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[tommytikl]

Call a junk removal company to clear your mom's stuff. Book a flight to somewhere warm and read a book, watch the surf whatever. Get away from your current cycle of pain...

 

[Mitchell]

Tommy has a good idea. I'm going to give my dad stuff this weekend. After that, I can call someone to get rid of the rest of it, then maybe take a trip, somewhere, come back, pack my stuff, and get out of here.

Mitch

 

[Leo tickles]

Tommy has a good idea. I'm going to give my dad stuff this weekend. After that, I can call someone to get rid of the rest of it, then maybe take a trip, somewhere, come back, pack my stuff, and get out of here.

Mitch

Yes, let everybody do your work while you take a trip. Good call.

 

[Mitchell]

Leo, for Christ Sake, it was just an idea. Where do I EVER go? 10 years I've been with this forum. I've been to the casino in Wilmington, for the day., To King of Prussia Mall near Philly, for the day. To Philly, for the day, and to NY, for my mom's funeral. Those are all the places I've been. My friends, and the members of my dad;s side of the family, travel far more than I ever have. I'm not going to "let anyone do my work" ,as you so mistakenly said. I'm going to do it all by myself, k??

I'm probably not going to take any trips. The only place I'm planning to go is to NY the weekend after this one, to visit my family, and look for apartments. I dont want to be here on Mother's Day alone on the first one without my mom. My family understands that. Can the members of this forum?? Besides that trip, i;m going to be home.

Mitch

 

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[rhiannon]

My family understands that. Can the members of this forum??

Mitch, not too long ago I read a pretty good saying, it went like this:

I am what I am. Your approval is not needed.

Please, do yourself a favor and don't seek approval, especially not on here! You will not find any!

 

[GQguy]

Mitch Rhiannon is right. We live in a different world than you. Feeling entitled to a trip after not being employed for decades sounds crazy. If you want the truth, post. If you don't want the truth don't post.

 

[Mitchell]

"Not being employed for decades"., Okay, GQ. Anyone who does their own business, even if it doesnt work.. isnt "Employed".

Everyone will spin it their own way.. just to criticize, attack, etc, under the guidance of "meaning well".

I never said I was taking a trip. I never go anywhere, GQ., You can feel satisfied knowing that. Tommy suggested something, I said I MIGHT.

Geez already!

Mitch

 

[Mitchell]

So let me pose a hypothetical question: I get my apartment together.. June 1st comes.. I move to NY. I'm setting up an apartment, and a life in NY. I'm going to post about it on this forum to get replies such as..

"You and your father will be estranged soon, and then you will be nowhere" from coldneck

"You dont have a right to live there. Its expensive, and you cant afford it"

If my dad told me to get settled for a week or two, and then look for a job, I'd get.. "You should have a job before you go. You have no right going anywhere, unless a job is waiting for you".

And,.. if I meet a nice girl later this year.. from coldneck.. and others..

"She's crazy for dating you. She will come to her senses, and dump you".

Do you all really think I;m going to give you this opportunity to say any of these things?

I'm going to say this loud and clear..

Enough is Enough! Get off me until my stuff is packed, and I'm out of Lancaster! There is NOTHING I can do now. Tell ya what, if I'm sitting in NY, a month or two after getting there, still not "employed",. as GQ says, then you can ride me. If I would even post such information after this shit!

Mitch

 

[Snail Shell]

So don't post that information. This has been said to you before Mitch, the personal info that you post publicly belongs in a blog or a journal, where those close to you can read it and make suggestions there. Posting it publicly opens you up for things like the last 12 pages or so, especially when your first words in the thread are "I know I'm opening myself up for attack and I shouldn't post this, but I'm going to anyway".

Do everyone involved a favour, including yourself, and don't post anything remotely personal publicly on this forum again. Ever. Blog? Fine. PM's? Go for it. General Discussion? The few remaining who did care have since given up in the last few days (read above) and the miserable details of your life are a buzz-kill for the rest of us. To say nothing of the perceived attacks and insults that you claim you've been the recipient of.

You say you're not going to post things like this again after you move? Why are you waiting? Stop posting things like that now. As well, stop posting about topics that relate to the personal info in your life, like yesterday's thread about the afterlife. You know where it's going to end up, and you clearly don't like it.

If you don't want to suffer the nasty, evil barbs of the internet, don't leave yourself open to them by posting things like this.

SS

 

[CrystalLight]

Enough is Enough! Get off me until my stuff is packed, and I'm out of Lancaster! There is NOTHING I can do now. Tell ya what, if I'm sitting in NY, a month or two after getting there, still not "employed",. as GQ says, then you can ride me. If I would even post such information after this shit!

Mitch

Hey Mitch ,

You know the drill of posting threads. You're opening up a line of conversation for all members to partake in. The opinions you receive may not be what you want to hear. If this is the case , then you can request the thread to be closed and continue your conversation w/others Privately.

I'm sorry you're going through a hard time right now.

- Jo

 

[kis123]

So don't post that information. This has been said to you before Mitch, the personal info that you post publicly belongs in a blog or a journal, where those close to you can read it and make suggestions there. Posting it publicly opens you up for things like the last 12 pages or so, especially when your first words in the thread are "I know I'm opening myself up for attack and I shouldn't post this, but I'm going to anyway".

Do everyone involved a favour, including yourself, and don't post anything remotely personal publicly on this forum again. Ever. Blog? Fine. PM's? Go for it. General Discussion? The few remaining who did care have since given up in the last few days (read above) and the miserable details of your life are a buzz-kill for the rest of us. To say nothing of the perceived attacks and insults that you claim you've been the recipient of.

You say you're not going to post things like this again after you move? Why are you waiting? Stop posting things like that now. As well, stop posting about topics that relate to the personal info in your life, like yesterday's thread about the afterlife. You know where it's going to end up, and you clearly don't like it.

If you don't want to suffer the nasty, evil barbs of the internet, don't leave yourself open to them by posting things like this.

SS

^This for the win^

Mitch, this is about the best advice I've seen in a long time. You and I already exchanged PMs and since those are considered "private" for a reason, I won't get into it. However, you are emotionally raw right now and need to consider the suggestion above. The forum has a blogging function-I stongly and respectfully advise you to learn and use them. That way you're not opening the door for pages of attacks and criticisms.

Please remember that in the public areas of the forum, you're going to get all kinds of responses that you will love, like, dislike, and absolutely hate. That's the price for putting your opinions in the public. Take them or leave them, it is what it is.

You take this place way too seriously and I understand because I used to do it to until I woke up at 3am one day and realized one small but important life-changing fact:

How much should I concern myself with the opinions of those whose real names I don't know and will probably never meet in life? Now this is NOT to say that I don't care about the opinions of human beings because they do matter. But if someone doesn't like me, they don't like me, plain nad simple and I don't lose sleep over it, nor do I plead my case because they are entitled to their opinion and I am entitled to agree or disagree with it.

I've been much happier around here since..........

 

[NonConTickler]

To the OP I had no idea you and I were so much alike. My mom complains sometimes that she wants grandkids. I tell her "sorry mom, you should've had more kids then". I'm an only child and so is she. But yeah, I avoid other people as much as I possibly can because I avoid feeling anything unpleasant as much as I possibly can. The more time I spend around people, eventually they will do something I don't like or I will do something they don't like, although I don't mind the latter as long as they would shut up about it. Either way it turns out unpleasant for me. 90% of the time I spend around other people may be pleasant, but it's not worth the other 10%. My interactions with other people have to be on my terms, or I don't want any interactions with others at all. Hence most of my interaction with others is over the internet, where I can be anonymous, say what I want, and respond how I want, or not at all. Don't know if any of this helps the OP, but just wanted to talk about how it related to me.

 

[Mitchell]

Non con, thanks for your insight. I know you are sincere. Here is my reply.

While I understand what you said about your interactions with people being on your terms..

In my real life.. I'm not really that way at all. For decades, my relationships with both my father, and my ex best friend, were almost 100% on their terms. My ex best friend and I are finished, but.. since my mom took sick and died, I've reconnected with my father, and.. my relationship with him is.. and always probably will be.. a challenge.

Each person does what they feel comfortable with. I have two really close friends. One i've known for 20 years. The other I was friends with in the 80s, did something stupid to him, and then found him in August 2010 on Facebook after 21 years, and we are really close again. He and his parents were at my mom's funeral. When I get back to NY, I know my social life will improve.

Thats interesting that your mom is an only child. Not too many people's parents I know are/were, although my friend Barney's two parents are/were. My parents each had two siblings, but my two first cousins and I are all only children.

Thanks again.

Mitch