Bohemianne
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I feel like Al Pacino. PUAHHHH!
I never had a good laugh for the past few days but now, LITERALLY. >>>> BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAA!!!!

I feel like Al Pacino. PUAHHHH!
View attachment 409372Well played, sir.![]()
Relax... its just a humorous literary device. As per Urban Dic:
Man Card
A card that doesn't actually exist, but certifies that you are male. The man card can be taken away in two circumstances. One: your girlfriend wants to keep it.
Two: you do something profoundly unmanly.
1. John had a five-star man card, but the brohood was required to take it when he wore a dress to prom.
2. Man I would come to your party, but my gf is rockin my man card. She said I had to go shopping.
Have another serious talk with her... no smiling or giggling or light heartedness...just serious. Tell her how uncomfortable and annoying it is and maybe have this conversation in front of a supervisor. But be prepared for a lot of shade from her.....-Mia
Can't you find it in your heart or trousers to just throw a quick one up her?
Out of curiousity: Are you, or have you ever been a member of PUAHate.com?
Nothing quite says disrespect like giving advice that he's clearly not looking for. Again, where at all in the first post did the OP imply that he wanted to fuck this girl? Please tell me. Quote it. Seriously. Otherwise... Give it up. We've already clearly established that screwing her is out of the question. Because saying that the solution to his problem is to bang her would imply that she's actually flirting with him, and guess what? She's NOT. She's HARASSING him. As in toying, bullying, assaulting, humiliating... Whatever you want to call it. There's no flirting, there's no chemistry, no sexual attraction. It's just sexual harassment. In fact? Read the title again if you need even more proof.
Now, if you or anyone else reads this post and STILL thinks he should just "bang her" or what have you? Awesome. So, when that douchebag at work that you hate because he picks on you? Demoralizes you? Invades your personal space? Overall makes your job and working a living hell? In other words... Harasses you? Cool. Let me know. So I can promptly tell you to shove your dick in his ass. That should get him off your back, right?![]()
It might, but unlike you the thought hadn't occurred to me as this would be between me and another male. Why did it occur to you?
And I stand by my original advice.
You mistake my approaching the situation with actual logic as me having homosexual thoughts proves two things to me: you are both letting my post go right over your head as well as are incapable of any sort of intellectual understanding and rebuttal here, so allow me to clarify.
You're missing the point I'm trying to make. The topic of the thread was that our OP was looking for advice on how to handle his situation, how to handle his being harassed. The point I'm trying to make is that the harasser's gender is arbitrary, as A) anyone can sexually harass anyone, not just women or men, and B) harassment is harassment, and the fact that the offender is a woman shouldn't matter. So, if your advice for the OP is to try and bang her, then that should be your stance for any and all people being harassed by anyone, man or woman. Otherwise, you're not helping anyone here. As I said, he's not looking for advice to deal with a woman, he's looking for advice to deal with someone sexually harassing him. And I'm betting your "original advice" wouldn't help you if the situation were happening to you, and it wasn't a woman. In other words, if you're going to give someone advice, be willing to practice what you preach, no matter the circumstances, the harasser's gender and methods included.
As I read this thread, it is actually an interesting topic. Here we have a guy saying some ATTRACTIVE woman is constantly touching/tickling him and seeks advice from GUYS. Oh gee, I wonder how the typical male will react to hearing some other guy complain that an attractive woman is touching/tickling him. This same guy is on a fetish forum for tickling and there are a kajillion guys who would kill to be touched/tickled by some attractive woman. Any "red-blooded" guy would love this opportunity.
Then you have those who feel it doesn't matter if it is a man or woman doing the harassing, harassment is wrong. That is true. No one should feel harassed by another person and management should do something.
But to those who feel "insulted" that other men are saying he should go out with her, have sex with her, etc,THINK ABOUT IT. Unless this woman is physically BIGGER than him, you would think he would be "man" enough to stop some woman from touching him. He doesn't have to be physical with her, but he damn sure can use his voice. He has said he talked to her before, but honestly, I don't think he made his point clear enough. If he yells "STOP TOUCHING ME DAMMIT" loud enough and for others to hear, he just might embarrass her enough for her to stop. The fact that he is asking guys for advice tells me that he wasn't very firm with her. I get it, he doesn't want to be touched by her. But at the same time, you are a MAN. Act like one and get this woman to stop touching you.
The double standard comes because 9/10 times, the male is bigger than the woman so he will feel intimidated. But if the male is still bigger and some woman is touching him, to me, "man up" and get this woman to stop. What could this smaller woman possibly have over you where you can't get her to stop? If this woman flat out intimidates you, that would be understandable, but I know guys have a very hard time seeing an attractive woman tickling them would be an issue. So why are people (including males) SHOCKED by some of the responses. To the OP, since you said she is attractive, just show her my way and I will take care of her for you....
Far more accuracy? Hardly. But this isn't about me, and the honest truth about me and my experiences is none of your business to discuss and neither here nor there anyways, as they derail the topic at hand.Since you've decided on a personal attack, allow me to respond in kind, and with far more accuracy.
Your PC-bred lack of both logic, experience and the slightest semblance of grown-up judgement precludes you figuring out that men and women are, always have been and always will be different. The dynamic of man on man is considerably different from that of woman on man. If you'd get out into the world, and interact with more real live females (if this is what you like; I'm wrong to make any assumptions) instead of spending so much time on all the costumed superhero stuff in your signature (very thoughtful providing shoe sizes for the eleven characters) you might come to the same realization. Don't get me wrong, it's nice artwork, but life has to be lived also.
If by chance I sound like your father, (a) I'm glad I'm not and (b) He's perfectly right.
As far as the OP goes, a bit of further research has led me to the fact that as he himself says, he's unsure of his sexuality (the wording in his signature cartoon nowithstanding) (http://www.ticklingforum.com/showth...guy-tie-and-tickle-them&p=3800945#post3800945) and this uncertainty may well be part of his problem. There's typical male behaviour, typical female behaviour, and there's the gray area in between that might be stopping him from framing an unequivocal response to the woman in question.
And in front of a supervisor as well? This will sink you even further into the depths of the deepest doo-doo ever reserved for a human male.
"Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned,
Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned."
William Congreve, 'The Mourning Bride' (1697) Act III, Scene VIII.
Can't you find it in your heart or trousers to just throw a quick one up her?
He has done everything by the book, and it should be handled the same for him as it should for her. I don't support the attitude others have about this. If he returns her advances he is setting himself up for a complaint. If he grabs her, even as a defensive gesture, he is setting himself up for an assault charge. Women brought in these laws, they should be following them more then anyone. Lead by example.
But here is the thing. He doesn't have to do anything physical with her to make her stop. Is the woman physically bigger than him? Probably not. He needs to be LOUD and assertive in his voice. Yell at her if he has to. He has already complained to management, so if he gets in a yelling match with her, management will do what?
That is why you have guys telling him to "man up". Unless this woman is physically bigger than him and can kick his ass, how on this planet can he not be assertive with his words and tone of voice to get her to stop? Besides, this woman is NOT causing him PHYSICAL harm. The OP really does need to "man up", be assertive and get this woman to stop. She is not grabbing his genitals. His problem is that she is "touching him" and he does not like to get touched at all by anyone. To me, this is not SEXUAL harassment. He is just annoyed that she is touching him. My goodness, tell the woman in a loud clear voice, and be MEAN about it. Man up dude, man up.
My goodness, tell the woman in a loud clear voice, and be MEAN about it. Man up dude, man up.
And this stops her...how?
Far more accuracy? Hardly. But this isn't about me, and the honest truth about me and my experiences is none of your business to discuss and neither here nor there anyways, as they derail the topic at hand.
That having been said, I'm flattered you think I care enough about a random stranger that you think my response a "personal attack". It's not. It's pretty unbiased, and while I made it clear what your posts were TELLING me, in regards to this topic alone for the record, I never flat out said or even intended to imply that's who you are as a person or that it's a character flaw. And where you got it in your head I was being passive-aggressive enough to warrant such a heart-felt response, I have no idea. Hell, it's far less personal than your reply here, which, for someone who claims to be wrong to be making assumptions, implies quite a number of them, left and right, including but not limited to, a lack of social experience or good judgment, that I spend all my time in front of a computer, that my imagination and creative talent is a supplement to a lack of interaction with real people, that I'm possibly into men because I show no bias to females as most men do (sometimes to disgusting and creepy levels, I might add), and that I spend all my time on superhero stuff that if you actually took the time to be more thorough in your "research" on me in an attempt to gain more ammunition for your own "attack", you'd know I haven't posted any material in weeks, if not months. Oh, and that my dad was any sort of real "father", and frankly, not a disgusting monster who's done nothing but horrible things to people in my life, mostly ones I care about. In truth? You don't sound like him, because even with your attitude, you still come across as some kind of human being, and while you're glad you're not my dad, I can't say the same, because anyone here would've been a step up.
Regardless, my life is my life, and that's not the topic of discussion here. And, getting back to that, I actually will have to agree with the point you made underneath all of your spite. There is a difference in dynamic between genders, and because of that, what one finds harassment differs and is unique to everyone. So, I'll apologize, because maybe based on your own definition, your advice may have some merit, as mine has keeping my own definition in mind. In my mind... Harassment is very clear cut to me. It's any sort of act, whether it be sexual or otherwise, including groping, unwanted advances or even things like hazing and bullying too, that makes an individual uncomfortable, and is abusive in nature. And, being the person that I am, one who likes to see the world they way it SHOULD be, in contrast to your apparent viewing of the world as it actually IS, thusly feels that it's necessary to assume that there should be equality between men and women and that gender-dynamics shouldn't have any sort of effect on what does or doesn't fall under "harassment", and that the OP should take these same steps like reporting it to higher ups and such no matter if it's a woman sexually harassing him, or a man harassing him, sexual or not. Therefore, when I read posts like yours, advising that he just forget it and screw her, given that MY definition of harassment, again, is when ANYONE, man or woman, does something that makes someone uncomfortable, I read it as "if someone is harassing you, just screw em!", and it points out the ever apparent of the "double standard". A problem that I hope to at least make the people here aware of if not help solve the issue by making it known that women shouldn't be treated better than men for doing stupid shit or breaking the law, or vice versa. Especially attractive women, because that's another issue, how pretty girls get treated better than plainer looking or overweight women.
Again, I see the world how it SHOULD be. And the appropriate response, in all good conscious, shouldn't be "just bag her already!" in a world that should be full of decent people and equality. So, I'm an optimist. Must be all that "superhero stuff" I apparently occupy all my time with. Sue me.
As for the post you linked to? Irrelevant to me. Harassment is harassment, whether he's gay, bi or straight.
And this stops her...how?
Say something loud and very vocal to a woman in a public setting and embarrassing her. This leads to confrontation. A confrontation you must have. Because once you vocally express your displeasure in front of witnesses, if she continues, she screws herself if she keeps "bothering him". You call unwanted attention to it.
If a MAN can't stop a woman who is not physically more intimidating than him from touching him, makes you wonder. You make that comment as though this guy is powerless. The OP went to the management already and she still does it. Take matter into your own hands, without violence, and STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. You are supposed to be a MAN. The part that is confusing is that he says she's attractive. It makes me scratch my head when some people are upset over some posts that indicate he should have sex with her. She's ATTRACTIVE.
Totally different story if this woman is BIGGER than him. Then there would be a fear factor of her. Physical intimidation is hard to overcome, but that doesn't seem to be the case. Instead of being a "man" and getting her to stop, he is asking GUYS for advice. What do you think guys will say? This shouldn't be a shock. She is not physically harming him. She is not grabbing his ass, genitals, nipples, or any other sexual areas. She is touching him. Stand up for yourself and get her to stop.
He has already been vocal and told her to stop, and gone to his management. She should already be screwed. At this point we don't know if he has told to her stop with witnesses, though.Say something loud and very vocal to a woman in a public setting and embarrassing her. This leads to confrontation. A confrontation you must have. Because once you vocally express your displeasure in front of witnesses, if she continues, she screws herself if she keeps "bothering him". You call unwanted attention to it.
If a MAN can't stop a woman who is not physically more intimidating than him from touching him, makes you wonder. You make that comment as though this guy is powerless. The OP went to the management already and she still does it. Take matter into your own hands, without violence, and STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. You are supposed to be a MAN.
Totally different story if this woman is BIGGER than him. Then there would be a fear factor of her. Physical intimidation is hard to overcome, but that doesn't seem to be the case. Instead of being a "man" and getting her to stop, he is asking GUYS for advice. What do you think guys will say? This shouldn't be a shock. She is not physically harming him. She is not grabbing his ass, genitals, nipples, or any other sexual areas. She is touching him. Stand up for yourself and get her to stop.