Tickling another while in an exclusive relationship- cheating?

[TickleMyFancy]

Is tickling cheating if you do it with someone who is not your significant other?

And I'm talking strictly tickling here. Fully clothed, not tickling anywhere covered by a skimpy bathing suit, no sex (obviously) involved in any way.

I'm torn on this. On one hand, if it's not sexual, then it's just tickling, and how can tickling be cheating?
On another, if I have a fetish, than it's always kinda sexual to me, even if there's no "sexual" aspect to the tickling.

I'm wondering what everyone else's opinion on the matter is. I'm not in a relationship right now, but I want to decide how I feel about this before I am again someday.

Soooo thoughts?

 

[King of tickles]

I'm confused on it too. It's a way of flirting. Cause of my fetish I wouldn't want other guys tickling my gf if I had one. Girls tickling her is a different story. I think it depends on if the person you're with is comfortable with both parts.

 

[TicklexoxFreaK]

Being tied up and tickled by someone else even if you're fully clothed is pretty serious. I don't want to say it would be cheating if your boyfriend/girlfriend knows about it but if they don't then they might say you went behind their back to meet up with someone else for something that's physical. I'm sure not everyone would like another guy or girl touching their boyfriend/girlfriend. You're saying you'd still be fully clothed and nothing sexual would be happening so I guess technically it wouldn't be cheating. Now if you kissed or something then yeah, that's a problem. To save yourself the drama I would just tell the person before you went and did this with another person.

 

[Phineas]

Is tickling cheating if you do it with someone who is not your significant other?

If your significant other decides it is, it is.

/thread

 

[Korastus]

Before applying the context of a significant other, which makes the question much more complicated, I would say that, at least in my opinion, it isn't. The caveat of that statement being that I have no trouble separating play with friends from play with a romantic or sexual partner, and even if my body responds in a certain, involuntary way, it doesn't change the context of the play (basically, even if I get turned on while ticking/being tickled, I would not act on it or even pay much attention to it, as it goes against the pre-established context of the scene. Additionally, I'm approaching this from the perspective of playing with a friend, which would render the idea of outright sexual interaction out of the question.)
However, all of that is purely hypothetical. From there, it becomes a question of your significant other's opinion and temperament. Are they part of the community? Do they know about your fetish. DO you ask the. First, or even tell them at all? Different people will look at it different ways, so it's tough to say. Hopefully I've made sense and haven't rambled too much.

 

[SadCuzNotTcklsh]

Is tickling cheating if you do it with someone who is not your significant other?

And I'm talking strictly tickling here. Fully clothed, not tickling anywhere covered by a skimpy bathing suit, no sex (obviously) involved in any way.

I'm torn on this. On one hand, if it's not sexual, then it's just tickling, and how can tickling be cheating?
On another, if I have a fetish, than it's always kinda sexual to me, even if there's no "sexual" aspect to the tickling.

I'm wondering what everyone else's opinion on the matter is. I'm not in a relationship right now, but I want to decide how I feel about this before I am again someday.

Soooo thoughts?

Always an interesting subject. I had a similar thread not too long ago:
http://ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?185140-is-tickling-someone-who-is-not-your-SO-cheating&highlight=cheating

 

[Mane'o]

a question with as many answers as there are relationships with no single answer. Surely the place to start, however, is with the other person in the relationship and for the two of you to talk that out if you feel like that is something you'd like to explore. I would advise not simply assuming your partner feels one way or the other on the subject. I can't see myself or my wife engaging in tickling with another except possibly if she and I are both present with a third or a group or at a gathering, for instance.

 

[hockeygolf13]

It really depends on the person. My ex did not like the idea of me tickling other girls, and I didn't think I should, so I didn't. When I am ever in a relationship, I will respect my significant other and never tickle anyone else because I don't particularly like them being tickled either. I like it to be something I share with my girlfriends, but that's just me.

 

[MatrinZachs]

That is tough. There is tickling just for tickling. I mean I tickle my kids all the time and don't think it's sexual (not comparing you to a pedophile just saying). But if you are thinking that it's sexual when you do it as in you are doing to get a sexual thrill (like A guy would grab a girls butt for the thrill) then it's cheating even if your significant other doesn't think it is.

 

[marcusb]

My simple test is: if you tied someone up and tickled them and then told your current significant other, would they be upset?

If yes, then there's your answer.

 

[silversurf828]

My thoughts are:

Would you like your significant other doing (fill in the blank) to someone else?

tickling, dancing, sex whatever you fill in. If you don't like it, chances are its cheating.

 

[DGF1976]

Good question. I have some good friends that are girls that I often tickle when we hang out, often with out my wife. I don't consider that cheating, though my wife would probably give me shit if she knew, but she wouldn't consider it cheating, even knowing my fetish. But if I was to go meet up with someone on here lets say, and just have a fully clothed tickled session, I would at least feel like I was cheating, and I'm almost positive my wife would be more than pissed. Not sure I really answered your question, lol, sorry.

 

[Myriads]

It comes down to how you and you SO define things in your relationship.

If you agree to an 'open' relationship with regards to tickling, then it's not cheating.

I'll wager that the OP means that no such discussion has ever happened though....

Myriads

 

[ElFewja]

It depends largely on the relationship. I mean, really, if I had a girlfriend and she saw me tickling another person, doesn't matter how, if she wasn't cool with it then that is the determining factor. Playful or not, it's not my call.

Disregarding that I think it depends. Nothing is just a straight yes/no. I mean, tickling has a social context as well as a sexual one and you should be able to determine where the line is and when it has been crossed. If you feel comfortable with what is going on then, yeah, it's probably ok. If not, then it's not. I'd say if it's light/quick or just a one time thing because it was provoked, it's alright.

But I wouldn't say that that is a constant answer. Everything is subjective. It really just depends on a lot of factors that can't exactly be accounted for.

Mostly I just avoid tickling scenarios in general because I don't want to get caught up in something/do something that *I* would consider inappropriate at a later point. Tickling is sexual to me most of the time, but not always. Basically.

I think that there is a point there. Somewhere.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

In my opinion i dont think it is cheating if it stays non sexual

 

[bought123]

First of all, how would you feel about your relationship if your boyfriend/husband was having private tickling sessions with a smoking hot chick? Not good I presume.

Second, if you consider raking your fingernails all over another persons body that you are obviously attracted to, and who is not your significant other not a sexual act, especially when you have a fetish for that activity, then I suggest you get your head checked out asap.

Third, if you want to set up an appointment with me for a private consultation on your issues, then you're more than welcome to honey buns 🙂

 

[Tickleron]

Gotta agree with DGF. If you're just jabbing someone in the ribs at work or out maybe then fine but if you're meeting up with someone for a tickling session and you don't intend telling your other half then it's dodgy ground.

 

[Freethought]

Talk about it with each other. I don't want the pressure of satisfying every single need or desire that another human being has and have been blessed to have a partner that feels the same way.

 

[giggle-maker]

I would like to take a scene out of Pulp Fiction and use it for context:

Vincent:"Have you ever given a foot massage?"
Jules:"Shi...Don't tell me about foot massages. I'm the foot fucking master."
Vincent:: "You given a lot of them?"
Jules:"Shit yea! Got my technique down and everything. I don't be tickling or nuthhin."
Vincent:"Would you give a guy a foot massage?"
Jules:"Fuck you!"


I'll ask it like this.

How many of you guys that can just tickle for "play" will tickle another guy? Thought so! Most tickling is M/F or F/F. Unless dude was loco en los cabasas, he would probably be ok with his girl tickling another girl.

Seeing as TickleMyFancy is a girl, I think the only way she could consider it cheating is if she tickled another guy. But that's just my opinion.

 

[Lttg]

I find it kind of odd when people try to look for loopholes for things like this... They want to do things that they know they absolutely shouldn't, but instead of deciding NOT to do it, they spend hours trying to figure out a way they can justify it to themselves as "not cheating" so that they can get what they want guilt free. Here's a handy guide for future situations 🙂


Would you tell your S/O about it if it happened?

Yes - Probably fine then.
No - Cheating.

 

[coldneck]

If your significant other decides it is, it is.

/thread

This^ is just flat-out ridiculous!

In what kind of relationship does the other person make that call?!
There's the problem, that most people who get involved think they own the rights to the other, and can overrule their choices.

OP stated she was not in a relationship ... so how can it be considered cheating?

"If I were ... blah blah quackity quack..." well that's just premature speculation.

BTW, you're pretty hot and should have no trouble finding some bones to rattle!

 

[bought123]

I find it kind of odd when people try to look for loopholes for things like this... They want to do things that they know they absolutely shouldn't, but instead of deciding NOT to do it, they spend hours trying to figure out a way they can justify it to themselves as "not cheating" so that they can get what they want guilt free. Here's a handy guide for future situations 🙂


Would you tell your S/O about it if it happened?

Yes - Probably fine then.
No - Cheating.

I agree, but you pretty much just copied and pasted my post

 

[Lttg]

I agree, but you pretty much just copied and pasted my post

If it makes you feel better, I didn't actually read yours or any other posts- the goal of forums is to mash your opinions into the keyboard as fast as possible with no regard to previous posts 🙂 credit can be all yours.

 

[Phineas]

This^ is just flat-out ridiculous!

In what kind of relationship does the other person make that call?!

I wouldn't expect a guy who's proud about getting a blowjob from his buddy's girlfriend and hiding it from him to understand how relationships work in the grown-up world, but I'll humor you.

You see, both people in a relationship have a say in what goes on in that relationship. So if your girlfriend doesn't like you tickling other women, and she expresses that to you, then you are, if you care about her feelings at all, not going to do that. If you disregard her feelings, and you are of course free to do so, then she is rightly able to decide she won't be with someone who doesn't take her wants and needs seriously and dump your ass, regardless of how many justifications you try and cook up.

Clear enough for you, bra?

OP stated she was not in a relationship ... so how can it be considered cheating?

I missed that part, but then I would be confused as to why the question needs to be asked. But, that's just me.

"If I were ... blah blah quackity quack..." well that's just premature speculation.

Oh? Actually, I've been in this situation before, so no, it's not. We're not all clueless twentysomethings here.

 

[coldneck]

I wouldn't expect a guy who's proud about getting a blowjob from his buddy's girlfriend and hiding it from him to understand how relationships work in the grown-up world, but I'll humor you.

And this has what do to with the OP's question?
Focus, gramps, focus.

You see, both people in a relationship have a say in what goes on in that relationship. So if your girlfriend doesn't like you tickling other women, and she expresses that to you, then you are, if you care about her feelings at all, not going to do that. If you disregard her feelings, and you are of course free to do so, then she is rightly able to decide she won't be with someone who doesn't take her wants and needs seriously and dump your ass, regardless of how many justifications you try and cook up.

Clear enough for you, bra?

You sound like a man of experience. Thanks for sharing.
Look, you obviously didn't write the book on relationships, professor, so acting like an authority on the topic don't necessarily make it so.
And if you did have even some of the answers, you sure wouldn't be sniffing around here.

We're not all clueless twentysomethings here.

Oh, I'm well aware of that! But being middle-aged, divorced, and a fetishist doesn't always equal wisdom either.
Live and Let Live!, I say.
If you want to direct the church choir with one hand and beat off with the other, have at it! What do I care?!?