Are heavy women more into tickling then thin women?

[Duckie]

only imput i can offer is that iv been thinner at times and fatter at others and as far as i remmember my sensitivity never changes at all, its just slighty harder to wriggle away when you wiegh more.

 

[Mimi]

Heavy girls don't get as much attention. Everyone knows it. Now a heavy girl can come on here where the supply of females is not big and get attention.

An attractive girl would have the confidence and manage to satisfy her fetish without having to turn to the internet.

I think heavy girls come on here because they can get attention. I don't think it's a TMF thing either. You would probably find similar weight demographcis if you searched other places.

That's a rather crass and ignorant statement to make. To say that would be the same as stating the only men who come to the TMF or make use of the internet at all are desperate lonely men who can't get a woman to notice their existance in real life. And considering you are a member of the TMF, that would include you in that blanket statement as well...would it not? 🙄

 

[steph]

OMG~thank you Mimi! I caught this as I was leaving work and almost responded with a "does anyone but me find this comment offensive?"

Although I've never qualified as a BBW, I've certainly had my struggles with weight. Like duckie, I've been heavier, I've been thinner~the sensitivity never changed. Guess what else? There's NEVER been a shortage of guys~EVER. I've decided it has less to do with looks and more about how they feel in your presence...

And hiram~SUCH a cute story! 😛

XOXO

 

[natural tickler]

I see no problem, as long as your ticklish, it doesn't matter to me. I wonder why people are so superficial about looks anyway??

As I said earlier, the more meat you have, the longer I stay for dinner😛

 

[kis123]

Kyle, Iggy.....

What are you guys doing to me??? If you don't like larger women, that's fine with me! But please don't assume that the thinner girls get all the attention. If a thin girl stood behind me, you wouldn't find her. However, I gets plenty of play, if you know what I mean!! I am single by choice and pretty much love every minute of it!! I'm working on my weight for health and professional reasons, not because I'm looking for a date!!!

As far as this forum is concerned, you wouldn't imagine the number of pm's I get. And I've made no secret about my weight issues at all! It's about confidence, not weight that makes me beautiful at any size. I've never been thin, but I have more self-esteem and confidence than I ever did when I was substantially thinner. That comes with maturity, not size!! I went to more of my share of clubs and I always got dances from guys that wanted to dance, not impress their friends by getting the hottest chick in the club. I personally have no time in my life to be worn on someone's arm as a trophy. If that's all they have to offer, that's not good enough for me!

Iggy, the reason why there are no BBMs is because that the image of the ideal woman is someone who looks like she could be blown away in a windstorm! It's always been that way, and probably always will be as long as the diet, entertainment, fashion, and other industries can profit off of it. Men have never been held to the same standards. When a man has gray hair, he looks distinguished. When a woman gets gray hair, she's just some old hag! Male actors on tv and movies have much longer screen lives than the women. It's okay for Michael Douglas to marry Catherine Zeta-Jones, but when Demi's ready to marry Ashton, all media hell breaks loose! The standards have never and will never be the same.

 

[kyle]

Mimi, judging by your stinging reply I can see that my comment got under your skin. My intentions were not to offend. However, I thought the reasoning behind my theory was sound. I realize that it was a generalization but a true one and one that fits the topic.



Gee natural, so anyone who judges the aesthetic faculties to make dating decisions is superficial? Give me a break dude.

 

[kis123]

Mimi, judging by your stinging reply I can see that my comment got under your skin. My intentions were not to offend. However, I thought the reasoning behind my theory was sound. I realize that it was a generalization but a true one and one that fits the topic.



Gee natural, so anyone who judges the aesthetic faculties to make dating decisions is superficial? Give me a break dude.

Sorry Kyle,

There's no sugar coating or PC on this one. You made a generalization based on your (and a small group of men's) opinion. Many men want a size 2 on their arm, but a size 12-22 in their bed! I oughta know, I've been one of them! Not every man would admit it for fear of being harrassed by their thin-women-loving friends. I've sat around the table of a lot of these conversations, so I know they exist.

If you like thinner women, that's fine for you! But there are a lot of men who like larger women-more meat with their potatoes, so to speak. I have two children and was married, and I've been a plus-sized BBW gal the whole way. And my kids aren't test tube babies, so someone managed to find me attractive enough to do that, if you know what I mean.

Your generalization is yours to have, but is not as accurate as you think.

 

[Iggy pop]

Originally posted by kis123
Kyle, Iggy.....

What are you guys doing to me???

What did I do to you? I don't remember even mentioning you or writing anything negative about you.

If you don't like larger women, that's fine with me! But please don't assume that the thinner girls get all the attention.

I would never assume that. There are plenty of guys that do like larger women. I'm not saying that larger women do not get attention. I do believe, however, that thinner girls do get a little bit more attention. As I pointed out in my previous post that the member pics that generally get the most comments are the ones of thinner girls.

Iggy, the reason why there are no BBMs is because that the image of the ideal woman is someone who looks like she could be blown away in a windstorm! It's always been that way, and probably always will be as long as the diet, entertainment, fashion, and other industries can profit off of it. Men have never been held to the same standards. When a man has gray hair, he looks distinguished. When a woman gets gray hair, she's just some old hag! Male actors on tv and movies have much longer screen lives than the women. It's okay for Michael Douglas to marry Catherine Zeta-Jones, but when Demi's ready to marry Ashton, all media hell breaks loose! The standards have never and will never be the same.

There is a lot of truth here. Although I have heard numerous jokes made at Michael Douglas expense. I remember when Catherine Zeta-jones was pregnant I heard many jokes on how she would now have to change two set of diapers. I have heard jokes how some people mistake him for her father. So he did not exactly get free pass. How many times I have heard the Rolling Stones be called the Rolling Bones? They didn't put the old fat Elvis on the postage stamp. Would James Dean still have the same mystique if he died in his 70's like Marlon Brando? Would they have made a movie about Jim Morrison he lived until his sixties? Just to go off topic for second, do you know who really gets a free pass on age difference? Gay people. For example, Ian McKellan, a gay man, has a boyfriend over 30 years younger than he is, but you never here anything about that.

Finally even with the pressure from the fashion, diet, and entertainment industry more people are obese in this country than ever before. So much so that it is being called an epidemic. This is not coming from the fashion or diet industry, but from the medical community. And this does not just apply to women, in fact the problem is even greater in men. I think we would all be better off and live longer if we start living healthier life styles.

 

[kis123]

Iggy,

First of all, my opening sentence was supposed to be a joke. I obviously didn't do too well with that one-sorry about that.

Yes, obesity is a problem. We live in a nation of fast food, stressed livestyles with very little time to do anything past going through the drive-thru. I also think the food industry is responsible for many people becoming food addicts. Fast food has all sorts of chemicals that I believe make people eat more and become hungry again sooner. If they can use steroids and antibotics in our food and feed mad-cow infested food to the very cattle they place in our grocery stores for us to eat, I don't think my theory is so far-fetched. I don't have iron-clad proof, but I don't think I'm wrong.

I do believe that we are not going to get help from the food industry at all and must take personal responsibility for what we stick in our mouths. I don't believe in the blame game-adults take responsibility for their actions. No one put a gun to my head while I was becoming larger.

Having said that, just because I am a larger woman does not believe that I should live in societal shame. I'm entitled to love and happiness just as much as a thinner woman. Discrimination regarding weight is the last permitted prejudice in this society. I shouldn't have to hide in shame because I'm big. I've done that long enough and I won't do it anymore. I have taken verbal abuse since I was a child in my own family and everywhere else. There are plenty of men who love big women. I have dated and married them. And NONE of them are overweight or obese.

If a man doesn't get it when it comes to the advantages of being with a larger woman or if they're on the "hot chick" syndrome, IT'S THEIR LOSS AND ANOTHER MAN'S GAIN!! There are plenty of men who love big women out there. There are a lot of closet chubby chasers who date small women in public and run with the big women in secret.

Even with the jokes about Michael Douglas, the Rolling Stones, etc., dating younger beautiful women is still much more acceptable than it will ever be among older women and younger men. Aging women will never have the same respect and benefits as the older "distinguished" men. And larger men are considered "big guys", where women are fat slobs who need to lose weight. The deck will always be unevenly stacked in the man's favor.

 

[jeannie]

well, there seem to be a lot of thin ticklish women in the videos for sale.....now whether they are tickle gals is not clear...I am thin and petite and love tickling. My opinion is that it is likely unrelated to size. Now whether or not more women who are larger in size are more open about their desires may be the difference however, that also could be a misperception.

 

[kis123]

There are plenty of "misperceptions" going on around here. There's a misperception that only thin girls are "hot" and big girls don't get any attention so they have to sit in front of computers and make relationships over the Internet.

There are "misperceptions" that thin women are afraid of getting attention so they keep their feelings to themselves, while us big women would do anything to get attention, even go on tickling sites on the internet.

Ticklishness is neurological and has NOTHING with a person's size! Being outgoing enough to discuss it has nothing to do with size either. It's about the ability to express yourself and your needs and not let others do it for you.

 

[The Sean Man]

...And larger men are considered "big guys"...

Though my friends use it as a term of endearment, I'm working towards losing a boatload of weight as well as the nickname "The Big Guy".

I like to think that tickle-philes are too tickle-happy to let something like weight be an issue. What can I say? I'm an optimist.

The Sean Man

 

[BellaRisa]

well, there seem to be a lot of thin ticklish women in the videos for sale.....

I have a few things to say (gee, really Bella? 😛 🙄 ) and I'll start with the above statement.

BellaRisa Productions has been more successful than my partners and I could have ever imagined, and it has a very curvy lil' chickie at the helm: me. I adore my body but I had mild concerns about my non-thinness at the beginning, but we've never had a single complaint and I've received tons of fan mail praising my curves. Among other things . The reason you see so many very thin girls in videos is because a) that's who signs on to be tickled, and b) that's what stereotypically sells. But our video with me bottoming has gone through the roof, and it's quite obvious in the clips that I am *not* thin. I plan to use rounder and juicier girls in our work whenever they come our way, they're more fun to tickle for me and I already know they'll be popular 😎

Now here's the thing. We luscious girls have had to deal with the "thin is in" media stuff all of our lives, so of course we get annoyed when folks start implying (or flat-out stating) that we're not as attractive and/or more desperate. We get offended and frankly confused, because many of us have never had issue with it; in our personal lives thinner does NOT automatically equal more attractive. Hell, where I grew up in Brooklyn you needed a decent sized rear end to leave the house (g). Personally I've 'always' had the opposite sex gravitate toward me over thinner ladies with smaller bosoms and bottoms than I have. BUT, here's what I figured out with the help of my VERY attentive Top: it's the curves, proportion, and aura. My hubby agreed, bear with me:

They said that, other than very young guys who still think the plastic girls in magazines are real and desireable, most men want a girl who A) weighs less than he does and B) has an hourglass figure to some degree and c) takes care of herself and takes pride in her appearance.

This makes sense to me.

In my experience, men want to feel protective and needed, and frankly like they can't get their ass kicked by their girlfriend, and that's easier if they're bigger and stronger than the young lady in question. I usually go for the big cuddly teddy bear/ex-football player types (you know who you are ) for those very reasons, so I can relate. Wrestling with a guy you can beat gets old. Secondly, I have indeed observed that the curvy girls here and elsewhere that get plenty of attention are those of us who have 'very' shapely figures, whether a size 10 or 16, and take the time to look good. A plumpscious girl who's firm and rounded and proportionally curved can be *more* popular than a more boyish figured woman if she's workin' that bombshell thang. We all know this😎 But often when I'm out and about I see the type of 'heavy' woman that gives us 'curvy' girls a bad rep: unflattering, outdated outfit that does nothing for her figure and just makes her look like an egg, bad '80's haircut and makeup IF she's wearing any, and worst of all-downhearted and downtrodden attitude. I've seen this phenomenon anywhere from members' pics (no offense to anyone!) to bars and clubs. A *lot* of non-skinny ladies seem to think that since they're not a size 6 they don't need to try, and that does a lot to perpetuate the 'thin equals pretty' myth. Of course the thinner girls get more attention if they're trying harder and give off more confident vibes. That's just common sense.

Having recently watched several of my guy friends drooling over the latest lingerie catalogue I received for ladies size 12 and up, (and seriously these girls are HOT) I *know* it's not thinness but beauty and sexiness that count with the average male. And those are defined in a myriad of ways.

My 3 cents, YMMY,

Bella

 

[The Sean Man]

"Fat bottomed girls, you make the rockin' world go roooooooooound"- Queen.

The Sean Man

 

[Lazarus]

Big Girls ROCK!

'Nuff said.



😛

 

[steph]

OMG~some of you are making me crazy with this and some of you owe these ladies an apology. (Yes, I'm fiercely protective of my BBW friends, even though they don't need it.) I've had way more threads started by the guys here than Ashley (who started her own, BTW)~no disrespect meant to her. I'm 5'3 and a few years ago was up to 200 pounds. I'm nowhere near that now, but neither am I down to 100, not that was ever that either, except as a teenager. In case you haven't noticed, I'd say I qualify as someone getting a little bit of comments and attention both here 🙄 and in my real life. Real men like real women with curves.
Shame on some of you for making such moronic generalizations!

XOXO

From my own expierence at bars and clubs, however, it is generally the thinner girls that get the most attention. Even here, it is the pics of the thinner girls that get the most comments, and the pics that have been proved fakes are those of thinner girls. So thin girls get a lot attention. Just look at Princess Ashleys thread.

 

[natural tickler]

Gee natural, so anyone who judges the aesthetic faculties to make dating decisions is superficial? Give me a break dude.

No, kyle, what I meant is if looks is your only criteria, instead of the big picture, then there is a problem😀

 

[kis123]

Kis has reviewed her posts and feels the need to clean up something not necessarily said, but implied.

It is one thing to be petite or slim because of either your genetics or healthy lifestyle. I want my slim sisters to know that I have nothing but love for you and wish I had your metabolism!

It is another thing to worship size 2 models who smoke cigarettes and eat lettuce all day just to stay skinny enough to get a job. Young girls starve themselves to death every day thinking this look is beautiful when it is actually unhealthy and unrealistic (even they get airbrushed on the magazine covers).

Fellas, everyone has their preferences. My daughter is 5'11" and makes a size 12 look drop-dead gorgeous! The men that have been in my life love large women. Some of you like petite or slim women. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, behold it and go for the type you like.

But please, do not make general stereotypical statements about slimmer women getting more attention than larger women. It simply isn't true and there are more people than me on this forum that will attest to it!

 

[natural tickler]

Kis, your point is well taken. Now breathe slowly and deep. Feel better??😀

 

[kis123]

Kis, your point is well taken. Now breathe slowly and deep. Feel better??😀

Point taken, daddy of twins!😛 😛 And since you asked, I feel much better!!!!!!

 

[featherfingers]

But please, do not make general stereotypical statements about slimmer women getting more attention than larger women. It simply isn't true and there are more people than me on this forum that will attest to it!

I would like to enter my opinion on this matter. Kis brings up a very good point. Look at any of the Steph threads and you will see that she receives more views and posts than anyone else at TMF. She freely admits that she is no Kate Moss, yet there must be something magical about her that brings the guys to these threads. In the 'Images' forum, she received over 17,000 views and is receiving more at this very minute. That's a testament to her beauty, both outside and inside. <a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008_ZSXXXXXX41US' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/23/23_5_105.gif' border=0></a><a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008_ZSXXXXXX41US' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/25/25_11_63.gif' border=0></a>

 

[steph]

Oh, LOL

OFF TOPIC!
(but I love ya for saying it frankie!)


(happy now, Dan? I beat ya to it!)😀

XOXO

 

[featherfingers]

Anything to get physical with you, my pretty!<ahref='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008_ZSXXXXXX41US' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_1_6.gif' border=0></a> I was 100% sincere, by the way.

 

[fitnesstickle]

I'm 5'3 and a few years ago was up to 200 pounds. I'm nowhere near that now, but neither am I down to 100, not that was ever that either, except as a teenager. In case you haven't noticed, I'd say I qualify as someone getting a little bit of comments and attention both here 🙄 and in my real life. Real men like real women with curves.
Shame on some of you for making such moronic generalizations!

XOXO

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[Knox The Hatter]

In regards to the original question this thread posed: no, I don't think so. I sincerely believe that it all evens out in the end, and people post questions like this only because they seem bored.

As far as overweight women being "desperate": the desperate ones all seem to have one trait in common...their personalities suck. Of course a girl who looks like Pamela Anderson with a shitty personality can be much in demand by men who seem to be turned on by such a concept. They seem to want to marry women like this, and then sit around wondering just what the hell went wrong. Don't laugh, I knew imbeciles like this in the Navy. Overweight girls with a lousy personality don't have a chance. They're stereotyped by guys with a prejudice against overweight girls; it's easier to promulgate a generalization.

It seems to me that the big girls here- the regulars- are having a good time. This seems to confound some people.

I have a friend at the job. She's about my age, and quite overweight. She's not particularly attractive, either, but not too long ago, she met the man of her dreams, they hit it off, and they got married, and they're very happy...

Desperation indeed 🙄