I'm thinking about leaving this site.

[ticklishscribe]

Isn't it "All My Children."​

..and that concludes today's episode of the award winning guiding light...

 

[Myriads]

GG said: My last post now...

Look, sorry if I seem like such an ass, but thats jsut who I am.

When a random man online asks me for a photo of me, it makes me feel like I'm nothing but an object to them. I don't know, maybe some women here enjoy the attention they get from men. But I don't. I don't want a man perving over me, cause I am NOT an object for sexual fantasies. I felt like an object on that day that guy nearly raped me. and I feel like an object now. Thats why I'm so upset. Cause thats how these men are making me feel.

Bye...Again, sorry for being an ass...Just too many bad experiences..


I hope that you find what you did not find here, whereever you may go.

I regret that so many member reacted to your announcement of leaving with such negative attitudes. I fear they forgot that your reasons might very well be based in issues, and history, that we cannot see or understand, and thus only reacted to your presentation of your feelings, not why you had them. People care for the forum, and react poorly when they feel it's been insulted. It's a natural defense thing.

With respect to the problems you have had here, regardless of how you choose to define yourself, once you enter a public space people will define you as they choose fit. You can work hard to project the definition you desire, but you'll need to work hard to overcome peoples natural tendency to place their desires on your image as you walk past.

The TMF is a social web site, designed to allow all the various members of the community to interact and meet in the ways they choose to. Basicaly we provide the tools and all you folks use them as you like. But the end effect is that the TMF is a website that has a sexual basis and atmosphere. The majority of members gather here to somehow feed their sexual paraphelia. That is the Context of the place you have been posting in.

Some here WILL define you as a sexual object to use for their fantasy desires.

Others will just want to get to know you as a person.

Yet others may be the best friends you never knew you had.

All of them will approach you differently, and some far more aptly then others. But all will start with the idea in their head of the context of the place they encountered you. You will get hit upon. Its the nature of things. Saying "No thanks, I'm not interested in that, but thanks for asking." will make most go away. If they don't then report them. We'll take it from there with proper documentation of the issue.

But people will approach you here. And every one of them will have thier own agenda and ideas of how you coudl possibly fit in their world. Not all of them will think with thier cocks. Some will though. Part of growing up is learning how to divide the people coming at you quickly and effectivly into "No" "Maybe" and "Yes". for future investment. You'll pick it up in time.

But you came here with the idea that the TMF would be able to be and do something for you.

The fact that you desire it to be something else, and perhaps might even need it to be otherwise is noted. But it will not change the context that the members have defined for it. And it is that context that people who come here have to learn to operate in, or like you have come to feel, they will become unhappy here.

You wanted us to be other. Sadly we were not. There is more then enough room here for your attitude and likes. toyous threads are filled with the sort of playful tickling that you say you like. I wager you have met some folks here that you do enjoy talking with. And so on.

I feel that you are searching for ways to heal yourself, and this was a possibility that did not work as you hoped. At 18 you have been dented by the world, and are seeking to move past that, and reclaim much of what you feel was taken from you. That is hard long work. That you are trying speaks well of you, and you have my best wishes in your efforts to heal. My regrets that we could not be of greater aid and support.

Be well, and take care. Hope to see you about.
Myriads

 

[tcklft]

She'll be back. She loves the drama. 🙄

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

i find it somewhat ironic that so many people here who chastise a young women for being "Immature" act immature themselves. But then, that is the way of life i suppose.

I wish you the best of luck Gamegirl. I hope you find what your looking for.

I basically agree with what he said. I certainly know some immature people on this forum but I am going to not name names. Good luck to you Gamegirl. I hope you can learn to deal with life better soon or when you get older.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

...so she's pissed because she wanted playful tickling and got porno and perverts, or she's pissed because everyone here seems to be interested in tickling (for some odd reason..) and she isn't. Everything I've seen her say the past couple of months seems to go back and forth between why she's so pissed off here. Just a bit confused...

 

[ftkl_haha]

What HE said.

You know, there are two ways you can handle a place like this.

1. Come in, introduce yourself, be friendly, deal with any minor irritations that might come up from time to time, get to know people, and just be cool in general.

or...

2. What you did. Hate to say it, but from the get-go, you seemed to be on a quest to alienate yourself and draw LOTS of negative attention. Frankly, I'm surprised you stayed as long as you did.

I must concur, particularly with point #2. Your adversarial nature raised my eyebrows more than once. I've seen you THREATEN other members for comments obviously made in jest. Not cool. Adults shouldn't act that way and kids shouldn't be here.

Adieu,
~FTKL

 

[mabus]

I'm 50, can I have some pictures ~Game Girl~? Ohh, ooh, ooh, how about you tickled in pantyhose....by that big fat guy from Horatio's picture?

Ha ha, just kidding. I'm sure at this point, she's gone....until she replies back again....

I agree with everything Myriads said, and everybody else...except ~Game Girl~. The analogies never end - it's like someone going into a cookie store...and bitching about how they hate sweets. Or someone going to church and complaining about all the religious people.
One of my favorite sites is Aint-it-cool.com, a movie site. It's full of flamers and whiners, to which I say, SO WHAT!? I ignore their posts, and only view what I want to view. I don't sit there and read 2,000 posts from people who hate George Lucas, I just watch the movie trailers posted and read the movie news.
And to those who defended her, your intentions are good, but a waste of time, and I mean no offense to YOU the defenders, your hearts are in the right place. But you can't log onto a Tickling fetish website and only expect playful tickling and the right kind of people to talk to you. That's life, deal with it. What do you want from us, a list for every member that everyone else must abide by? "Everytime Mabus logs onto the forum, all 50,000 members must only discuss pantyhose tickling, and only the way he likes it, and then when a barefoot tickling fan logs on, all pantyhose discussion must cease as long as they are logged on." Come on!

 

[ftkl_haha]

I'm 50, can I have some pictures ~Game Girl~? Ohh, ooh, ooh, how about you tickled in pantyhose....by that big fat guy from Horatio's picture?

Ha ha, just kidding. I'm sure at this point, she's gone....until she replies back again....

I agree with everything Myriads said, and everybody else...except ~Game Girl~. The analogies never end - it's like someone going into a cookie store...and bitching about how they hate sweets. Or someone going to church and complaining about all the religious people.
One of my favorite sites is Aint-it-cool.com, a movie site. It's full of flamers and whiners, to which I say, SO WHAT!? I ignore their posts, and only view what I want to view. I don't sit there and read 2,000 posts from people who hate George Lucas, I just watch the movie trailers posted and read the movie news.
And to those who defended her, your intentions are good, but a waste of time, and I mean no offense to YOU the defenders, your hearts are in the right place. But you can't log onto a Tickling fetish website and only expect playful tickling and the right kind of people to talk to you. That's life, deal with it. What do you want from us, a list for every member that everyone else must abide by? "Everytime Mabus logs onto the forum, all 50,000 members must only discuss pantyhose tickling, and only the way he likes it, and then when a barefoot tickling fan logs on, all pantyhose discussion must cease as long as they are logged on." Come on!

Well-said.

~FTKL

 

[Goodieluver]

Hey im 24, not an old man

Can i see a pic of you?

and im like her, im here to post about sports and my wacky political musings and chew bubblegum, whats all this tickling stuff then!?

 

[Dr. Vollin]

So what's the best brand of bubble gum these days?

 

[jim66e]

And to those who defended her, your intentions are good, but a waste of time, and I mean no offense to YOU the defenders, your hearts are in the right place. But you can't log onto a Tickling fetish website and only expect playful tickling and the right kind of people to talk to you. That's life, deal with it.

I think from her posts the main thing driving her away was the harrasment. Note how that is listed twice in her reasons. While she may have had other presures behind leaving, the forum has to accept that another female (which is already the minority gender) has been driven away. Is this the type of atmosphere we want to project for the TMF? That all new young women who join will be substitueded to a constant barrage of harrising posts and pms, often from men twice their age. That like some sick initation the new female member must either learn to deal with the harrasment or leave?

I would like to think our forum is better than that. We are suposed to be a friendly community, not an attacking one. Since I'm not female I wouldn't know for sure, but I would guess that many of our female members who did survive the "initiation"/continuing bombardment of pms would like it to lessen/stop.

 

[minerva]

I would like to think our forum is better than that. We are suposed to be a friendly community, not an attacking one. Since I'm not female I wouldn't know for sure, but I would guess that many of our female members who did survive the "initiation"/continuing bombardment of pms would like it to lessen/stop.

This IS a friendly community if you choose to see it as such and if you approach people in a friendly way yourself.

As a female member I can confirm, there are those PM's you can clearly live without, but so what. As lots of people already suggested, there are many ways to deal with them and from my experience a friendly, but firm 'thanks, but no thanks' always worked so far.

Sure, there are jerks as well, but if you join an adult forum you should be prepared for them. To make a big deal or even drama out of them is simply stupid IMO, when it's so easy to just ignore them and concentrate on the nice guys.
The jerks are only a few among lots of others who are so much worth getting to know. 🙂

 

[kis123]

I can't believe nobody commented on my fat-guy-at-the-computer post. I even doctored the whiteboard.

Oh, well, at least I make myself laugh. 😱

Happy New Years

I personally found it funny in a Comedy Central kind of way!

As far as Ms GG is concerned; she came to the forum like a whirlwind, posted opinions that were in raw angst, and threw a tantrum every time someone disagreed with her.

I can dig the guys flooding the PM box when a new female arrives. I got it just like many of the women have on this forum; we deal with it and move on instead of bellyaching and complaining about it.

I can still remember the animal and gay rights activist posts she made; whoever disagreed was welcomed with a series of four letter words that would've made Satan blush!

There are some people who don't want to fit in; they want to do as they please around here. It doesn't work that way. I hope she finds what she's looking for and if she comes back, hopefully she'll be ready to handle things with more maturity and respect for those who don't share her viewpoints.

 

[Bugman]

I personally found it funny in a Comedy Central kind of way!

As far as Ms GG is concerned; she came to the forum like a whirlwind, posted opinions that were in raw angst, and threw a tantrum every time someone disagreed with her.

I can dig the guys flooding the PM box when a new female arrives. I got it just like many of the women have on this forum; we deal with it and move on instead of bellyaching and complaining about it.

I can still remember the animal and gay rights activist posts she made; whoever disagreed was welcomed with a series of four letter words that would've made Satan blush!

There are some people who don't want to fit in; they want to do as they please around here. It doesn't work that way. I hope she finds what she's looking for and if she comes back, hopefully she'll be ready to handle things with more maturity and respect for those who don't share her viewpoints.

Thanks kis,very well said as usual.

 

[kis123]

Thanks kis,very well said as usual.

Why thank you!

Only calling it as I see it--can't help myself sometimes!

 

[ticklishscribe]

Well put Myr.​

GG said: My last post now...

Look, sorry if I seem like such an ass, but thats jsut who I am.

When a random man online asks me for a photo of me, it makes me feel like I'm nothing but an object to them. I don't know, maybe some women here enjoy the attention they get from men. But I don't. I don't want a man perving over me, cause I am NOT an object for sexual fantasies. I felt like an object on that day that guy nearly raped me. and I feel like an object now. Thats why I'm so upset. Cause thats how these men are making me feel.

Bye...Again, sorry for being an ass...Just too many bad experiences..


I hope that you find what you did not find here, whereever you may go.

I regret that so many member reacted to your announcement of leaving with such negative attitudes. I fear they forgot that your reasons might very well be based in issues, and history, that we cannot see or understand, and thus only reacted to your presentation of your feelings, not why you had them. People care for the forum, and react poorly when they feel it's been insulted. It's a natural defense thing.

With respect to the problems you have had here, regardless of how you choose to define yourself, once you enter a public space people will define you as they choose fit. You can work hard to project the definition you desire, but you'll need to work hard to overcome peoples natural tendency to place their desires on your image as you walk past.

The TMF is a social web site, designed to allow all the various members of the community to interact and meet in the ways they choose to. Basicaly we provide the tools and all you folks use them as you like. But the end effect is that the TMF is a website that has a sexual basis and atmosphere. The majority of members gather here to somehow feed their sexual paraphelia. That is the Context of the place you have been posting in.

Some here WILL define you as a sexual object to use for their fantasy desires.

Others will just want to get to know you as a person.

Yet others may be the best friends you never knew you had.

All of them will approach you differently, and some far more aptly then others. But all will start with the idea in their head of the context of the place they encountered you. You will get hit upon. Its the nature of things. Saying "No thanks, I'm not interested in that, but thanks for asking." will make most go away. If they don't then report them. We'll take it from there with proper documentation of the issue.

But people will approach you here. And every one of them will have thier own agenda and ideas of how you coudl possibly fit in their world. Not all of them will think with thier cocks. Some will though. Part of growing up is learning how to divide the people coming at you quickly and effectivly into "No" "Maybe" and "Yes". for future investment. You'll pick it up in time.

But you came here with the idea that the TMF would be able to be and do something for you.

The fact that you desire it to be something else, and perhaps might even need it to be otherwise is noted. But it will not change the context that the members have defined for it. And it is that context that people who come here have to learn to operate in, or like you have come to feel, they will become unhappy here.

You wanted us to be other. Sadly we were not. There is more then enough room here for your attitude and likes. toyous threads are filled with the sort of playful tickling that you say you like. I wager you have met some folks here that you do enjoy talking with. And so on.

I feel that you are searching for ways to heal yourself, and this was a possibility that did not work as you hoped. At 18 you have been dented by the world, and are seeking to move past that, and reclaim much of what you feel was taken from you. That is hard long work. That you are trying speaks well of you, and you have my best wishes in your efforts to heal. My regrets that we could not be of greater aid and support.

Be well, and take care. Hope to see you about.
Myriads

 

[red indian]

Dear oh dear! not another one of these threads please!!....."ok thats it, I am leaving the site for good, thats it.....the end....I am leaving.....dont try and stop me anybody!!, just back off!....i mean it....i am out of here!!"

 

[General Zod]

Dear oh dear! not another one of these threads please!!....."ok thats it, I am leaving the site for good, thats it.....the end....I am leaving.....dont try and stop me anybody!!, just back off!....i mean it....i am out of here!!"

So long Red 😛

 

[red indian]

" Did you all hear me? I AM LEAVING THE SITE RIGHT NOW!!!!! AND DONT ANYONE TRY TO STOP ME.....DO I MAKE MYSELF CLEAR? NO GOING BACK, NO SECOND CHANCES............I....AM.....LEAVING!!!"

 

[red indian]

" You Are All Going To Regret This You Know.......i Am Leaving The Site, Never To Return, Ever Ever Ever Ever Again.....thats Completely It.....you Will Never Ever Never Ever See Me On Here Ever Again..........as Long As The World Turns.....do You All Understand Me????"

 

[kis123]

" Did you all hear me? I AM LEAVING THE SITE RIGHT NOW!!!!! AND DONT ANYONE TRY TO STOP ME.....DO I MAKE MYSELF CLEAR? NO GOING BACK, NO SECOND CHANCES............I....AM.....LEAVING!!!"

Please stop--you guys are killing me over here!!😱

 

[red indian]

..................." er........hello? anyone there? anyone miss me?.....NOT THAT I GIVE A FUCKING MONKIES OF COURSE BECAUSE I HAVE LEFT THIS SITE FOR EVER.....AND I DONT GIVE A FUCKING SHIT OK?.........DO I MAKE MYSELF CLEAR?.........THATS COMPLETELY IT NOW....ITS TOTALLY OVER....FOR GOOD.....LOOSERS!!!!!!"

 

[kered]

Red Indian.....we hardly knew ye................

 

[red indian]

.........."er....just thought I would have a quick look what people have been saying about me since I .....SO TOTALLY LEFT THIS SITE FOR EVER, YOU FUCKING LOOSERS!!!.........er....yep, well just thought I would stop by and see what a mess i have left behind, i know how devastated you all must be now I have left.....its just sort of....well, you know, a bit sort of trippy you know? a bit like being able to see your own funeral? see what shear, utter carnage your passing has had on the community. You can get a great kick out of seeing what people say about you, makes you feel really really important.....makes you realise you are not such a sad little fuck after all"............................................................................................................................"NOT THAT I GIVE A FLYING FUCK ABOUT ANY OF THAT.....BECAUSE I HAVE LEFT THIS PATHETIC, SMALL MINDED,NURDY,ASSHOLE OF A WEB SITE........NOW....AND FOR EVER!!!!

 

[kis123]

.........."er....just thought I would have a quick look what people have been saying about me since I .....SO TOTALLY LEFT THIS SITE FOR EVER, YOU FUCKING LOOSERS!!!.........er....yep, well just thought I would stop by and see what a mess i have left behind, i know how devastated you all must be now I have left.....its just sort of....well, you know, a bit sort of trippy you know? a bit like being able to see your own funeral? see what shear, utter carnage your passing has had on the community. You can get a great kick out of seeing what people say about you, makes you feel really really important.....makes you realise you are not such a sad little fuck after all"............................................................................................................................"NOT THAT I GIVE A FLYING FUCK ABOUT ANY OF THAT.....BECAUSE I HAVE LEFT THIS PATHETIC, SMALL MINDED,NURDY,ASSHOLE OF A WEB SITE........NOW....AND FOR EVER!!!!

Someone please just make him stop!!!