Would you permanently change your tickling fetish for a socially accepted turn-on?

[Master_Magnus]

Also, where you're from?
In Belgium people don't openly talk about fetishes or anything, but here people aren't prudes neither (certainly not privately; though of course they also ridicule fetishes, but I don't let that get to me and I also am able to enjoy sex without tickling, and am able to get to tickle most of the girls anyway).

I live in an Eastern European country and people here are quite lusty when it comes to sex and really are very much against fetishes, especially fetishes you don't often hear about like tickling. What the males in my country want is sex, as much sex a possible, without love, without to much foreplay, with no side effects, no additional complications, and they don't even bother to try to hide anymore. That's what I've been taught myself, "Fuck as, much as you can especially when you're still young!". You can see men staring at girls asses or tits but I never saw anyone staring at a girl's feet (I don't look at them myself). Now how would be like to be the only one staring at feet while everyone else is staring at tits. And you don't know how my people are. When it comes to mockery they are cruel and merciless. When they find any bit of ridiculousness even in their best friend they don't miss the slightest occasion to mock it. I mocked girls I've seen tickling each other myself in a harsh way to mask my thing for it, to be sure that they won't see through my disguise, to confuse their insight. After all my people are proud and aggressive people. We have a history of centuries of war, mostly against the Turkish Empire, never allowing them to cross deeper into the north-west of Europe. I guess that's something genetically built within us and we will be always a bit brutal, like our ancient and medieval warrior forefathers, especially us heavy metal types of persons, but would relocating in other country except from Holland help anything? Even if people are more gentle in other countries, they would reject tickling in a more polite way, but still reject it. Do you know a specific country where the people are openly about fetishes, or at least open minded enough not to talk ill about them? No other place comes to my mind then the Red Light district, I don't think there's another place on the face of Earth where you can find more acceptance, and even better there you find pure sex without the needless attachment called love.

 

[Master_Magnus]

Aw hell, I edited my post, and the connection was kinda laggy, and now it became a double post😱😛issed

 

[DaDebble]

Do you know a specific country where the people are openly about fetishes, or at least open minded enough not to talk ill about them? No other place comes to my mind then the Red Light district, I don't think there's another place on the face of Earth where you can find more acceptance, and even better there you find pure sex without the needless attachment called love because the only things I want from women are sex, tickling and respect, and in return I can offer respect, money and pleasure, but if they want love they wont find any from me.

Nope I don't know such a place. Understanding is something which grows here, but few people throw around their fetishes in public (and those who do are easy with any mockery and are usually backed-up). You can talk about your preferences on some occasions, but you'll be ridiculed, though in a nicer manner and they'll expect you to feel nice with that (most of the people, though, would be like: "Yeah! if that floats your boat, good for you!".)
Still, there exists true misunderstanding in certain circles of course, but usually the worst you get are the usual reactions which one shouldn't take too personally (like that Korean girl's reaction in the YT video).
Personally I don't think you'll get much done with commercialized sex, because human preferences tend to somehow be shallow-minded and set up cheap norms.

I think your average Western European country is, while not prudish, more aimed at intimacy (and many women who get into foot or tickling fetishes usually are introduced to it because they like their BF. And it takes a while before she gives herself and expects you to give also and usually a mutual tie gets forged and both parties enjoy it.) Further, I think you stereotype the Netherlands a little bit too much. 😉

So in other words, I cannot advice you on what you're looking for.

 

[PurpleStyle]

If you didn't notice the post where I've added the Snitsky&Maria encounter I post it again. Here it is http://www.dailymotion.com/video/x11kof_snitsky-likes-maria-s-feet_sport? . Did you notice how Big Show is reacting to Snitsky's fetish? Did you notice how humiliated Snitsky is when he leaves the camera sight? In the place I live most people of BOTH genders react like Show did in the video when it comes to foot fetish and tickling. And if something like that is shown on tv, you can imagine that it became even more unacceptable than before.

You waste your time posting that video in response to me. I care not for wrestling.

A guy on this forum on another thread adviced a girl that wanted to apply for a job as a tickle model not to, because she may want to marry a high-ranked man later in her life and he will not marry her because she was a tickle model. Could that mean that tickling is something honorable or is it quite the contrary?

That argument is not relevant. That is, with respect - no different from somebody not wanting to marry a porn star because she gets paid to have sex. That doesn't mean sex is bad. In fact, sex is quite good when conducted responsibly. The same goes for tickling.

As much as I would perhaps like to embrace it the environment I live in doesn't let me, and it is something that only comes from my subconsciousness like an instinct, a neural path perhaps that links tickling to arousal, not something I consciously enjoy.

That doesn't make you a unique being. Sexuality is linked to everyone in such a manner. The only difference is, many of us have integrated it into our conscious lives in a balanced and appropriate manner. My sexual proclivities are not a burden on my life. As for the environment; that sounds like an excuse unless you live in some kind of deep rural fundamentalist christian commune, or mormon Utah. XD From what I've been told, people in Europe have less sexual hang-ups than people in places like the United States.

The reason that makes me see it as a curse is because it adds so many unnecessary complications to my life, so much energy wasting in scheming and planning, and so much repulsion from the society, how should I introduce it someone if I want to indulge my fetish, can I trust that person will keep it a secret, won't that person try to blackmail me by revealing it, what are the odds of being discovered and so on. If I was a vanilla person things would've been so simple. When I said that women should be honored (not grateful as you said, there's a difference) I said it because I'm proud of who I am, and I have what to be proud of. I am good looking, I am smart, I know a lot of things, I read very much, I know history, I am philosophic and I even practice occult arts. That is something to be really proud of.

If you're so proud of who you are, then why do you consider a part of yourself a curse? If you're so smart as you say, it shouldn't require scheming and planning. When my boyfriend introduced me to it, he came about it in a very natural manner. Suffice to say, we're both pleased with the result. 😉 The occult stuff... I won't even go there. :blink

When two partners have an orgasm their spirits mix together, for a brief amount of time they become the same person, so for that brief amount of time she is soaked in my qualities (after all sex is the most intimate human relationship, you cant get more intimate with a person than having sex with that person), isn't that an honor for her?

Sounds like you've been reading too many romance novels. :blink

And after all my country has far more women than man so it's in their interest to look sexy and behave nicely or they will be overlook. As for imagination I have a lot but as I said earlier already I grow weary of wasting my energy in creating schemes that yield no results. Perhaps after I graduate the university I will relocate in Amsterdam, I'm a citizen of the European Union after all. There must be a lot of fetish models in the Red Light District and I'm pretty sure I will afford one. Perhaps the socially unaccepted fetishes are taken more lightly in that society. As for my way of talking, that's how I like to talk, I'm not trolling or anything.

Once again, you shouldn't have to create a scheme. Stop trying to reject it and push it away as if it were a burden. It is a part of you, as you yourself have said - and will never leave you. Realize that you belong to a forum full of people who consider it natural as breathing.

As for Amsterdam, I cannot say. I have a friend who hails from there, with a love for tickling; but I am sure she does not like men who loathe a part of themselves. 😉

 

[sweetsuzy]

Well I don't know when this poll turned into an argument 🙂blink), but I'm going to leave it alone, because I like to be happy. =)

I would NOT give up my tickling fetish, because it's part of who I am! I am sure it is easier for me than some others to live with it though. While tickling is definitely my fetish, I certainly don't need it to enjoy sex. Plus, being a girl who is mostly a lee lends itself to fairly quick acceptance from significant others. Even if the guy isn't into tickling per se, I've never had one DISLIKE tickling me. So it's all good.

Tickling = fun

 

[Journia]

Warlock. Stop.

you're making excuses to conform.

The people in your environment have no control over you.

They are ignorant and unenlightened.

And you aren't happy.

You have two choices.

Allow yourself the life that YOU want, without looking at some penny ante video on the internet about a situation that could happen.

Or kill yourself.

Do this by allowing yourself to be tortured by forcing yourself to uphold an ideal that you simply can not by your very nature come to terms with because of how you are. And then when you finally come to terms and allow yoursel said freedoms, you will be disappointed at the ease with which it is done, and you qill cry, because you wasted so many years screwing yourself over to be comfortable in another person's idea of perfection, and you have so little time left to enjoy it.

I'm waiting with the Ferryman and The Meshugganah with your decision.

 

[PurpleStyle]

I apologize for my abrasiveness. I feel crass for, once again, using my academic background as an excuse for why I make such pointed statements and questions. I was hoping to help a little bit, believe it or not. I would like you to try to look at it from another perspective other than "it's a curse". It can bring you great pleasure if you utilize it correctly. Now I just sound almost robotic. XD

 

[Master_Magnus]

You waste your time posting that video in response to me. I care not for wrestling.




That argument is not relevant. That is, with respect - no different from somebody not wanting to marry a porn star because she gets paid to have sex. That doesn't mean sex is bad. In fact, sex is quite good when conducted responsibly. The same goes for tickling.



That doesn't make you a unique being. Sexuality is linked to everyone in such a manner. The only difference is, many of us have integrated it into our conscious lives in a balanced and appropriate manner. My sexual proclivities are not a burden on my life. As for the environment; that sounds like an excuse unless you live in some kind of deep rural fundamentalist christian commune, or mormon Utah. XD From what I've been told, people in Europe have less sexual hang-ups than people in places like the United States.



If you're so proud of who you are, then why do you consider a part of yourself a curse? If you're so smart as you say, it shouldn't require scheming and planning. When my boyfriend introduced me to it, he came about it in a very natural manner. Suffice to say, we're both pleased with the result. 😉 The occult stuff... I won't even go there. :blink



Sounds like you've been reading too many romance novels. :blink



Once again, you shouldn't have to create a scheme. Stop trying to reject it and push it away as if it were a burden. It is a part of you, as you yourself have said - and will never leave you. Realize that you belong to a forum full of people who consider it natural as breathing.

As for Amsterdam, I cannot say. I have a friend who hails from there, with a love for tickling; but I am sure she does not like men who loathe a part of themselves. 😉

No I don't share xian ideas, quite the contrary, I'm NOT an xian, I left that religion long ago and I will never return. I am a partisan of the Nordics now and it will stay this way forever. And the cult of the Nordics is not at all restrictive, in fact it is the most acceptive cult that ever existed. It accepts all races, homosexuality, alcohol consumption, smoking etc, and encourages sex, for it is healthy and the orgasm energy is very powerful and can be used for so much more rather then mere pleasure. For example it can be shaped into a thoughtform. As for the mixing of the spirits, it's what occult thought me, the two partners open themselves to each other and become one for a brief moment.
You ask me why I require scheming if I'm so smart. It's because that's what a smart person does. He/she gives a lot of thought and calculates and analyzes everything in the slightest bit before acting, unlike the less intelligent people that jump on ahead assuming risks. If a smart man as much as smells a risk after giving a lot of thought to the certain action he then either gives up that action or tries to find a way to bypass the risks. That's what I tried for so long, either find a way to introduce tickling into a date (but if you can believe me I never tickled any girl since I discovered this fetish, I struggled against a lot) without even mentioning it as I'm ashamed to even say this word in public, and when I really must say I replace it with itch, or bothering. Like I said before it's just a thing of luck, a vanilla adult girl is almost impossible to change via classic means, and furthermore why would I modify her. If I would try to change her even through the use of charm and manipulating of feelings (which I'm good at), I wouldn't be any better than the tyrants and the puppeteers that I struggle against. Your boyfriend found it so easy to introduce it to you because you're into tickling yourself (the proof is your account on this site) and you accepted it so easy for the same reason. If you were a 100% vanilla woman or he was a 100% vanilla man then things would've been far more complicated and it would've eventually result into a split. As for myself I only know three girls so far that seem to be into tickling but I can't be 100% sure if they don't approach tickling just like a playful way to kill some time, just like guys playfully fight each other when they're bored without actually hurting each other or being enemies. And even if they are into tickling I wouldn't want them just because that (their personality doesn't fit with mine).
And when I mentioned Amsterdam I mentioned the prostitutes from the Red Light District, not the girls that have other jobs. If I would relocate there I certainly wouldn't do it to date someone but to satisfy my wildest sexual dreams with prostitutes (that's what everyone does when they go there) as my country lacks fetish prostitutes. As I said on the publicity site and newspaper I've met lot of vanilla prostitutes, but only one fetish prostitute. I don't think I would find a better opportunity to meet more fetish prostitutes anywhere else, and I don't think I will have an opportunity to tickle any other girl than a prostitute. That would be perhaps the only way I could get comfortably with it, but the thought of being forever single is still a bit hard to swallow.

 

[Master_Magnus]

Warlock. Stop.

you're making excuses to conform.

The people in your environment have no control over you.

They are ignorant and unenlightened.

And you aren't happy.

You have two choices.

Allow yourself the life that YOU want, without looking at some penny ante video on the internet about a situation that could happen.

Or kill yourself.

Do this by allowing yourself to be tortured by forcing yourself to uphold an ideal that you simply can not by your very nature come to terms with because of how you are. And then when you finally come to terms and allow yoursel said freedoms, you will be disappointed at the ease with which it is done, and you qill cry, because you wasted so many years screwing yourself over to be comfortable in another person's idea of perfection, and you have so little time left to enjoy it.

I'm waiting with the Ferryman and The Meshugganah with your decision.

I would like to both look good in the society and be able to indulge myself. How would you look upon a man that does something that is thousands of miles away from your society's customs, something deemed ridiculous by your society, for example a barefoot man dressed in a tuxedo at a football match? I mean, it's common sense. Why the hell am I aroused by feet and am turned on by tickling? Feet are not sexual organs and tickling is not a sexual action. Tickling is merely a sensation that human skin is capable of feeling to warn the presence of a poisonous insect on the skin, and to make the man move away from the sharp tip of an object that comes in contact with his skin before that object manages to pierce the skin and hurt the insides of the body. Therefore tickling is a defense sensation and to be aroused by it makes me feel so unnatural. And feet are made for walking, I shouldn't be arouse by them and yet I am. That's another reason. i don't know where on earth can I find a tolerant society that wouldn't look upon me like an abomination once I reveal that fetish (if I want to enjoy it I will have to reveal it at once).

 

[GrimmDaWolf]

Wouldn't change anything..ever. Get that potion away from me XD

 

[PurpleStyle]

No I don't share xian ideas, quite the contrary, I'm NOT an xian, I left that religion long ago and I will never return. I am a partisan of the Nordics now and it will stay this way forever. And the cult of the Nordics is not at all restrictive, in fact it is the most acceptive cult that ever existed. It accepts all races, homosexuality, alcohol consumption, smoking etc, and encourages sex, for it is healthy and the orgasm energy is very powerful and can be used for so much more rather then mere pleasure. For example it can be shaped into a thoughtform. As for the mixing of the spirits, it's what occult thought me, the two partners open themselves to each other and become one for a brief moment.
You ask me why I require scheming if I'm so smart. It's because that's what a smart person does. He/she gives a lot of thought and calculates and analyzes everything in the slightest bit before acting, unlike the less intelligent people that jump on ahead assuming risks. If a smart man as much as smells a risk after giving a lot of thought to the certain action he then either gives up that action or tries to find a way to bypass the risks. That's what I tried for so long, either find a way to introduce tickling into a date (but if you can believe me I never tickled any girl since I discovered this fetish, I struggled against a lot) without even mentioning it as I'm ashamed to even say this word in public, and when I really must say I replace it with itch, or bothering. Like I said before it's just a thing of luck, a vanilla adult girl is almost impossible to change via classic means, and furthermore why would I modify her. If I would try to change her even through the use of charm and manipulating of feelings (which I'm good at), I wouldn't be any better than the tyrants and the puppeteers that I struggle against. Your boyfriend found it so easy to introduce it to you because you're into tickling yourself (the proof is your account on this site) and you accepted it so easy for the same reason. If you were a 100% vanilla woman or he was a 100% vanilla man then things would've been far more complicated and it would've eventually result into a split. As for myself I only know three girls so far that seem to be into tickling but I can't be 100% sure if they don't approach tickling just like a playful way to kill some time, just like guys playfully fight each other when they're bored without actually hurting each other or being enemies. And even if they are into tickling I wouldn't want them just because that (their personality doesn't fit with mine).
And when I mentioned Amsterdam I mentioned the prostitutes from the Red Light District, not the girls that have other jobs. If I would relocate there I certainly wouldn't do it to date someone but to satisfy my wildest sexual dreams with prostitutes (that's what everyone does when they go there) as my country lacks fetish prostitutes. As I said on the publicity site and newspaper I've met lot of vanilla prostitutes, but only one fetish prostitute. I don't think I would find a better opportunity to meet more fetish prostitutes anywhere else, and I don't think I will have an opportunity to tickle any other girl than a prostitute. That would be perhaps the only way I could get comfortably with it, but the thought of being forever single is still a bit hard to swallow.

You speak of this as if you were approaching a particle collider, and not a person. In dealings with people, there is always a risk. You might think some probability factor will help you find more accepting people, but it will not. Dealing with people is a social skill. It develops over time through experience, not rigorous study. There's always the risk of being shot down. Luckily, no man or woman is "100%" anything. This means that with some finesse, you can enjoy a greater margin of success with just knowing how to approach people. I guarantee a charming enough man can find an otherwise "vanilla" woman who would be more than willing to indulge his particular fetish, if it is mild enough (which I think tickling/feet is).

 

[Master_Magnus]

You speak of this as if you were approaching a particle collider, and not a person. In dealings with people, there is always a risk. You might think some probability factor will help you find more accepting people, but it will not. Dealing with people is a social skill. It develops over time through experience, not rigorous study. There's always the risk of being shot down. Luckily, no man or woman is "100%" anything. This means that with some finesse, you can enjoy a greater margin of success with just knowing how to approach people. I guarantee a charming enough man can find an otherwise "vanilla" woman who would be more than willing to indulge his particular fetish, if it is mild enough (which I think tickling/feet is).

You know what, I think you're right about this. I've been told since I was a kid that sitting on my ass and worrying about what might go wrong is worse than actually doing something wrong, because i only waste time and extract no results (of course this was regarding other things but I think it works for dating too). Maybe with a few inventive ideas I will manage to make it a pleasant experience even for a girl that was vanilla up to that point. After all I think a bit of innovation arouses most people's appetite.

 

[PurpleStyle]

Good. Also know that even in failure, you learn.

 

[ttheocjones]

I just want to say HELL NO!!!! I enjoy my fetish and wouldn't give it up. Their are people who enjoy it and I have plenty who remember and loved me for it. So for those who don't like it i say "To each it's own." Their are way worse and disgusting fetishes out there.

 

[Spiral_Bomb]

I haven't posted here yet, have I? I forget since I don't subscribe to threads.

In any case, no, and no. Not only would that change who I was, it would alter who I've met and numerous parts of my life. I ain't changing anything for the world, baby. I'm staying who I am.

 

[Tenchilada]

I would like to both look good in the society and be able to indulge myself. How would you look upon a man that does something that is thousands of miles away from your society's customs, something deemed ridiculous by your society, for example a barefoot man dressed in a tuxedo at a football match? I mean, it's common sense. Why the hell am I aroused by feet and am turned on by tickling? Feet are not sexual organs and tickling is not a sexual action. Tickling is merely a sensation that human skin is capable of feeling to warn the presence of a poisonous insect on the skin, and to make the man move away from the sharp tip of an object that comes in contact with his skin before that object manages to pierce the skin and hurt the insides of the body. Therefore tickling is a defense sensation and to be aroused by it makes me feel so unnatural. And feet are made for walking, I shouldn't be arouse by them and yet I am. That's another reason. i don't know where on earth can I find a tolerant society that wouldn't look upon me like an abomination once I reveal that fetish (if I want to enjoy it I will have to reveal it at once).

dude. shut up. now. your overanalystic and you approach things to fucking logically. i live in New Jersey America. and you know what? i love tickling, and feet. so i make female friends. and tickle them and pass it off as being playful. you dont have to say " let me tickle you because it turns me on" just do it. stop spending your time THINKING and start spending your time DOING. jesus. i've been reading your posts. where the hell do you live, 18th century england? jesus if your friends or culture or whatever the fuck is gunna treat you like an abomination (WHICH THEY WONT, you over exaggerating idiot) then so fucking be it. move. ur part of the EU, you got papers.
im 5'10 right tackle on the football team, and i wrestle. you'd think a guy like me would be into just hardcore sex. fuck that. i got lots of kinks and fetishes, i play world of warcraft. im fuckin different then what i should be. but so what. if your nordicism is gunna keep you from being who you really are. then fuck that. move on with your life, somewhere else where you can be yourself.

 

[Master_Magnus]

dude. shut up. now. your overanalystic and you approach things to fucking logically. i live in New Jersey America. and you know what? i love tickling, and feet. so i make female friends. and tickle them and pass it off as being playful. you dont have to say " let me tickle you because it turns me on" just do it. stop spending your time THINKING and start spending your time DOING. jesus. i've been reading your posts. where the hell do you live, 18th century england? jesus if your friends or culture or whatever the fuck is gunna treat you like an abomination (WHICH THEY WONT, you over exaggerating idiot) then so fucking be it. move. ur part of the EU, you got papers.
im 5'10 right tackle on the football team, and i wrestle. you'd think a guy like me would be into just hardcore sex. fuck that. i got lots of kinks and fetishes, i play world of warcraft. im fuckin different then what i should be. but so what. if your nordicism is gunna keep you from being who you really are. then fuck that. move on with your life, somewhere else where you can be yourself.

I don't appreciate to be called an idiot, and I don't know how things work in US but here people don't appreciate being touched casually. Usually guys don't have a problem with a girl touching them especially in a flirty manner, but girls get really upset if they are touched by anyone except their boyfriend or other girl.

 

[Spiral_Bomb]

I also don't get how some people say things like "you like feet, ew gross" and then those same people will eat a pussy or suck a dick(and in some cases even lick ass), with out a care as to where it's been.
I mean, Jesus, I don't like UGLY feet or nasty feet with fungus or odor and all of that shit.
But I can guarantee you that a healthy, pedicured toe is no nastier, or even less, than a sweaty fucking pussy. And no offense to pussy, I'm just sayin'...

This, very hard. Unfortunately it's not so much the physical aspect of it from people who say, "Ew gross," it's, again, the mental aspect that it's different than cock or pussy, which is absurd, as we've covered. You can get a pedicure and your feet will be like the cleanest part on you. You can clean a dick or a vag, but it's still dick and vag, and I imagine that they're somewhat harder to clean 100% than the rest of you, and unless you're coming straight from a shower to whomever you like to fuck, I also imagine that they're going to get dirtier quicker than the rest of you.

As far as socially-accepted turn-ons and the like... I dunno. I think I lean more towards the fetish-y aspect of my sexuality than let the "normal" stuff in. My fetishes are just more mentally emphasized than simpler things like groping tits and legs. I also think that pussy just looks unpleasant and would probably suck a dick sooner than eat pussy, but that's also just me. I'm familiar with dicks since I have one. Not so much the other 😛

 

[Inverse]

You know what, I think you're right about this. I've been told since I was a kid that sitting on my ass and worrying about what might go wrong is worse than actually doing something wrong, because i only waste time and extract no results (of course this was regarding other things but I think it works for dating too). Maybe with a few inventive ideas I will manage to make it a pleasant experience even for a girl that was vanilla up to that point. After all I think a bit of innovation arouses most people's appetite.

Confidence and not worrying about what people you don't even know/respect think about you is also quite the turn on, if you didn't know.

 

[likeasong1]

I gotta admit, I just might change it forever. There are times when I've felt just plain sick in the head for being turned on by it, and have considered getting therapy for it. That said, with my luck, a more socially accepted turn-on would still be something that I wouldn't be able to find a woman that would revel in it with me, and with whom I could revel outside of that turn-on.

So.... maybe

 

[Master_Magnus]

I gotta admit, I just might change it forever. There are times when I've felt just plain sick in the head for being turned on by it, and have considered getting therapy for it. That said, with my luck, a more socially accepted turn-on would still be something that I wouldn't be able to find a woman that would revel in it with me, and with whom I could revel outside of that turn-on.

So.... maybe

I think that with some meditation you can remove it. It worked for me. I almost got over it completely. Right now the sight of a perfect pair of female feet or the sight of girls tickling almost doesn't turn me on at all anymore. I also tested myself by watching some quality tickling videos and they created no lust while some time ago they used to sky-rocket my sexual lust, so I believe it's possible for you too. If you want I can tell you a few things about meditation.

 

[likeasong1]

I think that with some meditation you can remove it. It worked for me. I almost got over it completely. Right now the sight of a perfect pair of female feet or the sight of girls tickling almost doesn't turn me on at all anymore. I also tested myself by watching some quality tickling videos and they created no lust while some time ago they used to sky-rocket my sexual lust, so I believe it's possible for you too. If you want I can tell you a few things about meditation.

I dunno. I'm not really into meditation.

Like I said, there are times when I wish I wasn't into it, but y'know, it's part of who I am, and has been since at LEAST kindergarten. I'd be losing a huge part of my identity. I've been into tickling since long before I knew what "sexual" even meant. Mess with that, who knows what else you'll lose with it? I don't know if anything about your personality changed when you changed that part of you.

 

[Liam The Cat]

I have to go with keeping it. Life just wouldn't be the same without it, now would it? 😛

 

[Master_Magnus]

I dunno. I'm not really into meditation.

Like I said, there are times when I wish I wasn't into it, but y'know, it's part of who I am, and has been since at LEAST kindergarten. I'd be losing a huge part of my identity. I've been into tickling since long before I knew what "sexual" even meant. Mess with that, who knows what else you'll lose with it? I don't know if anything about your personality changed when you changed that part of you.

When you're meditating you access your subconsciousness in a conscious way. It's like sleeping and being aware. Maybe you've heard about aware dreams already, the kind of dreams that you can remember perfectly. Normally your brain accesses your subconsciousness while dreaming, but you don't have access to mod anything, unless you meditate, because otherwise the subconsciousness is like read-only memory. And if you're careful what you plant in your mind while meditating nothing bad can come out of it. Not much has changed about me except for the fact that I'm more confident especially toward girls, knowing that I actually do have a much better chance to them. Also my confidence is boosted by the fact that I am turned on a damn load by tits and asses and pussies (like it's normal, as normal as it can be) and don't get turned on by feet anymore, so I don't feel the urge to stare at feet anymore, therefore I don't have to worry about being considered a weirdo. Meditation is also a great way to relax and relieve anger, frustration, hatred obsessive ideas etc. From quite a passionate and short tempered man, I became colder, more calculated, and more relaxed. I still get enraged from time to time but not so often as I did in the past. As for the love for tickling I was totally into it, and my passion for it was reaching the sky, but the way my society looks upon it, the mean and mocking responses on forums, the disapproval toward tickling and foot fetishism as well as the problems given by the difficulty of finding a date and introduce tickling to her, the constant need of hiding because someone my find out about my fetishes as well as other problems or possible problems that did or could occur, drove me away from my extreme passion for tickling. It's true I could've put it to good use, but the problems mentioned above, especially the social ones always got in the way so in the end I decided it was time to renounce this fetish for good. First steps were not easy because as well as you I thought to myself "What the Hell? I'm cutting of a part of myself. Is that okay? Should I or should I not do it?", but in the end after all troubles and complications that occurred, I realized that this part of me must be cut off. Otherwise the only way to pursue happiness was relocating in another country, probably somewhere far away from my homeland and as I said in a previous post, I dont know who else would've accepted sex with tickling without mockery and without fear of being exposed except the prostitutes of Red Light District, the women that seen anything that can be seen about sex and cant be surprised no matter how weird the fetish is (I've always considered tickling to be really weird despite the fact I was into it myself, and almost never tickled any girl for fear of being discovered and considered weird). So in the end I decided that it's not worth to choose exile just for the sake of this fetishes (foot and tickling) and started to work towards their removing with meditation and I was pleasantly surprised to notice that it has results. Anyway if your society is more open-minded, more accepting to fetishes (my people accept any kind of sexual activity except a few fetishes, but unfortunately tickling and foot fetish are included in those few socially unaccepted fetishes) maybe it's not worth to remove it from your mind, but for me it was last resort. I didn't have any other favorable option so that's what I did. There's also the matter of my own image. It sure as Hell doesn't look good for a heavy metal kind of person to regard tickling and feet as sexual or erotic and I'm very much into heavy metal. Most of my clothes include skulls, leather and jeans. I also wear long hair and goatee and my favorite band is Sabaton. A warrior only looks good when he's into hardcore sex, fucking a girl like no tomorrow so one more reason for me to choose so. Besides you don't lose your fetish irreversibly, you can regain it through meditation so if you think you'll want it back you can meditate again and regain it (but I don't think you'll want it back once you tasted the sweet taste of vanilla and the sweeter taste of social acceptance).

 

[Master_Magnus]

I have to go with keeping it. Life just wouldn't be the same without it, now would it? 😛

If you are able to enjoy it and dont meet mockery, insults and teases then cool for you, congrats. But if you meet insults and mockery and on top of that are not able to get any girls that you can enjoy your fetish with, and you choose to keep your fetish, just cause you think you ain't gonna be whole without it anymore, then that's not very good for yourself, because forcing one's hand, especially forcing your own hand doesnt always end good.