She don't want tickles anymore....

[elanor]

Alright..... 'metalheadgirl' --anyone remember this gal who was on here recently?
Not so ling ago she posted this thread: http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?206939-Growing-out-of-tickling/page2
In said thread, she stated she is no longer into tickling.
That's a reasonable thing, right?
After reading some of the replies to that thread, I've realized that quite a few people didn't belive her.
She did get quite a few people sending her messages getting kind of

So, both me and 'metalheadgirl' think it's best to give you all a little more information, so maybe you'll all actually belive her.

--
'metalheadgirl'/May and I are currently in a relationship.
I met her the day after I left my boyfriend, and I was thrilled to find she had a tickling fetish
She's a lovely girl, and always seemed to love being tickled. But she was always very shy, and emotionally fragile
A few days ago, she met up with a man- for a tickle session (she had arranged this before I started dating her. I was a little upset that she was letting someone else tickle her, but I let her go.)
The agreement that they made was, she would be tied spread eagle, and he would tickle her. He specified that there would be no sexual interaction, and neither her panties or her bra would be removed.
Unfortunately, the man tickling her broke the promise. He raped her while tickling her.
She is very shaken up by this. And cannot emotionally handle being tickled at the moment.
Hopefully in the future she'll be ready to be tickled again. But I don't see that happening any time soon.
She doesn't want to be tickled anymore; partly because she is worried it could happen again, and partly because she doesn't want the memories.

Hopefully you'll all belive her now.



~Elanor

 

[metalheadgirl]

Elanor, darling... thankyou for posting this.
I hope everyone'll like, understand why I'm leaving now...

 

[elanor]

No problem sweetie.
I hope everyone will understand too.

What happened to you is a completely legitimate reason to not want to be tickled anymore.
Rape is never okay.

 

[Leo tickles]

Rape is a traumatic experience that can ruin sexual things as well as things that pertain to just life. With that in mind, I understand what has happened to your interest.

The first step to moving on is coping, in my opinion, is recognizing what happened with a rational mind. Tickling didn't abuse you, some asshole did. Once you accept that as truth, the healing process will begin and things will hopefully get better.

Good luck.

 

[socktickler86]

That's awful to hear! I'm sorry to hear about that 🙁. I hope the bastard was thrown in jail and wasn't someone from here!

I'm sorry you felt pressured to explain to us for her as well. Some people here just won't leave well enough alone.

 

[powerslideX]

Elanor, darling... thankyou for posting this.
I hope everyone'll like, understand why I'm leaving now...

Tickling is something we all like but it isn't whats important here. What is important is mental and physical safety. It is definitely valid that you aren't comfortable with tickling at the moment and i'm sure in time and with the help of close people you trust, you will overcome that fear. Please remember there is a forum full of people here that support and care about you. So when you feel you are ready to return, we will be waiting with open arms. We are humans and in some weird way, kinda like a family. I can personally say, if you need me for anything, even just to chat to, I am here for you. I have had personal experiences with people very close and dear to be being abused and taken advantage of, so even if you need to just talk about anything... i will be here. It also seems, you are in a relationship with someone who really cares about you, and that is a good thing to indulge in at a time like this. Elanor, you should be commended for standing up in defense. Take good care, both of you. ~all the best, PX

 

[FLBowler]

I'm glad I believed you before reading this, I have had several friends, Including my sister being raped, not from a session. I am so sorry for you, and the forum should completely support you after this.

 

[hockeygolf13]

My ex girlfriend was raped. Ever since she told me this, I have became involved at my school in sexual assault awareness. Even though she is my ex, I still fight for it. That is wrong of him to do and I understand completely that she wouldn't want to be tickled.

 

[Wolf]

This is sad, distressing, and just plain awful.

 

[Emishticklish]

Wow. 🙁 I'm sorry to hear that- best of luck.

 

[rhiannon]

And here is why you should always make extra-extra-extra sure that a play date is safe!! 🙁 So sorry to hear this happened! 🙁

 

[TheTickleMonster]

Alright..... 'metalheadgirl' --anyone remember this gal who was on here recently?
Not so ling ago she posted this thread: http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?206939-Growing-out-of-tickling/page2
In said thread, she stated she is no longer into tickling.
That's a reasonable thing, right?
After reading some of the replies to that thread, I've realized that quite a few people didn't belive her.
She did get quite a few people sending her messages getting kind of

So, both me and 'metalheadgirl' think it's best to give you all a little more information, so maybe you'll all actually belive her.

--
'metalheadgirl'/May and I are currently in a relationship.
I met her the day after I left my boyfriend, and I was thrilled to find she had a tickling fetish
She's a lovely girl, and always seemed to love being tickled. But she was always very shy, and emotionally fragile
A few days ago, she met up with a man- for a tickle session (she had arranged this before I started dating her. I was a little upset that she was letting someone else tickle her, but I let her go.)
The agreement that they made was, she would be tied spread eagle, and he would tickle her. He specified that there would be no sexual interaction, and neither her panties or her bra would be removed.
Unfortunately, the man tickling her broke the promise. He raped her while tickling her.
She is very shaken up by this. And cannot emotionally handle being tickled at the moment.
Hopefully in the future she'll be ready to be tickled again. But I don't see that happening any time soon.
She doesn't want to be tickled anymore; partly because she is worried it could happen again, and partly because she doesn't want the memories.

Hopefully you'll all belive her now.



~Elanor

I'm sorry she had a bad experience with it and I completely understand with this reason why she'd not like it anymore...

However, this is nothing like her explaination in the other post. People didn't understand "growing out of it" so it's understanable that they were confused, and that turned out to not even be the reason this happened. If she would have said she had a bad experience with it (doesn't have to say she was raped) people probably would have understand better. She didn't have to make up an excuse to tell people she didn't like tickling anymore. If she wasn't comfortable telling us the real reason, she probably shouldn't have said anything at all...

But I'm sorry about the jerk that ruined it for the rest of the people that might have wanted to tickle her.. some people can be so stupid.

 

[daddy]

So sorry to hear about this...just awful. Hope you recover from it and see it was a case of meeting an asshole.

peace out,
daddy

 

[rhiannon]

But I'm sorry about the jerk that ruined it for the rest of the people that might have wanted to tickle her..

How about "the jerk that ruined it for HER"???? Jeez......even in a situation like that, people just think "Damn, lost someone for possible play". Unbelievable!!

 

[Marquis De Sade]

I'm confused. Why did people not believing her prompt this thread? Who gives a shit what people believe or don't believe? I suppose metalheadgirl said thank you, so she doesn't mind but I'm still confused as to why posted proof was needed and I'm not being a dick, just trying to understand the motivation behind this so apologies if I'm coming across as one. It doesn't matter whether people believe something or not. You have your reasons and those reasons seem very personal.

Were the messages you received THAT bad?

On a different note, there are several here who might be of some emotional help and support and I'm sure would be willing to listen if you ever feel comfortable enough to share in private. It isn't all just tickling here. 🙂

 

[milagros317]

I am very sorry to hear this. 🙁
It reinforces the idea of having a third party present or calling you on your cellphone when having a first-time play date with somebody new.
I hope that the rapist is prosecuted and convicted.

 

[BellybTickler]

I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you, I wish you the best in your steps towards overcoming the trauma, and pray that one day again you'll find peace and passion in tickling.

 

[marcusb]

I sure hope that if it was rape in the true sense of the word... non-consensual sex... that she get the authorites involved and press charges. Don't let him get away with it.

 

[socktickler86]

However, this is nothing like her explaination in the other post. People didn't understand "growing out of it" so it's understanable that they were confused, and that turned out to not even be the reason this happened. If she would have said she had a bad experience with it (doesn't have to say she was raped) people probably would have understand better. She didn't have to make up an excuse to tell people she didn't like tickling anymore. If she wasn't comfortable telling us the real reason, she probably shouldn't have said anything at all...

But I'm sorry about the jerk that ruined it for the rest of the people that might have wanted to tickle her.. some people can be so stupid.

Who the hell cares? People should just have been decent enough in the first place and thought "Hey, the explanation sounds a bit odd but who am I to judge and demand a proper explanation that I'm comfortable with?". A lot of you need to take a second to think about things before you post.

 

[giggle-maker]

I'm in the group of us that want this RAPIST put in prison. I would love it if Elanor or metalheadgirl could post an update about this RAPIST being arrested and convicted. Of course if you wish not to for whatever reason, that is perfectly understandable.

BTW, I call him a RAPIST in CAPS because "Asshole" does not fit. Matter of fact, nothing fits besides RAPIST!

 

[Speedbump]

Why would someone be so stupid to allow someone she didn't really know to tie her up on the first tickling meeting? Is there something I'm missing here?

This is kind of a common sense thing.

Sorry to hear it happened, however.

 

[magic fingers]

Alright..... 'metalheadgirl' --anyone remember this gal who was on here recently?
Not so ling ago she posted this thread: http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?206939-Growing-out-of-tickling/page2
In said thread, she stated she is no longer into tickling.
That's a reasonable thing, right?
After reading some of the replies to that thread, I've realized that quite a few people didn't belive her.
She did get quite a few people sending her messages getting kind of

So, both me and 'metalheadgirl' think it's best to give you all a little more information, so maybe you'll all actually belive her.

--
'metalheadgirl'/May and I are currently in a relationship.
I met her the day after I left my boyfriend, and I was thrilled to find she had a tickling fetish
She's a lovely girl, and always seemed to love being tickled. But she was always very shy, and emotionally fragile
A few days ago, she met up with a man- for a tickle session (she had arranged this before I started dating her. I was a little upset that she was letting someone else tickle her, but I let her go.)
The agreement that they made was, she would be tied spread eagle, and he would tickle her. He specified that there would be no sexual interaction, and neither her panties or her bra would be removed.
Unfortunately, the man tickling her broke the promise. He raped her while tickling her.
She is very shaken up by this. And cannot emotionally handle being tickled at the moment.
Hopefully in the future she'll be ready to be tickled again. But I don't see that happening any time soon.
She doesn't want to be tickled anymore; partly because she is worried it could happen again, and partly because she doesn't want the memories.

Hopefully you'll all belive her now.



~Elanor

Oh my God, I'm so sorry. That poor girl. I feel even worse since I was kind of a jerk to MHG in my previous post regarding her leaving the forum. I just hope MHG will eventually be recover from such a traumatic event(although I know sometimes it takes years to do so). I hope to God the POS who did this wasn't a member of this forum. There's nothing lower and more gutless than a grown man who hurts and abuses women and children especially when the victim is tied up and completely helpless. I'm not a violent man, but I hope someone finds the SOB who did this and breaks his neck. Again MHG I'm really sorry for questioning you about leaving the forum. I hope one day you can return and I also hope you know you have friends here.

 

[magic fingers]

Why would someone be so stupid to allow someone she didn't really know to tie her up on the first tickling meeting? Is there something I'm missing here?

This is kind of a common sense thing.




Sorry to hear it happened, however.

WTF's wrong w/you? The poor girl was raped. Do you realize how traumatic that is to a woman? And you have the nerve to call her stupid? I suppose you never made mistakes when you were younger right? And men wonder why so many women think we're all a-holes

 

[giggle-maker]

Why would someone be so stupid to allow someone she didn't really know to tie her up on the first tickling meeting? Is there something I'm missing here?

This is kind of a common sense thing.

Sorry to hear it happened, however.

Dude....really?

 

[TicklingTips]

That is awful. I hope things turn around for you.