IMO, if you share your advice, and the person doesn't want/like it, move on. You've shared your advice, it's not wanted/liked, there's no advantage to turning into a flame war, fight, whatever.
I think you're kind of missing the point, Cosmo.
I believe BrightEyes was addressing the POSTER's intent, not the Respondent's ...um... response.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe we are discussing WHY, WHY, WHY the fuck would anyone stack the deck with a loaded query like this, then get upset when it blows up in their face?!?
I think she's got a helluva valid point!
And it needs to be addressed.
"The big, I mean HUGE picture question is: "Isn't that what this forum is all about?"
I certainly won't pretend I have the answer to that, because I believe the TMF is many thing to many people.
But I can feel BrightEyes' frustration radiating thru my monitor loud and clear.