"Posting personal issues on a fetish forum," or, "And no fucks were given that day."

[C.A.B.]

That would practically shut down the P&R forum if you do that.....

LOL! Is my diabolical plan so transparent?

 

[BrightEyes1082]

So is your talking to me in a condescending manner, like you're the parent disciplining a disobedient child.

LOL. It's appropriate, seeing as how you act very much like a disobedient child,
to put it mildly.

You wanted me to answer the question, and I answered it, end of story.

I didn't want you to answer anything. I wanted you to stop posting.

 

[venray]

LOL! Is my diabolical plan so transparent?

 

[Bothersome]

And this, boys and girls, is how you put out a fire with gasoline.

 

[chicago]

 

[kis123]

LOL! Is my diabolical plan so transparent?

For lack of a "high five" emoticon.......

 

[Leo tickles]

I'm somewhat sure that this thread was directed towards a certain person to continue the bashing of them.


If I'm right, the people joining in aren't doing any better than said person.
If I'm wrong, good game, no rematch.

 

[Mitchell]

Leo, of course we know you're right. This thread is far worse than what "said person", did, because, "said person" did not bash ANYONE on this forum in that person's thread. That person expressed frustration with something that happened in that person's personal life, and not with ANYTHING OR ANYONE on this forum, in that thread,

Far worse than posting a thread about "personal issues" is a thread like this to defame, belittle, and publicly attack one person, under the disguise of the topic of "Posting personal issues on a forum" It's bullshit, and every last person who commented in this thread knows it. .

Ooops, sorry, I've invaded your thread. You all havent defamed me enough. Truly sick.

 

[C.A.B.]

I'm somewhat sure that this thread was directed towards a certain person to continue the bashing of them.


If I'm right, the people joining in aren't doing any better than said person.
If I'm wrong, good game, no rematch.

Leo... put... down ...the ...fire ...poker 😉

 

[Leo tickles]

Leo... put... down ...the ...fire ...poker 😉

I mean... you have a group of people, right, who if they posted something public would get support from within the group of people they belong to......and maybe other people but maybe not... running down a 40 something year old. I agree that his life is fucked but I mean damn man, damn, a whole thread dedicated to having your friends come bash him then bitch him out for responding?

He can go in circles until 80 and then die in the same spot he is now and it'd be less pathetic than a pack of people who talk like they are better off hounding the poor guy into oblivion.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

Leo, there have been several other threads posted that have also been "accused"
of being about Mitch. They weren't, at least as far as I know. This one is no exception.
I'm sorry, but not all of us think about Mitch when posting something.

 

[C.A.B.]

I mean... you have a group of people, right, who if they posted something public would get support from within the group of people they belong to......and maybe other people but maybe not... running down a 40 something year old. I agree that his life is fucked but I mean damn man, damn, a whole thread dedicated to having your friends come bash him then bitch him out for responding?

He can go in circles until 80 and then die in the same spot he is now and it'd be less pathetic than a pack of people who talk like they are better off hounding the poor guy into oblivion.

Whoops! My bad. I thought this was the 'other' thread and I misread your post. Please disregard the fire poker comment. You are very noble in your assessment. I apologize.

 

[Leo tickles]

Leo, there have been several other threads posted that have also been "accused"
of being about Mitch. They weren't, at least as far as I know. This one is no exception.
I'm sorry, but not all of us think about Mitch when posting something.

It's only clever if you manage to fool someone. 😉

 

[BrightEyes1082]

It's only clever if you manage to fool someone. 😉

I'm not attempting to fool anyone. If I wanted to start a Mitch-bashing
thread, then I would do it. 🙂

 

[Mitchell]

I'm not attempting to fool anyone. If I wanted to start a Mitch-bashing
thread, then I would do it. 🙂

Brighteyes, I put you and your character in the same category as coldneck. "You would start a Mitch bashing thread if you wanted to". Your statement sounds like one that comes from a sewer rat.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

Brighteyes, I put you and your character in the same category as coldneck. "You would start a Mitch bashing thread if you wanted to". Your statement sounds like one that comes from a sewer rat.

Oh please. You'd do the same if you wanted to.

Although... you start an alarming number of Mitch-bashing threads as it is.

 

[Mitchell]

Actually, Brighteyes, I wouldnt do that. Know why? That isnt how I do things.

Think of it: Did I ever start a thread that says "Brighteyes sucks". No. Know why? That isnt how I do things. I've responded to nasty things you've said to me. Also, such would be a violation of the "Golden Rule". that is supposed to exist of "not attacking a member of the forum". As the threads have unfolded this week, I'm seriously beginning to think it doesnt apply to me when it comes to being attacked.

 

[Jagermeistered]

Ooops, sorry, I've invaded your thread. You all havent defamed me enough. Truly sick.

-Mitch

Nobody is defaming Mitch as a person, but your actions and words on the forum. It is called debate...

If you posted something like, "I like to tickle girls under nine years-old." We would seek and destroy you as soon as possible! You are not doing that... But, your actions, in regards to posting consistent trivial bullshit is counter-productive, for you personally. And, you are trying to take a algebraic equation, and downplay it to basic arithmetics. And, if your 2+2 does not equal your 4, you blow a gasket because it looks like a 5, and that is not acceptable.

P.S. Thank you for answering my coldneck question. 🙂

 

[Mitchell]

Jager, you know I like you,but its more than debate.

I would call coldneck's vicious words and predictions, repeated attacks, not a "debate. "

I think this thread was uncalled for. The goal should have been to calm the other thread down.

You're right that I shouldnt have posted the thread about my friend, but to me it wasnt "trivial bullshit", as you say.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

Actually, Brighteyes, I wouldnt do that. Know why? That isnt how I do things.

Think of it: I've had you on ignore for years. Did I ever start a thread that says "Brighteyes sucks". No. Know why? That isnt how I do things. I've responded to nasty things you've said to me. Also, such would be a violation of the "Golden Rule". that is supposed to exist of "not attacking a member of the forum". As the threads have unfolded this week, I'm seriously beginning to think it doesnt apply to me when it comes to being attacked.

Maybe the mods have run out of fucks to give. 😉

 

[Jagermeistered]

I would call coldneck's vicious words and predictions, repeated attacks, not a "debate. "

WIP and I disagree on everything when it comes to politics/economics... Hell, we even smear at each other(in that sub-forum), and at our differing ideologies. But, that is all... Two different people with two differing philosophies. At the end of the day(or, debate I should say); well, we are two people interacting - that is all! I do not look at myself above or below my online friend.

Also, do not get me wrong...

I am not supporting coldneck or anybody else: we are all capable of conjuring up our own opinions. These opinions should be analyzed before being discarded. Unless... You do not give a fuck(the replier) - will lack the of verbiage, and that should be decipherable.

 

[primetime]

Wow... Just wow. First, let's be honest. We know who was the first person in mind when this thread was read. To say othewise is BS.

That being said, people who are going back and forth with each other (and we all know who THEY are) just need to take a chill pill at the moment. Things are getting chaotic and vicious and really, it is worthless "banter" that is counter productive.

I only wish at this point that we all stop with this ridiculous negativity and sit around some damn campfire and sing "Kumbaya". We all need a good laugh at this point. If we want to see bashing and negativity towards each other, just go to the P&R section.

The people sniping back and forth to each other really should just say....

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to each other and move on with life. Stop the madness already.

 

[venray]

I'm not attempting to fool anyone. If I wanted to start a Mitch-bashing
thread, then I would do it. 🙂

Oh....but you have so succeeded....

 

[coldneck]

Perhaps we are defining personal issues differently. Also, I think that more important than
the posting of the issues is the way one responds to the desired advice and criticism.

I couldn't agree more!

If you're soliciting advice, then getting your undies in a bundle when you're not receiving the advice you were hoping for, and subsequently complaining/bitching/moaning to the forum admins, then you really weren't seeking advice after all, were you?!

It really comes down to INTENT.

Most of the time when this sort of childish shit happens, the poster is seeking validation or sympathy.

"I called my friend to go to lunch and he didn't return my call for 3 whole days! He said he's been spending time with his new GF. What an asshole! Right?!?"

Now, addressing your point BrightEyes: the poster gets responses that don't line up with the responses he would like to receive, so he retaliates:
"You just don't understand me! You don't get it at ALL!"

Yeah, it's pretty fucking childish. And frustrating. And just plain stupid to the core.

The one thing you can take home from this, kids is: people are who they are. No amount of advice, coaching, pleading, begging, cheering, prodding, screaming... is going to change that, as frustrating as it is.

I'm reading a killer book called "Beautiful Boy" about a father dealing with his son's drug addiction.
Highly recommended. The son even followed up with a book of his own.

There are a lot of parallels in this scenario.

 

[BrightEyes1082]

@coldneck, it's been brought to my attention that we have a lot of the same
qualities. Maybe we should go on a date. You like brunettes?