject of tickling is to offer someone a massage. Then, when you're working your hands toward typically sensitive areas, you can say something like "Does this feel okay? Are you ticklish right here?"

It comes off as just being sensitive (which you are, I don't mean that in an underhanded way), and it's a totally normal thing to ask while massaging someone. Based on her reaction, you should be able to get somewhat of an idea of how she feels about getting tickled. If she giggles and says yes, you can say something cute like "uh oh, you might get tickled one day soon--but not during the massage, of course!" If she seems to react negatively, then you can just drop it and carry on with the massage.

I've used massages as a way to both discover the ticklishness in others and admit to ticklishness myself, in the past. 😉

If she isn't comfortable enough to let you give her a massage, she probably wouldn't be down with getting tickled by you either. I feel like massages and tickling are kind of in the same comfort-level category.