Marriage.. Relationship.., No..

[Mitchell]

I'll give a detailed response, and then I have something to say..

1. You stress independence in threads about my life for several reasons.

The forum members feel I was too dependent on my mom, emotionally, and for living circumstance, etc, when she was alive. This is what caused me to be in the position I'm in. Independence would improve my life, by making it so that I can take care of myself, and would also make it so that I wouldnt complain, and it wouldnt affect me, if someone else did something I didnt like.

2. If I had done this: I would be ready for a relationship, and might well have had a relationship and marriage a long time ago.

I hope that suffices, and now I have something else to say.

My father knows nothing about my life.. really., He doesnt know about my fetishes, that I write tickle stories, or that I've belonged to this forum for almost ten years.

Without saying it was a "Tickling forum", he knows that I belong to a "social chatroom" for a long time, and that they know my mom died. I told him people have been supportive. However, again without saying names, I also told him that someone in the social chatroom predicted that my father and I would be estranged again, and he thought it was a terrible thing to say, and that people should be rooting us on to be together as father and son. When I told him "Dad, I've complained about you in there, and some of the things you did to hurt me", his reply was "Mitch, I've complained to my friends and family about you too, but at the end of the day, they all want us to succeed, and be together".

GQ, I appreciate your effort, and I'm going to continue to work with you on this project you're doing with me, but it doesnt change my view that coldneck's post and prediction was cruel, and uncalled for.

Mitch

 

[TropicThunder]

GQ, I appreciate your effort, and I'm going to continue to work with you on this project you're doing with me, but it doesnt change my view that coldneck's post and prediction was cruel, and uncalled for.

Mitch

Mitch, you're missing the point AGAIN. This isn't about what coldneck or what he said at all. Please stop using that as an excuse to move away from the actual point of this whole thing.

 

[Mitchell]

Okay, TT, so tell me, what is the point of this whole thing? Why dont you tell me then?

Mitch

 

[rhiannon]

THIS is the point of it all, Mitch!

1. You stress independence in threads about my life for several reasons.

The forum members feel I was too dependent on my mom, emotionally, and for living circumstance, etc, when she was alive. This is what caused me to be in the position I'm in. Independence would improve my life, by making it so that I can take care of myself, and would also make it so that I wouldnt complain, and it wouldnt affect me, if someone else did something I didnt like.

2. If I had done this: I would be ready for a relationship, and might well have had a relationship and marriage a long time ago.

You are way too dependent on others, be it your mother, your father or even the people on this forum here! Quit wailing about what coldneck said, move your butt and pack! If it is so absurd, why do you even drag it along all these pages? It shouldn't even bother you!

 

[Mitchell]

okay, rhiannon, you are my keeper. You know the condition of my apartment for me to "move my butt and pack". Tell ya what, if you actually saw the place, you might not be so boastful.

Mitch

 

[rhiannon]

Honey, unless you already packed everything and wait for the movers to get it, it won't look any better from you sitting at the computer and complaining about coldneck!

 

[Leo tickles]

Hey guys, I need to do laundry.

For the next 3 years of my life, I'm going to sit here and argue the fact that I should get up and do it.... then blame coldneck because it isn't done!

For the love of fuck, Mitch. You can't pack if you aren't packing. Is that a simple enough statement?

 

[Mitchell]

You people really are unbelieveable! Did I say that I didnt start to pack? How the fuck do any of you know what the condition of my apartment is, or what I have, and havent done??? Are any of you here??

As Myriads suggested, my mom's clothes are all in bags, waiting to be sent to goodwill. I want my father to come down and sort through them with me, to make sure there is something that is good that I'm not overlooking. He is going to take her high end purses and furs to NY to sell, as he said I can get better prices there than here. There are breakables, in the breakfront, in the living room,that I want him to help me with. The den will take a couple of days, and my room, between the big chest, and clothes closet, perhaps a week. My time also takes into account that I was out of commision for two weeks, while I was in NY, and sitting shiva. Know how long I've really been sorting, packing? LESS THAN TWO WEEKS! I have said one billion times that I will be out of here by between June 1 and Father's Day. I would LIKE to be out of here by June 1, so I dont have to pay the rent for June. My mom died April 4, I have been home since the 8th, and have been working at this since the 16th, when I finished sitting shiva. Tell me how the hell six weeks is an unreasonable amount of time, to toss, sort, pack, sell, figure out, clothes, breakable, furniture and other valuables, when one is moving from a big place into a much smaller one?

When my parents split in 1989, my mom was in the same boat as me. Packing a big house to move to a much smaller place, no help, had to find a new home due to a tradegy in her life. Know how long she took, geniuses of the forum? EXACTLY the same amount of time I'm taking..six weeks! My parents split on Rosh Hashanah, in Oct, and we moved out of the house in mid Dec.

Why is it that no one else, my family, my friends in rl, etc, are badgering me about the amount of time its taking?!!!. My dad had said at first he THOUGHT maybe it could be done a bit faster, When he sees the CONDITION of this place, he will understand why.

By next week, after he leaves, things will be much different. By then, I'll probably just have my room, and the den, to finish. My mom's room should be done by then.

I feel like I'm employed by all of you, having to be accountable. If you all really do "care", as you say you do, accept that this is a process, that will take a bit, and stop badgering me every other post.

I seriously give up.

Mitch

 

[GQguy]

I'll give a detailed response, and then I have something to say..

1. You stress independence in threads about my life for several reasons.

The forum members feel I was too dependent on my mom, emotionally, and for living circumstance, etc, when she was alive. This is what caused me to be in the position I'm in. Independence would improve my life, by making it so that I can take care of myself, and would also make it so that I wouldnt complain, and it wouldnt affect me, if someone else did something I didnt like.

2. If I had done this: I would be ready for a relationship, and might well have had a relationship and marriage a long time ago.

Mitch

Ok Ok Ok guys. Lets relieve the pressure on Mitch. For awhile there I wasn't sure if he understood what the forum was saying to him. With the post quoted above he does comprehend what we're saying. Honestly, what more can we ask for? We can't make him get a job and become independent so he could improve his life and find a mate. He has to do it himself. We now know that he does know what his friends at the TMF think is best. That's really all we can ask for. There is nothing new being said so lets lay off.

Message was received.

Our work here is done TMF.

Mitch, you know that most of the problems in your life stem from not being independent. Any time you post about one of those problems, like a broken record the TMF will quote what you just regurgitated back to us. What was that Einstein quote again....oh!..."Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results". Don't expect different results. We'll keep drilling that point at you. Now...when you're independent and dating you'll experience a whole new host of new problems. On behalf of the TMF I can say that we will be happy to help you solve and move on from the new problems you will encounter. But of course you have to get there first. What are you doing to get towards that goal right now? If you wait for tomorrow to start reaching your goals, you'll wait forever. Everyday is one step closer or one step back. How? The older you get the harder it is for things like marriage, kids and jobs. Inaction might as well be stepping back. There is no stagnation. Take that first step now. Not tomorrow, 6weeks from now or a decade.


GQ

 

[Mitchell]

GQ, whatever. I'm really tired of being badgered every other post. Tell you, what, k? My life is doomed because I will search for a girl or job in 2 months from now instead of today.

God Damn already. Thousands of threads to post in this forum, Go find something else to do but post in this thread.

Mitch

 

[GQguy]

GQ, whatever. I'm really tired of being badgered every other post. Tell you, what, k? My life is doomed because I will search for a girl or job in 2 months from now instead of today.

God Damn already. Thousands of threads to post in this forum, Go find something else to do but post in this thread.

Mitch

Take a deep breath. Relax. Woosah. Reread my post then get back to me.

GQ

 

[Leo tickles]

You people really are unbelieveable! Did I say that I didnt start to pack? How the fuck do any of you know what the condition of my apartment is, or what I have, and havent done??? Are any of you here?? You post here every other second that something happens. That's how we know.

As Myriads suggested, my mom's clothes are all in bags, waiting to be sent to goodwill. I want my father to come down and sort through them with me, to make sure there is something that is good that I'm not overlooking. He is going to take her high end purses and furs to NY to sell, as he said I can get better prices there than here. There are breakables, in the breakfront, in the living room,that I want him to help me with. The den will take a couple of days, and my room, between the big chest, and clothes closet, perhaps a week. My time also takes into account that I was out of commision for two weeks, while I was in NY, and sitting shiva. Know how long I've really been sorting, packing? LESS THAN TWO WEEKS! I have said one billion times that I will be out of here by between June 1 and Father's Day. I would LIKE to be out of here by June 1, so I dont have to pay the rent for June. My mom died April 4, I have been home since the 8th, and have been working at this since the 16th, when I finished sitting shiva. Tell me how the hell six weeks is an unreasonable amount of time, to toss, sort, pack, sell, figure out, clothes, breakable, furniture and other valuables, when one is moving from a big place into a much smaller one?

When my parents split in 1989, my mom was in the same boat as me. Packing a big house to move to a much smaller place, no help, had to find a new home due to a tradegy in her life. Know how long she took, geniuses of the forum? EXACTLY the same amount of time I'm taking..six weeks! My parents split on Rosh Hashanah, in Oct, and we moved out of the house in mid Dec.

Why is it that no one else, my family, my friends in rl, etc, are badgering me about the amount of time its taking?!!!. My dad had said at first he THOUGHT maybe it could be done a bit faster, When he sees the CONDITION of this place, he will understand why.

By next week, after he leaves, things will be much different. By then, I'll probably just have my room, and the den, to finish. My mom's room should be done by then.This is how we know.

I feel like I'm employed by all of you, having to be accountable. If you all really do "care", as you say you do, accept that this is a process, that will take a bit, and stop badgering me every other post. You would have been fired a very long time ago. Stop badgering me every other post.

I seriously give up. Just now? From reading these threads it seems like you have done that a long time ago.

Mitch

And the point still is, as always, stop complaining to random tickle freaks on the net and get your shit done.

 

[Mitchell]

Leo, whatever, okay. I just found my parents wedding album as I was cleaning a box. I hadnt looked at it for a very long time. They had everything going for them. Young, good looking, successful, rich, idealistic. Had my parents stayed married, and my dad been there to be with me through my mom's illness, I highly doubt I would have been posting anything on this forum, That album made me realize the broken dreams we all had. My mom is dead, my dad is old, I never had grandchildren for my mom.

Once again, I dont expect this to mean anything. I'll just GET MY SHIT TOGETHER. After all, thats what it's all about, right?

Mitch

 

[Leo tickles]

Stop blaming people for your failures. Plenty of people, including me, had estranged/terrible family relationships and still came out okay without both a dad and a mom. You were lucky enough to have at least a mom.

So stop with the soap box.

 

[GQguy]

Leo: Lay off of him. He's heard us loud and clear. It's time for him to act

Mitch: Stop whining! Go post that resume. Pack. Post in another thread. Whatever. Stop whining here. No one pities you.

The thread is cyclical in nature now. No new ideas or info. The same stuff. Lets stop. Attrition warfare.

 

[Leo tickles]

Leo: Lay off of him. He's heard us loud and clear. It's time for him to act

Mitch: Stop whining! Go post that resume. Pack. Post in another thread. Whatever. Stop whining here. No one pities you.

The thread is cyclical in nature now. No new ideas or info. The same stuff. Lets stop. Attrition warfare.

Every time I see him whine, I'm going to demonstrate how a situation could be avoided. If he continues to whine, I'll continue to tell him to do something to change whatever he's whining about. This whole thing with our little baby Mitch is tedious at this point... so either he'll get the message and finally do good for himself, or me and everybody who feels the same way will eventually drive him away to find a new wah wah wah place.

Tough love.

 

[GQguy]

But Leo, is there anything we at the TMF could say to you to get you off your ass? Sure we could inform you that getting off your ass would solve most of your problems but actually lighting that fire is a whole other feat. What could be said? Sure, the whining is nauseating, but as long as we don't poke him...maybe he'll stop whining.

GQ

 

[Leo tickles]

But Leo, is there anything we at the TMF could say to you to get you off your ass? Sure we could inform you that getting off your ass would solve most of your problems but actually lighting that fire is a whole other feat. What could be said? Sure, the whining is nauseating, but as long as we don't poke him...maybe he'll stop whining.

GQ

Speaking for me I still visit long dead threads of mine from the past and read all of them. I try to do it when I'm in different moods to get a better understanding of how I react to certain things depending on my mood.

I don't expect him to do that though.

 

[Mitchell]

It's stupid for me to keep posting in this thread. You people dont get it, and never will.

I'm not "whining", GQ. I have a PROCESS to go through to accomplish it, get it? My mom left me with A TON OF SHIT to sort through. I'll "Go post the resume" when I'm ready.

Ugh!

Mitch

 

[Mitchell]

You know one of my main concerns, much more important than bantering with people in this thread: What my dad's reaction is going to be when he comes down here, and sees all the shit in this apartment. My stuff accounts for about.. 10% of the clutter. I have to throw out some things in my clothes closet, and my chest in my bedroom. Other than that, all the shit is my mom's. Sigh! If I didnt want to be negative, I should have been on her to sort this shit in 2010 when she was first diagnosed. From Feb 12 this year on, until she died on April 4, she wasnt even home.

It will happen in due time. I'll be lucky if I dont need a rest home by the time this is all said and done.

Mitch

 

[GQguy]

After that last post I'm convinced this is all a joke.

GQ

 

[Leo tickles]

lol

 

[Mitchell]

I already admitted that the thread was ill advised. It isnt a joke, but I should not have posted this thread. I'm sorry to Leo, GQ, and anyone else who posted in this thread. Okay?

Mitch

 

[TropicThunder]

 

[Leo tickles]

lol