Butterfly wings said:
Ha no that's ok. Use your own words and tell me what you think about me. Insted of using some website link to a song. Come on you can do it!.
I'll be happy to, but not here. Either you are unaware of the Golden Rule, or you're trying to bate me into a violation of it. In the slim chance the former is the case, here is a simplified version of it:
The Golden Rule
If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all.
This doesn't mean that people can't disagree with other people, but it does mean that everyone who wishes to post here is required to go out of their way to make sure that they are being constructive and positive. We are a forum, a place for discussing ideas, and anything that doesn't contribute to the business of doing that is unproductive and unwelcome. Just because we have freedom of speech in the United States, doesn't mean that anyone can say anything they want while the Senate is in session.
The TMF requires a similar level of decorum from its users, and we are always in session. Intelligent disagreement and debate are encouraged and welcome. Simple negativity is not. For example, if you don't like a story, saying why is encouraged and welcome. Saying that it's "lame" is not.
And to get this out of the way in advance, yes there is censorship on the TMF. Posts that do not abide by the Golden Rule, in the opinion of the administrative staff of the TMF, will be removed and people who frequently make such posts will risk having their posting privileges revoked.
I call it "simplified" because in reality it's more complex than that, but this will suffice for the moment.
Still, you did ask for a straight answer, and I respect that. It's the first thing out of you I do respect, so I'll try to give you an answer that makes sense and doesn't violate the prime directive. Here goes...
First and foremost, it's the name. Yes, you can go on and on about "judging a book by it's cover" and "a rose by any other name" etc., but your screen name is the very first thing anybody here sees about you. First impressions are lasting ones, regardless of whether or not people will admit this. I saw your screen name, and thought you were female, till I read the post (it was the one where you copied verbatum Jennifer's note to you). I immediately realized two things about you. 1) You were so head over heals about this Jennifer, that you were willing to roll over and accept her abuse toward you for not telling her every skeleton in your closet. And 2) So desperate were you to appear sensitive and bereft of machismo, that you picked a screen name that couldn't possibly be more effeminate. Yes, you did explain the metal reference, but it does little to justify the choice. And yes, I realize you you don't need any justification and are free to pick any name you wish, and that maybe you think I'm coming off like I expect you to run any name you chose by me first. I don't. But you asked me what I think, so here it is. My first impressions were, "This guy has absolutely no spine whatsoever. He's a jellyfish."
As time went on, you kept submitting thread after thread, each of which were just dripping with sap. Real men treat a woman this way. I'd die for my Jennifer. Hey, I'm all for loving relationships, it's what makes the world go round, but it seemed to me that you were incapable of posting anything that wasn't about love in general, or about Jennifer specifically. It seems crucial to you that people identify you with her.
Then we have the signatures. I've seen no less than five of them, and all with Jennifer's picture. So here at one point you had an effeminate name AND a picture of a pretty young girl in your signature, and yet you wondered why people kept thinking you were female. You even had to put a disclaimer at the bottom of your sig to tell people you were a guy. That alone should have told you something. Instead of removing her picture like you should have, you got Mimi to make a slew of sigs that included your picture along with hers. Now, in what I can only guess is an attempt to inject some desperately needed masculinity in your image, you've got a picture of yourself naked. In short, you keep putting band-aid after band-aid, when what is needed is full amputation and a prosthetic.
There's a lot more I could say, but I think this is enough for now. In summary, it's your name, your signatures, and the content of your posts. If that seems shallow, remember these things are all any of us can see of you, so it's all we have to go on.
Personally, I'd like to know what's behind all this lovesick sappy enveigling persona you present here. There might be a cool dude in there somewhere. You should let him out once in a while.
Takes a lot more than that to piss me off...
