For a tickling forum we sure do bitch/hate a lot.

[venray]

Yes, and among any large enough group of people, some are going feel slighted for not getting enough attention from the group. It is inevitable since some posts will get lots of responses and others will quickly sink from page one and vanish from sight.



A little tolerance of those differences goes a long way. Too bad tolerance is sometimes in short supply.

Absolutely......well said....

 

[Bugman]

Just forgot to add something.

You know....rather than knocking on people who make threads like this and actually try and dig at each other and bring out our inner selves to each other....maybe we should be thankful that those people care enough about the folks in this community to do it in the first place. You wanna participate, do it. You don't....then don't.

But if you don't....let those who do have it...without trying to shoot it down as "wrong".

'Nuff said.

Well said Dave.

 

[Soda83pop]

AffectionateDan is not a bear

Dammit...now I owe someone money.

😉

 

[dvnc]

She fibs. He's a big hairy bear.

 

[P[a]pi]

I completely agree. The clips are nice from time to time, but in my opinion not the meat of the community. The conversation is.

I think this is the main point. Conversation is the main thing here. So, obviously this place will have much more arguing/debating than other places.

When I come on here I don't feel like I'm on a tickling forum at all. This place is about analyzing (and sometimes over analyzing) everything, including tickling.

When I think of the tickling fetish, I think of action/creation such as clips/pics/artwork, but that's just me. Also, these things are "media" and the name of this place is "The Tickling Media Forum" (TMF). Conversation is not media, but there should be more conversation about the media here. And I wish more people created free tickling media in general.

 

[Soda83pop]

She fibs. He's a big hairy bear.

Im still in it then.

Kodiak for the win.....

 

[venray]

I think this is the main point. Conversation is the main thing here. So, obviously this place will have much more arguing/debating than other places.

I have to disagree to a point...conversation IS the main thing in the discussion forums, but in the long run the media and content forums get far more views and activity......

Most people come here for the "stuff" not to talk or debate or hook up or make friends....there is nothing wrong with that as it was the original purpose of this site way back when..

BUT....those that wish to interact should not be bitched at for doing so, nor should those that want this to remain their place to secretly indulge in their fetish without any interaction at all....

There is room for everyone here...

 

[kis123]

A different perspective..........

A little tolerance of those differences goes a long way. Too bad tolerance is sometimes in short supply.

As true as this statement is, I've been in short supply of the tolerance department lately. I'm not sure why I've been so short-tempered and intolerant because that's not my actual personality. I think that sometimes life steps in and embitters you for a season. It makes you see black when it's white or shades of gray. It makes you touchy and angry; then that one TMF member comes along at the worst possible time and hits that button that you normally have under control and you (you's hypothetical) become on the outside looking in at someone you didn't know existed inside you! It's an ugly thing that gets loose in me from time to time and only a few special people in this forum can bring that out in me.

At my age, I know better and should be much more controlled. But sometimes, I just let the horse out the barn and let her run wild! It's shameful but it is what it is! I tend to avoid most of those trigger people, but every once in awhile, that inner Mustang needs a run in the open field so I go for it. I ignore all the PM's begging me to ignore this person or to walk away. That person screwed with me at the wrong time IMO and he/she's gonna pay! It's so unlike me and so out of character, but sometimes I guess I need to feed the troll once in awhile because there's something sickly cathartic about it.

I know it sounds completely uncontrolled and crazy, but I admittedly have uncontrolled and crazy moments that must go their course.

 

[Stevereeno]

speak for yourself, CrystalLight... cuz it's just you. this isn't your tv remote control collection you can control by ordering with only your feelings. you're the one with the sigs and poems of pain in your love!!

you should ask yourself why you're the one who is bitching and hating a lot on a tickling forum. maybe there is no love in tickling and all tickling really is is a symptom of a problem expressing "love".

 

[venray]

I know it sounds completely uncontrolled and crazy, but I admittedly have uncontrolled and crazy moments that must go their course.

We all do, and when we learn to recognize that we take a step closer to understanding others.......

 

[CrystalLight]

I clearly should have put a disclaimer on this thread judging by some of the posts.

I created this to see and read about everyone's opinions. Just because it's me who is doing it, doesn't mean come out and start/attempt to bash at what I do on forum. It actually only cements some of mine and some other folks' posts.

This was created for discussion, not to start a war.

Thank you to all who have offered opinions. Much appreciated.

Most people come here for the "stuff" not to talk or debate or hook up or make friends....there is nothing wrong with that as it was the original purpose of this site way back when..

BUT....those that wish to interact should not be bitched at for doing so, nor should those that want this to remain their place to secretly indulge in their fetish without any interaction at all.

I agree completely. Just as we let them do their own thing, if they ever decide to poke their heads out even if momentarily, there are plenty here who'll welcome and encourage.

but I admittedly have uncontrolled and crazy moments that must go their course.

Don't we all.

speak for yourself, CrystalLight... cuz it's just you. this isn't your tv remote control collection you can control by ordering with only your feelings. you're the one with the sigs and poems of pain in your love!!

you should ask yourself why you're the one who is bitching and hating a lot on a tickling forum. maybe there is no love in tickling and all tickling really is is a symptom of a problem expressing "love".

The poem in my signature was written by a friend of mine, not me.

And I really don't think it has anything much to do with an issue expressing love. If you still think so, I'd love to hear you elaborate.

 

[baldadonis]

speak for yourself, CrystalLight... cuz it's just you. this isn't your tv remote control collection you can control by ordering with only your feelings. you're the one with the sigs and poems of pain in your love!!

you should ask yourself why you're the one who is bitching and hating a lot on a tickling forum. maybe there is no love in tickling and all tickling really is is a symptom of a problem expressing "love".

I think you are overgeneralizing here, Stevereeno. The problem of bitching and hating is not just relegated to CL. Its been around long before she ever came along. She just seems to be a lightning rod for it because she is exceptionally public about her life and feelings.

Also, I think the bitching and hating she refers to is the response she feels she is getting in general from people who are looking for any opportunity to pick her apart. Is she bitching and hating herself? I haven't seen it personally, but I can't tell you it isn't happening. But even if she is bitching and hating, what is being accomplished by calling her out on this. Like Dave2112 said so eloquently in his post, why can't we just accept each other as they are, even if its different from how we might be and want others to be. Crystal is obviously someone with very strong opinions who has and will continue to make her opinions known here and won't back down from an argument. If that's her personality, why can't we just accept her as she is instead of trying to call her out and make her feel bad about herself?

 

[kis123]

speak for yourself, CrystalLight... cuz it's just you. this isn't your tv remote control collection you can control by ordering with only your feelings. you're the one with the sigs and poems of pain in your love!!

you should ask yourself why you're the one who is bitching and hating a lot on a tickling forum. maybe there is no love in tickling and all tickling really is is a symptom of a problem expressing "love".

First DimpleToes, now Crystallight: do you have women issues? Or is it just so tempting to attack women in cyberspace under the guise of anynominity?

It's a shame she asks a question and you drop this garbage on her. Then again.......the real "you" is showing!

It's not just her.....at least she had the stones to ask the question. You could've given her a respectable answer. Then again..........

 

[Leo tickles]

Interesting thread and responses so far.

If moderators and members here let everybody into their lives to the extent of being social with them, and not just the first few people that..... kiss up to them, the forum would be a much better place as it once was.

That, and the infinite numbers of youtube threads in the GD forum is disgusting to me. Make a sticky, call it youtube threads, yay? Or, post it in the silly stuff forum, since it turns into nothing but "u fail", "no u fail", garbage anyway.

If the youtube threads were cleaned up, we could have some discussions going, but then it would be "no i right u wrong", so in my view, if everybody were to chill out and realize not everything is personally aimed at them, we could have intelligent discussions with less of the crap that's going on now.

 

[Capnmad]

I created this to see and read about everyone's opinions. Just because it's me who is doing it, doesn't mean come out and start/attempt to bash at what I do on forum. It actually only cements some of mine and some other folks' posts.

This was created for discussion, not to start a war.

I think you're going to have this problem for a while, whether you think you're deserving or not, and regardless the intention of individual posts. The people you have offended over your time here when you represented yourself in a less civil manner are still here, and offended people often have long memories.

Recently, a fellow thought he could represent himself positively here and then promote a radio show he started in which he was... less than considerate to Forum members. Myriads duly noted that he could not reasonably expect people to treat these facets of his personality as distinct entities, regardless the fact that they were separated by medium.

Some people here are in the same boat, however the portions of their personality they choose to show may be separated by time, or individual post or thread, or whathaveyou. People will rarely treat you as the person you want to pose as in one thread, if you pose in another quite differently.

That should be remembered by everyone and they should know that no matter who they are, they have their own history and people's perceptions thereof to overcome.


That said, I do try to merit people on individual behaviors. I credit you for trying to do something positive, but I think it's gotten a little fuzzy and diffuse. A lot of opinions were aired, and I thought of adding something else myself, but it seems to me I wouldn't know where to start... Some folks touch on the "clique" thing, and others just how people get along, rudeness, it's just people being people, we shouldn't try to change anybody, let's all be understanding, and yes, well, that's all well and good... But I don't see a direction for it.

It's an ambitious question: Why do people have such a tough time just getting along? (My version of what you're essentially asking: "Why are you all so bitchy?")

But I think there are waaaaayyy too many answers for it to try to address in any reasonable fashion. Even narrow, well defined questions often have broad and varying answers tough to pin down. This one, as broad as it is to start, is tough to go somewhere substantial with.

 

[CrystalLight]

If moderators and members here let everybody into their lives to the extent of being social with them, and not just the first few people that..... kiss up to them, the forum would be a much better place as it once was.

I disagree with this. Everyone is more then welcome to posting (within reason) what they desire. It's all about how one goes about doing it that makes the difference.

If you have reasoning as to why you're posting something and have been bashing folks left and right, that person isn't going to exactly get an easy flowing response.

That, and the infinite numbers of youtube threads in the GD forum is disgusting to me. Make a sticky, call it youtube threads, yay? Or, post it in the silly stuff forum, since it turns into nothing but "u fail", "no u fail", garbage anyway.

I think the youtube videos have carried a lot of good. It gives folks a chance to share their own personal interests, thus possibly sparking decent discussion.

 

[Leo tickles]

I disagree with this. Everyone is more then welcome to posting (within reason) what they desire. It's all about how one goes about doing it that makes the difference.

If you have reasoning as to why you're posting something and have been bashing folks left and right, that person isn't going to exactly get an easy flowing response.



I think the youtube videos have carried a lot of good. It gives folks a chance to share their own personal interests, thus possibly sparking decent discussion.

Well, there's the problem. One end thinks things such as (in my view) pointless youtube garbage is... pointless, and on the other end, people think it's doing good.

So, the two halves split, and hence, problems when a person from the other side so to speak crosses over.

 

[venray]

Well, there's the problem. One end thinks things such as (in my view) pointless youtube garbage is... pointless, and on the other end, people think it's doing good.

So, the two halves split, and hence, problems when a person from the other side so to speak crosses over.

If one doesnt like youtube, one neednt read the thread...

There is no reason why you must put others down for what they like.....

this is a big forum with a lot of bandwidth....post and read what you like and let others do the same....

There is no need to "cross over" if the sole purpose is to complain that you dont think a person should have posted something...

 

[Leo tickles]

If one doesnt like youtube, one neednt read the thread...

There is no reason why you must put others down for what they like.....

this is a big forum with a lot of bandwidth....post and read what you like and let others do the same....

There is no need to "cross over" if the sole purpose is to complain that you dont think a person should have posted something...

The thread was asking for opinions, I gave mine.

I don't post in those threads, nor have I been reading them. I'm not attacking anybody for posting them, to each their own and more power to them.

I was just stating what I think is the problem and why there is so much "hate" going on.

 

[venray]

The thread was asking for opinions, I gave mine.

I don't post in those threads, nor have I been reading them. I'm not attacking anybody for posting them, to each their own and more power to them.

I was just stating what I think is the problem and why there is so much "hate" going on.

ah so you tube is the blame and not the way people personally attack others....

thank you for clarifying that...ROFLMAO

 

[Leo tickles]

Interesting thread and responses so far.

If moderators and members here let everybody into their lives to the extent of being social with them, and not just the first few people that..... kiss up to them, the forum would be a much better place as it once was.

ah so you tube is the blame and not the way people personally attack others....

thank you for clarifying that...ROFLMAO

2+2=4.

 

[Raya]

Elementary level math means what?

 

[Leo tickles]

Elementary level math means what?

That I know how to count.

What do you do with your mouse when you want to read a thread? Point and.....

Now somebody tell me why I'm the target of this thread, please.

 

[MEKA]

Well, there's the problem. One end thinks things such as (in my view) pointless youtube garbage is... pointless, and on the other end, people think it's doing good.

So, the two halves split, and hence, problems when a person from the other side so to speak crosses over.

lol i agree..its common sense.

in my opinion alot of you people need to spend a little less time in the general discussion..you know tmf has like..other threads right? Maybe that'll help with all the "bitching" and annoying shit that happens in this section

lately (from what i've seen) the general discussion has become the "how many pointless topics can i make up and get away with?" section..maybe people are just so annoyed by it all and that's why they're bitching. And for those that are bitching..just do what i do and just never come into this section.

 

[chicago]

As much as I hate to, I agree with Leo that there is an influx of retardation in GD as of late. Much of which are jokes, random youtube videos, threads that are geared towards one member of the community, etc that all belong elsewhere, in my opinion.

It's not like I'm going to report them, but at times I find them to be a bit annoying since subforums like Silly Stuff and Humor were purposely made so that threads like that don't clutter GD.

There are currently 4 to 6 threads that could arguably be moved, 2 of them being mine, but they are not nearly as bad as the junk that was being posted there a few weeks ago.

For example, this thread should have probably been in the Silly Stuff forum :http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?t=131065.