Why Are You Afraid Of Being Associated With This Site Publicly?

[chicago]

Quite often I don't understand you, this is another one of those times.

 

[Wolf]

If I were a woman I would have no problem being open. Women with a kink is a freak at worst, men with one is a pervert, a creep and on and on.
It is not my job to forward my personal fetish to make it acceptable mainstream. What is my responsibility is to be honest to the one I love. Me! ��

Being a called a freak is not a bad thing?

 

[duderino84]

Being a called a freak is not a bad thing?

BOOGIE-WOOGIE, BITCH!

 

[chicago]

Without getting too specific (and maybe asinine sounding), let's just say that the reason that people are more lenient overall with women's preferences is because they recognize there is a biological race to the finish line and only so much time to get there.

I've never heard that estimation made for why women may have an easier time being accepted when it comes to fetishes. I've heard that argument for women who are eager to have children and get married, but I don't know how that applies really here

 

[Wolf]

I've never heard that estimation made for why women may have an easier time being accepted when it comes to fetishes. I've heard that argument for women who are eager to have children and get married, but I don't know how that applies really here

It makes about as much sense as thinking an 80's video makes being called a freak okay. I guess I could post some Radiohead....

 

[chicago]

Because I'm basically calling tickling our version of the end-game between being single and not being single.

I don't think many people see it that way.

 

[Wolf]

So everyone just wants daily solutions?

No, most people don't approach relationships in terms of 8th-grade biology.

 

[Wolf]

Says the married guy...
Look, just cuz I can identify some of the impending factors of life that make people decide what they want and how doesn't mean I'm trying to be some immature jerk.

You think I got married by accident or something? Or, that my fetish didn't affect my dating and finding a mate?
Are you for real?

 

[Wolf]

Well the way you talk, your tickling fetish doesn't seem to affect you. And you probably made yourself appear like you had resources and were a serious candidate for a relationship, if you want to a totally honest outsider perspective. ..

Of course now I'm going to hear my observations were chock full of shit and I'll get a passive aggressive rebuttal explaining that there was some totally unique relating no human ever experienced before.

What the hell are you whining about?

 

[Wolf]

Lol so THAT was it.

Dude...you made your observations, then whined that I would say they were false before I ever answered them, and you're somehow thinking that makes you right about something?

 

[Wolf]

So you DO read. ....that's cool.
It was just an anticipation.

It's really hard to pretend you're being smart when you're actually just babbling, but you're making a solid effort.

 

[Wolf]

And everyone's opinion counts. So, tell me what I haven't heard, then. Straight to the shit. You got married, obviously on purpose, and it was difficult or something?
You don't think women usually want marriage more ?

I can't explain to you how to get along with other people. It wouldn't translate, and we have no common frame of reference.
Why would women want marriage more?
By all means, tell us all more truths that you know about women.

 

[Wolf]

I'm not here to tell truth. Shit, I'm not even here to look smart.
So what was appealing about marriage to you?

Easy. I didn't want to continue not being married to my girlfriend.
Having the right partner is kind of awesome.

 

[closedeyesdream]

As I see it, the problem with being public about a fetish is that some people think it entitles them to have a say on your sex life.

You're a man who likes tickling? You must be a predator, because apparently men have no agency over their impulses, I will shame you forever!
You're a woman who likes tickling? You are a ***** for thinking about sex, also I will tickle you haha wanna bang?

Of course this is not everyone, but the risk is not worth the reward. My partner and closest friends know about my fetish and that's it.

 

[Rectangle]

Because I'm basically calling tickling our version of the end-game between being single and not being single.

Wait, what?

Easy. I didn't want to continue not being married to my girlfriend.
Having the right partner is kind of awesome.

 

[duderino84]

Easy. I didn't want to continue not being married to my girlfriend.
Having the right partner is kind of awesome.

So you won on your own terms. I can admire that. I've met a lot of guys that get strung through the ringer of marriage because quite frankly they're afraid of the girl getting sick of them.

 

[Wolf]

If you were to find a proper lee, would you want to keep her around or write her off as one of a billion potential dates you go on?
You would think I said something unfathomable.

What's a proper lee?

 

[foot fun]

Being a called a freak is not a bad thing?

No...

 

[Wolf]

Someone who doesn't get pissed off at the fact you like tickling.

I realize it's intended to put the responsibility on the other person(s), but..
aren't you leaving out some critical details in that oversimplification?

 

[Wolf]

Ok, my last ex was a depressing personality who didn't like tickling all that much but gave it a shot, and complained she wasn't used to smiling ("my face hurts from laughing"). My last ex before that had weight issues and a bad back that tickling irritated. Because her reactions were of course, jumping.
A lee that I'd like would have not have these problems listed above and would actually dare me to tickle her even tho she couldn't stand it. And I know I'm prettymuch asking for Yenny, but you asked.

No, that's not uncommon, finding someone who likes to be tickled, even though they "can't stand it".
But you're leaving out critical details again, like...sex. Lots of women like sex, too, you know...it's a myth that they don't.

 

[CapturedDoll]

Gentlemen... this thread has gone wildly off topic... please consider starting a new thread if you want to discuss something else. I understand how it happened... but... it's really not fair to the person who started the thread nor the people trying to contribute to it.

 

[Wolf]

Gentlemen... this thread has gone wildly off topic... please consider starting a new thread if you want to discuss something else. I understand how it happened... but... it's really not fair to the person who started the thread nor the people trying to contribute to it.

Being on the forum while dealing with people who aren't on the forum (and possibly finding out) is a big part of the OP's question, isn't it?

On second thought, scratch that. I don't want to seem confrontational, so if you have something you want to contribute to get things back on topic, please, feel free.

 

[Wolf]

Yea, some would like to have 7 kids too, I'm not in the business of miracles. They got off more than I did, I think that serves to part of being a good catch.

Yeah...no. It's far from that simple.
If it were, wouldn't you marry the first girl who doled out handjobs on request?

 

[Wolf]

No, because you can break blood vessels. Trust me. Not fun.

This is what I'm saying.
Why do you think it would be different for women?

 

[Wolf]

What are you asking? Details.

I'm trying to point out that the whole "they got off more than I did" is a dubious way to claim you're a good catch. I don't think people keep score.