Sis, You know I tell you time and again that YOU are the person I want to become. After reading this, I know I could never fill your shoes. You are stronger than I ever could be.
Love,
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Sis, You know I tell you time and again that YOU are the person I want to become. After reading this, I know I could never fill your shoes. You are stronger than I ever could be.
Love,
--T
First of all i want to thank the many that were in the chat room tonight and for those that called in...
The support for our guests was awesome..
Thank you Ann and Lisa for sharing your stories with us..we all know how difficult it was to do so...you are both Angels in my mind for many reasons...
Those who listened tonight know what an intense and informative show it was tonight...
Tune in next week for part II which will be expanded to 90 minutes as tonight's show ran long and there was still so much to discuss..
if you missed it, i will be posting it in the radio archives section of the forum shortly...
Take a listen... feel free to comment here...or send me a pm any time at all..
Anything said in private as always will remain private...
Ray
The support for our guests was awesome..
Thank you Ann and Lisa for sharing your stories with us..we all know how difficult it was to do so...you are both Angels in my mind for many reasons...
Those who listened tonight know what an intense and informative show it was tonight...
Tune in next week for part II which will be expanded to 90 minutes as tonight's show ran long and there was still so much to discuss..
if you missed it, i will be posting it in the radio archives section of the forum shortly...
Take a listen... feel free to comment here...or send me a pm any time at all..
Anything said in private as always will remain private...
Ray
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Thank you Ray for allowing us to do this story tonight.. it was very hard yet I can see now why it was such a pull on my spirit for this to happen ..it is amazing to see how it touched so many people, even those who contacted me through PM and IM with tears feeling safe to open up to me of their own abuse after we were off air. I wanted to continue to encourage anyone who has questions for family members or loved one's who may of been abused or if you want to share your own experince, Know that Ann and I will always be willing to talk with you. .. this has open up the safety gate for many to walk in.. hugsssssss
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Honey, I wouldn't wish my past and present on a stray dog, but I thank you for your comments. However, I have a future to live and although I don't know how long that is, I'd rather live it on my terms and no one elses.
Be blessed babygirl!
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Thank-YOU Ray & Tracy for giving us the opportunity to share. Though it's most certainly a difficult topic to discuss, I'm sure it's no less difficult to hear for our fellow survivors and those with loved ones who were abused.
I actually felt really good about the show...before, during and after. Sure, there was a good deal of painful stuff shared back and forth. But, the fact that people had the strength to step forward and share/listen was an inspiration.
I only wish that there was some way to save the entire chat log from start to finish since I missed most of what was said in there. If anyone had any questions, comments or things to share that I missed, please know I'm not ignoring you. I simply didn't see them. My PM box is always open. Feel free to use it any time.
As we mentioned, we'll be starting a support group of sorts for those who wish to take advantage of it. You won't be required to share anything you aren't comfy with. It's just there to lend an ear and some support to anyone who may need it. It will be open and visible only to those for whom we set access. So, if you're interested, you can contact myself or Lisa to let us know.
In the interest of making this as safe, comfortable and helpful a place as possible, we'll be setting up some guidelines and hopefully lining up some backup and resources in case anyone finds that they need more than we can offer. Please be aware that we are simply fellow survivors and not qualified as counsellors. So, while we can share from our own experience, this is not a replacement.
Getting it all in order will take a few weeks. But, feel free to contact one of us in the meantime if you need to talk.
I actually felt really good about the show...before, during and after. Sure, there was a good deal of painful stuff shared back and forth. But, the fact that people had the strength to step forward and share/listen was an inspiration.
I only wish that there was some way to save the entire chat log from start to finish since I missed most of what was said in there. If anyone had any questions, comments or things to share that I missed, please know I'm not ignoring you. I simply didn't see them. My PM box is always open. Feel free to use it any time.
As we mentioned, we'll be starting a support group of sorts for those who wish to take advantage of it. You won't be required to share anything you aren't comfy with. It's just there to lend an ear and some support to anyone who may need it. It will be open and visible only to those for whom we set access. So, if you're interested, you can contact myself or Lisa to let us know.
In the interest of making this as safe, comfortable and helpful a place as possible, we'll be setting up some guidelines and hopefully lining up some backup and resources in case anyone finds that they need more than we can offer. Please be aware that we are simply fellow survivors and not qualified as counsellors. So, while we can share from our own experience, this is not a replacement.
Getting it all in order will take a few weeks. But, feel free to contact one of us in the meantime if you need to talk.
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Honey, I wouldn't wish my past and present on a stray dog, but I thank you for your comments. However, I have a future to live and although I don't know how long that is, I'd rather live it on my terms and no one elses.
Be blessed babygirl!
Kiss, I could of not said it better myself, You do have a future to live. You are so very strong and know that Ann and I will always have your back. Your more than just a fellow survivor.. your our sister and nothing can break that bond. We all have been through some horrible things but we have come out victorius. Beeing able to share our expierences is a awseome show of strength for it encourages others in more way then one esp, with seeing they have a safety net and support group to talk to...Stay strong sweety & please contact me so we may get to know eachother..
HUGSSSSSSS/Lisa
I want to thank everyone for their concern and care, either on this thread or via PM. This has been extremely difficult and I feel vulnerable, exposed, and emotionally raw. I actually want to crawl under my bed and hide myself because it's just too much for me and the anxiety meds haven't been working so well. Maybe I de-lurked too soon-I dunno......
I've been trying to look for work and finish school, but lately my brain feels like scrambled eggs and my thoughts have been a mess. It's hard to stay focused these days, but it's either find a job or become homeless, so I stumble through job websites every day.
Well, I'm sick to death of television and being broke so I'm motivated to get back to work; I just have no prospects as of yet. Hope something comes up soon.
Thanks for listening
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Sometimes that's the best thing we can have when we're at that "just opening up" stage. People to listen. And you've got that.
There are several of us in this thread alone who are more than happy to discuss things off-forum. You'll have to do this at your own pace, in your own time. But just coming out and saying what you have says a lot. You're ready to start dealing with this in one way or another. The path you follow in doing that will be yours to decide, but you've got a lot of folks willing to help.
There are several of us in this thread alone who are more than happy to discuss things off-forum. You'll have to do this at your own pace, in your own time. But just coming out and saying what you have says a lot. You're ready to start dealing with this in one way or another. The path you follow in doing that will be yours to decide, but you've got a lot of folks willing to help.
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Yes. What he said! You'll be fine in the end. It just takes time.
Here's a vorpal bunny to hug whenever you feel the need...
And here's a hug from me...just because.
Here's a vorpal bunny to hug whenever you feel the need...
And here's a hug from me...just because.
Thanks everyone-I'm just having a bad day today because of my work situation. I want to feel normal and human again and job hunting at my age is no picnic let me tell you.
My Doctor wants me to go to therapy because of the depression and anxiety have gotten worse. I might do it, but I'm really not feeling like hashing this stuff out. I'm not even sure if it's the reason behind my problems-it happened nearly a lifetime ago. I've raised two kids to adulthood and putting one through college; hell, I'm putting myself through college right now. Is it worth rehashing and reliving?
I mean, I'm not living the life I desire, but I'm not exactly living out of a trash can either. Overall, I made a decent life for myself; why should I make a bigger mess of things by having my head shrunk??
Right now I have a headache--too much thinking!!!! Thanks for the advice and the hugs...only wish I could be there to receive them personally.
Sure hope I get to NEST next year!
My Doctor wants me to go to therapy because of the depression and anxiety have gotten worse. I might do it, but I'm really not feeling like hashing this stuff out. I'm not even sure if it's the reason behind my problems-it happened nearly a lifetime ago. I've raised two kids to adulthood and putting one through college; hell, I'm putting myself through college right now. Is it worth rehashing and reliving?
I mean, I'm not living the life I desire, but I'm not exactly living out of a trash can either. Overall, I made a decent life for myself; why should I make a bigger mess of things by having my head shrunk??
Right now I have a headache--too much thinking!!!! Thanks for the advice and the hugs...only wish I could be there to receive them personally.
Sure hope I get to NEST next year!
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Kiss, it may not be a bad idea to go see a counselor.. it is not always a bad thing sweety.. you can pick who you want to see. Call around and ask the diff clinic's you do call if they have a female that works with sexual abuse. Also wanted to encourage you to talk to your primary doctor about it.. dont have to go into details, they are more understanding than you think, he/she may be able to recommend someone they know who can help you. Talking to someone on a professional level does not mean your crazy.
It also helps to write in a journal what your feeling and to talk to those who know what your feeling.. Keep in mind, the more you get it out the more power you receive by empowering yourself for that part of your past looses it's hold upon you. I am here for you HUGSSSSSSSSS.
It also helps to write in a journal what your feeling and to talk to those who know what your feeling.. Keep in mind, the more you get it out the more power you receive by empowering yourself for that part of your past looses it's hold upon you. I am here for you HUGSSSSSSSSS.
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thanks to all toes and ann who have help so much in opening up... toes your are my sis that means a lot ann we will talk more thanks for help and being there the little bit you have. talk to you all later kyle
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your most welcome Kyle.. I am here for anyone when and if they want to talk.
HUGSSS/Lisa
HUGSSS/Lisa
from TklDuo-Ann to heyoka?
What's up with that? I'm just popping in here under my alternate identity. This is a handle I registered way back but have seldom used. I decided that it would be a good idea to use a different SN for the support group so that I can keep everything together in one place. I'll be using both SNs on the open forum. Heyoka will be the one I use for the group and related communications. However, if you contact me under my "normal" handle, I'll still respond.
OK, so update on the support group idea...
Myriads is getting things set up for us. We'll have a ghost forum here on the TMF. What does that mean? It means that only those for whom access is set will actually be able to view or post in the forum. Others will know that it's available so that they can come forward if they feel the need for it. But, you can feel comfortable in knowing that only your fellow survivors will be able to see what you share. (This will also eliminate the concerns about clowns barging in and posting harmful comments.)
So, how do you join this group? DimpleToes, Dave2112 and myself will be overseeing things. So, if you're a survivor and would like to join us, just drop one of us a PM to let us know. Once we've talked a bit via PM if you still feel that you'd like to join, we'll get access set up for you.
One thing that we hadn't considered before Tuesday nights show is a support system for those who have loved ones that were abused. I'm not sure if it's a good idea to have these folks within the same group as the survivors, though some of the resulting issues are similar. But, if we have enough people come forward asking for that, we can certainly look at figuring something out.
Communication is key here. Let us know what you'd like to see in and gain from this and, if appropriate, we'll do what we can.
*** Please always keep in mind that we are not trained professionals. We're simply fellow survivors willing to reach out to others.
What's up with that? I'm just popping in here under my alternate identity. This is a handle I registered way back but have seldom used. I decided that it would be a good idea to use a different SN for the support group so that I can keep everything together in one place. I'll be using both SNs on the open forum. Heyoka will be the one I use for the group and related communications. However, if you contact me under my "normal" handle, I'll still respond.
OK, so update on the support group idea...
Myriads is getting things set up for us. We'll have a ghost forum here on the TMF. What does that mean? It means that only those for whom access is set will actually be able to view or post in the forum. Others will know that it's available so that they can come forward if they feel the need for it. But, you can feel comfortable in knowing that only your fellow survivors will be able to see what you share. (This will also eliminate the concerns about clowns barging in and posting harmful comments.)
So, how do you join this group? DimpleToes, Dave2112 and myself will be overseeing things. So, if you're a survivor and would like to join us, just drop one of us a PM to let us know. Once we've talked a bit via PM if you still feel that you'd like to join, we'll get access set up for you.
One thing that we hadn't considered before Tuesday nights show is a support system for those who have loved ones that were abused. I'm not sure if it's a good idea to have these folks within the same group as the survivors, though some of the resulting issues are similar. But, if we have enough people come forward asking for that, we can certainly look at figuring something out.
Communication is key here. Let us know what you'd like to see in and gain from this and, if appropriate, we'll do what we can.
*** Please always keep in mind that we are not trained professionals. We're simply fellow survivors willing to reach out to others.
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Just confirming the above post here, lest there be any doubt/concern.
My alter-ego, formerly super secret batman ID...Did I get carried away with that?....really is heyoka. So much for secrets, eh?
My alter-ego, formerly super secret batman ID...Did I get carried away with that?....really is heyoka. So much for secrets, eh?
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I've been following this thread since it's inception.
Firstly, it's good to see there's peeps on this forum who are willing and able to talk about the deeper matters of life. Kudos to those who have had the courage to share their stories here or on the radio shows.
I'm also a 'survivor' of childhood & adolescent abuse. However, I've not spoken of my story here, partly due to the fact that I was spared the horrors of sexual abuse. Ergo, I didn't feel it would be entirely appropriate to speak of my experiences in this particular context and thread. However, I did experience other forms in spades, some of which still resonate today.
The ghost support forum idea is fantastic. It sounds like a similar setup to the private forums existing over on my Rush messageboard.
Given the vulnerability involved for those speaking of these matters, it's good to have a safe place where idiots and fools can't make nasty comments or go mining for emotional weaponry.
Hugs to all
Firstly, it's good to see there's peeps on this forum who are willing and able to talk about the deeper matters of life. Kudos to those who have had the courage to share their stories here or on the radio shows.
I'm also a 'survivor' of childhood & adolescent abuse. However, I've not spoken of my story here, partly due to the fact that I was spared the horrors of sexual abuse. Ergo, I didn't feel it would be entirely appropriate to speak of my experiences in this particular context and thread. However, I did experience other forms in spades, some of which still resonate today.
The ghost support forum idea is fantastic. It sounds like a similar setup to the private forums existing over on my Rush messageboard.
Given the vulnerability involved for those speaking of these matters, it's good to have a safe place where idiots and fools can't make nasty comments or go mining for emotional weaponry.
Hugs to all
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I've been following this thread since it's inception.
Firstly, it's good to see there's peeps on this forum who are willing and able to talk about the deeper matters of life. Kudos to those who have had the courage to share their stories here or on the radio shows.
I'm also a 'survivor' of childhood & adolescent abuse. However, I've not spoken of my story here, partly due to the fact that I was spared the horrors of sexual abuse. Ergo, I didn't feel it would be entirely appropriate to speak of my experiences in this particular context and thread. However, I did experience other forms in spades, some of which still resonate today.
The ghost support forum idea is fantastic. It sounds like a similar setup to the private forums existing over on my Rush messageboard.
Given the vulnerability involved for those speaking of these matters, it's good to have a safe place where idiots and fools can't make nasty comments or go mining for emotional weaponry.
Hugs to all
Wanderingpixie, This is why we are setting this up in the ghost fashion. It will be a safe haven for those who do join to know that the general public wont be able to read what is posted on the forum . Since I Approached Venray about doing his show with the topic of Sexual abuse and Ann and I shared our story, we have had such a huge responce to it, we felt it was a much needed thing. The most important thing to us is the safety and confidentiality of the members.. This is a much needed thing with in the community and a blessing to be able to get support from people you can trust and may already have a realtionship/freindship with, who truely know how your feeling for they went through something similar.
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We're simply fellow survivors willing to reach out to others.***
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I would like to help with the support group. I think it is a marvelous idea and I am glad that it is being put into action. Could I get more details about joining/helping/sharing please?
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We'll be up and running by the end of the month. But, we're hoping for a couple of weeks. Just a matter of getting things together so there are some resources to start with. Drop Lisa, Dave or myself a PM and we can chat privately until we get rolling if you like.
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I really do appreciate seeing a thread like this on the forum. I think I it is good for people who have dealt with this kind of abuse, and are comfortable sharing about it to do so. I dealt with attempted sexual assault when I was in high school by a stalker I met in an internet chatroom. I really don't feel comfortable sharing the circumstances of the story in the thread because it is not something I like to talk about.
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Ticklee Heather, I understand how you feel. It is not always confortable talking about circumstances in a general forum, that is why we are starting the support group. It will not be open the the general TMF community, only fellow members who are also survivors whom have been given permission to join, to protect the confidentiality of the members and what is said.
If you have any other questions or wish to join, please feel free to contact myself, Ann or Dave. You may contact any of us if you just want to talk as well.. 🙂
HUGSS/Lisa
If you have any other questions or wish to join, please feel free to contact myself, Ann or Dave. You may contact any of us if you just want to talk as well.. 🙂
HUGSS/Lisa
Tune in tonight at 11 PM ESt for part II on this topic...
The show will be on for 90 minutes and all are welcome to call in at 1-347-838-9015....
Join us and our special guest Dave2112 who has much to share with us tonight...
The show will be on for 90 minutes and all are welcome to call in at 1-347-838-9015....
Join us and our special guest Dave2112 who has much to share with us tonight...
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To give credit where it's due, Lila has been instrumental in helping prepare me for the show and has been my rock while finally coming to grips with this and all of the ugly ramifications.
Hon, just give me a call and we can definitely talk about your involvement. I'm sure we can use all the help we can get.
